Girl beaten by father need police advice

[Wasted Bullet]

Sorry not driving related...

I have a friend that is regularly beaten by her father, she is about 22 and last night it happened again, apparently she has brusing down her arm(s), and her back hurts a lot but I don't know if she has bruses there...

In the past she has contacted the police but nothing has happened and as a result she now dosn't want to because she is scared of the consequences...

I am sure there will be some sort of previous record somwhere recording police involvment, and her friends will be able to testify to the physical signs that they have seen in the past.

The problem is that if the police get involved and he isn't sufficientlt punished it may just make things worse...

[Julian64]

surely at the age of 22 she could just leave home?

[Wasted Bullet]

There is a whole load of issues... That are all really FCUKed up... She did move out once but she couldn't afford it ended up getting into loads of debts and she got worried about her mum who was still living with him... At the moment she is paying off her debts and saving for a house...

[206xsi]

She needs to keep a diary of everything that happens between her and the father. Obviously photographic evidence of the injuries etc would also be extremely beneficial. Once she has more of this base work the Police and CPS would have to take this much more seriously.

[JMGS4]

and IMHO if she goes to hospital they'll record it and inform the police?

[Sparks]

Sorry to hear about this.

I would suggest she goes to a GP to be check over, and explain how the injuries occured. This should then set things off, and the Police should become involved. She should also file for assault, making sure she keep records (and visits the doctor every time).
Can you not have a 'quiet word' with this guy?

Sparks

[Marcos maniac]

difficult one - if she goes to the Police is it going to cause friction between her and the rest of the family? will she be prepared to follow it through?

hasnt she got a boyfriend or male mate that can 'have a little word'?

most men that hit women are bullies and cowards - when confronted by someone who is not scared of them they back down and stop. (speaks the voice of experience)

[Rushjob]

Most police Divisions will now have a Domestic Violence / Abuse unit. Rather than just speak to a beat cop / call taker who may not have all of the knowledge of support mechanisms available or just not know how to deal with these issues properly, can I suggest that this person ( or a friend...) tries to contact this unit directly.
There is more than one way to deal with such problems, not always by direct action by the Police - and if the unit based in the same building as me is anything to go by, they will be a big help.
This cannot be allowed to continue, as sadly the violence cycle will only get worse, not better.
Try to give her your support and get her to make the call.
Andy

[tonyrec]

The Police now have properly run Domestic Violence units and this is most certainly flavour of the month.
Everything is taken seriously and acted upon in a professional manner.

Police Officers in these units are mostly volunteers that have an aptitude for this type of work and you can rest assured that you will be given sound advice whichever way you want to deal with it.

Nobody should have to put up with this type of violence so my advice is dont hesitate, get in touch with the unit.

[dontlift]

Social Services will also be able to help in any abuse case either to children or adults

[gshughes]

Yep in my book any man that hits a women is a coward, and will not be able to cope with a normal bloke having a word, or a go at him. Yourself and a few mates should be able to sort him out, even if it is just verbally.

[madant69]

Wasted Bullet said:

In the past she has contacted the police but nothing has happened and as a result she now dosn't want to because she is scared of the consequences...

This is always the problem. The police can and will act, but they can't do jack unless the victim wants to.

As for all the advice re "sorting it out", if the guy hits his daughter you just KNOW he'll be on the phone bleating to the BiB the minute you've left. Result will be you lot in the and any complaint she makes will be even harder...

[m-five]

Give her something to defend herself with - i.e. Taser, pepper spray, etc. and then when he does it again she can retailiate and call the BIB while he is incapacitated . . . or shoot the fücker

[toad_oftoadhall]

tonyrec said:

Police Officers in these units are mostly volunteers that have an aptitude for this type of work and you can rest assured that you will be given sound advice whichever way you want to deal with it.

I have first hand experience of these units. [1]

They are *very* understanding and should be the first port of call. They deal with these situations enough to understand a need to avoid provoking further violence.

Visit police now! Even if you don't want to do anything they will sort the situation out!

[1] No, I don't let tottie beat me up!

[Julian64]

tonyrec said:

The Police now have properly run Domestic Violence units and this is most certainly flavour of the month. Everything is taken seriously and acted upon in a professional manner. Police Officers in these units are mostly volunteers that have an aptitude for this type of work and you can rest assured that you will be given sound advice whichever way you want to deal with it. Nobody should have to put up with this type of violence so my advice is dont hesitate, get in touch with the unit.

Very much seconded. GP plays only a supportive role here. Tends and records bruises, but better to seek out a police surgeon, make much better court appearances. Domestic violence units work well and don't ignore stuff.