Can you really have anything nice?
Discussion
Ok, so I'm prepared for the normal comments from PH'ers, but anyway....
I'm just starting to feel like there's not really much point in having anything nice in my life.
I have an expensive (to me) car, which no-one pays any respect at all. Constantly scratching the door sills and other interior parts when getting in or fannying around in the back of the car. When I dare to say anything, it's always "It's just a car, you're so stupid".
The same with my house. I'm far from having expensive stuff in my house, but again, expensive to me. Yet, again, people pay no respect to it. Even when asked.
I've had people stain my carpets, burn/stain/scratch my oak table, pick their feet on the sofas, sit on the arms of the sofas, etc etc. Perhaps I am a little too uptight, but the items I have in my house aren't just throwaway items, and they would cost a lot to replace. But, I've got someone staying with me at the moment who I feel doesn't actually like staying here, because I have 'rules' about the house, which I feel are fair. Now, I can deal with people leaving mess, as it's not ruining anything, and I can clean up when they leave, but people just don't give a damn when they damage something, to the point of having a go at me for being uptight about it. Or when they are a guest in my home, yet feel they can raid the fridge, take my laptop, etc, and then be rude and ignorant to me. I feel I make a big effort to make people feel welcome when they come and stay or come to visit, but 90% of the time, it's thrown back in my face.
ETA, I also hate when people bring their babies round, but change them on the floor/sofa with no changing mat!
Ok, so I know that's a bit of a long rant, but I'm actually also genuinely wondering what other people do in this situation.
I'm just starting to feel like there's not really much point in having anything nice in my life.
I have an expensive (to me) car, which no-one pays any respect at all. Constantly scratching the door sills and other interior parts when getting in or fannying around in the back of the car. When I dare to say anything, it's always "It's just a car, you're so stupid".
The same with my house. I'm far from having expensive stuff in my house, but again, expensive to me. Yet, again, people pay no respect to it. Even when asked.
I've had people stain my carpets, burn/stain/scratch my oak table, pick their feet on the sofas, sit on the arms of the sofas, etc etc. Perhaps I am a little too uptight, but the items I have in my house aren't just throwaway items, and they would cost a lot to replace. But, I've got someone staying with me at the moment who I feel doesn't actually like staying here, because I have 'rules' about the house, which I feel are fair. Now, I can deal with people leaving mess, as it's not ruining anything, and I can clean up when they leave, but people just don't give a damn when they damage something, to the point of having a go at me for being uptight about it. Or when they are a guest in my home, yet feel they can raid the fridge, take my laptop, etc, and then be rude and ignorant to me. I feel I make a big effort to make people feel welcome when they come and stay or come to visit, but 90% of the time, it's thrown back in my face.
ETA, I also hate when people bring their babies round, but change them on the floor/sofa with no changing mat!
Ok, so I know that's a bit of a long rant, but I'm actually also genuinely wondering what other people do in this situation.
Edited by Pulse on Wednesday 6th August 00:24
easy - if people don't respect me, my car or my house they get both barrels
saying that I've a look for when someone is about to do something I'm not too sure about eg the ex-mrs envy placing a can of coke on the roof of the car, I didnt need to say anything as the look on my face said it all, can of coke didn't even touch the car
saying that I've a look for when someone is about to do something I'm not too sure about eg the ex-mrs envy placing a can of coke on the roof of the car, I didnt need to say anything as the look on my face said it all, can of coke didn't even touch the car
Edited by sleep envy on Wednesday 6th August 00:26
Nope, you can't really have anything nice that someone won't try to damage/take away from you.
As has been said many times, there's 0% chance of anything improving, and things will just get worse. However, maybe you could get some better friends, or make a note to trash their homes when you visit.
As has been said many times, there's 0% chance of anything improving, and things will just get worse. However, maybe you could get some better friends, or make a note to trash their homes when you visit.
Cpn Jack Spanner said:
Nope, you can't really have anything nice that someone won't try to damage/take away from you.
As has been said many times, there's 0% chance of anything improving, and things will just get worse. However, maybe you could get some better friends, or make a note to trash their homes when you visit.
I did think that, but generally, the people who come round not giving a damn, are people who wouldn't even notice if I did the same in their house.As has been said many times, there's 0% chance of anything improving, and things will just get worse. However, maybe you could get some better friends, or make a note to trash their homes when you visit.
sleep envy said:
easy - if people do respect me, my car or my house they get both barrels
saying that I've a look for when someone is about to do something I'm not too sure about eg the ex-mrs envy placing a can of coke on the roof of the car, I didnt need to say anything as the look on my face said it all, can of coke didn't even touch the car
The form you're on tonight, you get the full saying that I've a look for when someone is about to do something I'm not too sure about eg the ex-mrs envy placing a can of coke on the roof of the car, I didnt need to say anything as the look on my face said it all, can of coke didn't even touch the car
t on something they value... or at least spit on their dinnerGoughie said:
Grow a pair and kick them out is what you should be doing - of both your car and house. The person living in your place is flat out taking the piss.
Well, I thought so. But my OH thinks it's 'fine'. I mean, I like someone to feel comfortable in my home, but I would at least appreciate them asking just once in a while, which hasn't happened, or perhaps even a slight 'thank you' for something. Has politeness gone out of the window in this day and age? I would never dream of not asking for something, and not saying thank you afterwards.Pulse said:
Actually, I've just realised that 95% of these issues arise from family members, one of which is the person staying with me at the moment. So not as easy as just changing friends, as such.
Why are they treating you so badly, is it your side of the family of your other half's?The reason could be in the answer...
vixen1700 said:
Pulse said:
Actually, I've just realised that 95% of these issues arise from family members, one of which is the person staying with me at the moment. So not as easy as just changing friends, as such.
Why are they treating you so badly, is it your side of the family of your other half's?The reason could be in the answer...
Pulse said:
Goughie said:
Grow a pair and kick them out is what you should be doing - of both your car and house. The person living in your place is flat out taking the piss.
Well, I thought so. But my OH thinks it's 'fine'. I mean, I like someone to feel comfortable in my home, but I would at least appreciate them asking just once in a while, which hasn't happened, or perhaps even a slight 'thank you' for something. Has politeness gone out of the window in this day and age? I would never dream of not asking for something, and not saying thank you afterwards.
Glassman said:
Pulse said:
Goughie said:
Grow a pair and kick them out is what you should be doing - of both your car and house. The person living in your place is flat out taking the piss.
Well, I thought so. But my OH thinks it's 'fine'. I mean, I like someone to feel comfortable in my home, but I would at least appreciate them asking just once in a while, which hasn't happened, or perhaps even a slight 'thank you' for something. Has politeness gone out of the window in this day and age? I would never dream of not asking for something, and not saying thank you afterwards.Gassing Station | The Pie & Piston Archive | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff