Advice on schools

[bossdmh]

My son is currently at our local (and really, very good) state school, but unfortunately he is not getting on as well as we had all hoped, and finds fitting in very hard to fit in. I was privately educated and so find it difficult to fully understand but realise that he would be better at a private school. I am looking for a boarding school, fairly close to East Anglia, that isn't as expensive as some of the major boarding schools in this country but is still a good bet.

Any suggestions?

Many thanks

[sparkythecat]

bossdmh said:

My son is currently at our local (and really, very good) state school, but unfortunately he is not getting on as well as we had all hoped, and finds fitting in very hard to fit in. I was privately educated and so find it difficult to fully understand but realise that he would be better at a private school. I am looking for a boarding school, fairly close to East Anglia, that isn't as expensive as some of the major boarding schools in this country but is still a good bet.

Any suggestions?

If the school is ok, why is he finding it hard to fit in?
Is he from a religious or ethnic minority group?

[bossdmh]

He says he just "isn't like any of them" and he does get on really well with the children of my friends from school who are all at public schools. He has been bullied on a couple of occasions as well.

[benzo]

Nothing really to add. What I would like to say, is please check that the pupils are happy at their school. I think thats very important. I went to an appalling school and I was not happy thereafter. I went to a brilliant one after that. Similar ££££ but one was infinitely better.

good luck.

[anonymous-user]

bossdmh said:

He says he just "isn't like any of them" and he does get on really well with the children of my friends from school who are all at public schools. He has been bullied on a couple of occasions as well.

He "isn't like any of them"? What is he then - an alien or just socially inept? He can only relate to other children if they go to public school? I've rarely heard such bks. Nip it in the bud now or he'll forever be a nancy boy.

[BJG1]

Wymondham College is a sort of state boarding school - has an excellent reputation and you only pay for the accomodation, so it's dirt cheap.

[Livid]

unrepentant said:

bossdmh said:

He says he just "isn't like any of them" and he does get on really well with the children of my friends from school who are all at public schools. He has been bullied on a couple of occasions as well.

He "isn't like any of them"? What is he then - an alien or just socially inept? He can only relate to other children if they go to public school? I've rarely heard such bks. Nip it in the bud now or he'll forever be a nancy boy.

Funny, but true, how old is he? if hes young he will grow out of it, aslong as his grades are not suffering, i would not bother doing anything about it.

[ChrisnChris]

bossdmh said:

My son is currently at our local (and really, very good) state school, but unfortunately he is not getting on as well as we had all hoped,

I blame the parents

[Gretchen]

ChrisnChris said:

bossdmh said:

My son is currently at our local (and really, very good) state school, but unfortunately he is not getting on as well as we had all hoped,

I blame the parents

i'm going to agree on this one..educate them at home if you feel a lack of confidence in the state...;)

[benzo]

ChrisnChris said:

bossdmh said:

My son is currently at our local (and really, very good) state school, but unfortunately he is not getting on as well as we had all hoped,

I blame the parents

what for?

[Gretchen]

benzo said:

ChrisnChris said:

bossdmh said:

My son is currently at our local (and really, very good) state school, but unfortunately he is not getting on as well as we had all hoped,

I blame the parents

what for?

Lack of intelligence...

[benzo]

Gretchen said:

benzo said:

ChrisnChris said:

bossdmh said:

My son is currently at our local (and really, very good) state school, but unfortunately he is not getting on as well as we had all hoped,

I blame the parents

what for?

Lack of intelligence...

If I was to be defined as an idiotic & bad parent for wanting nothing more than the best for my child then so be it.

[Zad]

I think you need to find out what the root problem/s is/are, not just the symptoms. Otherwise I feel they will almost certainly reappear wherever he goes.

[anonymous-user]

Zad said:

I think you need to find out what the root problem/s is/are, not just the symptoms. Otherwise I feel they will almost certainly reappear wherever he goes.

I hate to be the harbinger of doom but the kid's obviously a freak. You need to cut the apron strings and get him into a boot camp immediately or he'll end up driving an MX-5.

[Hollywood Wheels]

unrepentant said:

He "isn't like any of them"? What is he then - an alien or just socially inept? He can only relate to other children if they go to public school? I've rarely heard such bks. Nip it in the bud now or he'll forever be a nancy boy.

What a ridiculous situation. Keep him at the school, he may actually grow a pair of balls and learn some social skills. Or, he can go to a private school and be a fop haired chinless freak for the rest of his life.

[Mattt]

A few friends went to New Hall near Chelmsford (it was a girls school but recently opened up to boys) - it was good as a girls school, whether anything has changed I don't know, but it's a nice place with decent sports facilities.

[Technonotice]

DO NOT send your son to boarding school. Private School's are very competitive but i found(from being a student @ a boarding school) In real life, one will turn into a piece of c0ck. Send your son to a comprehensive school and he will learn the rules of life, without the poor attitude that the private school's bring

HTH

[dc53]

I've grew up in ste schools, nothing posh about mine, i had alot of differences when i moved up to secondary school, where i had more money than many of the other kids, yep, i got bullied, all for 6 months, then i thought Fck this, stood up to the lad, never any more problems... That's the only problem with todays schools. That was a while ago now. It does take time to fit into the school, just make sure he has a few friends that can relate to him etc, when he has one or two new friends itll be fine.
You need to teach your lad to fit in a bit more, even if it;s a bit hard, otherwise, as others have said, he will be a nancy boy!

[benzo]

dc53 said:

I've grew up in ste schools, nothing posh about mine, i had alot of differences when i moved up to secondary school, where i had more money than many of the other kids, yep, i got bullied, all for 6 months, then i thought Fck this, stood up to the lad, never any more problems... That's the only problem with todays schools. That was a while ago now. It does take time to fit into the school, just make sure he has a few friends that can relate to him etc, when he has one or two new friends itll be fine.
You need to teach your lad to fit in a bit more, even if it;s a bit hard, otherwise, as others have said, he will be a nancy boy!

If its a matter of bullying, then the lad should grow some knackers and smash the fker.

[dc53]

benzo said:

dc53 said:

I've grew up in ste schools, nothing posh about mine, i had alot of differences when i moved up to secondary school, where i had more money than many of the other kids, yep, i got bullied, all for 6 months, then i thought Fck this, stood up to the lad, never any more problems... That's the only problem with todays schools. That was a while ago now. It does take time to fit into the school, just make sure he has a few friends that can relate to him etc, when he has one or two new friends itll be fine.
You need to teach your lad to fit in a bit more, even if it;s a bit hard, otherwise, as others have said, he will be a nancy boy!

If its a matter of bullying, then the lad should grow some knackers and smash the fker.

worked for me