Wedding advice. Car crash in motion stuff

[tinman0]

I have a friend who is getting married. But the m-i-l to be is a pain in the arse. She has rowed with them from the start about the arrangements. As far as I can tell, its virtually everything she has meddled with.

And now I know its causing friction in the couple themselves. They have tried to stand up to the witch, but got no where, and I think they may be taking it out on each other somewhat.

Anyone got any ideas?

I'm about to suggest they elope. Seriously.

[ihatesissycars]

Kick her in the foo foo.

[largerandrock]

Give me £500 and ill lock her in my garage for 6 months

Edited by largerandrock on Monday 20th October 16:49

[quotemehappy]

Civil ceremony at registry office

[mechsympathy]

quotemehappy said:

Civil ceremony at registry office

Or on a nice beach somewhere, with everyone but the MIL. That'll learn her

[Benny Saltstein]

I'd go for elopement. Stuff the mother in law. In the boot.

[pmanson]

tinman0 said:

I have a friend who is getting married. But the m-i-l to be is a pain in the arse. She has rowed with them from the start about the arrangements. As far as I can tell, its virtually everything she has meddled with.

And now I know its causing friction in the couple themselves. They have tried to stand up to the witch, but got no where, and I think they may be taking it out on each other somewhat.

Anyone got any ideas?

I'm about to suggest they elope. Seriously.

Sounds familiar....

My MIL was a right pain in the backside for months as she wanted Amy to have the fairy tale big white wedding she never had. We couldn't afford the big church do and we didn't want to borrow money to do it - we had a small register office do (40 people - all close family), the same people to the wedding breakfast, then 200 guests in the evening for a big party!

In the end she came around to our way of thinking but it caused lots of problems for a while, not least the fact that I wanted to tell her to mind her own business and fk off.

[Neil_H]

Tell her to **** off.

HTH.

[tinman0]

mechsympathy said:

quotemehappy said:

Civil ceremony at registry office

Or on a nice beach somewhere, with everyone but the MIL. That'll learn her

i am genuinely suggesting Las Vegas. Get an extra week off work, and fly out to the US and job done. Then fly off the for honeymoon.

[Mc Lovin]

Go abroad, my wife and i got married in Mauritius.

[Digga]

tinman0 said:

I have a friend who is getting married. But the m-i-l to be is a pain in the arse. She has rowed with them from the start about the arrangements. As far as I can tell, its virtually everything she has meddled with.

And now I know its causing friction in the couple themselves. They have tried to stand up to the witch, but got no where, and I think they may be taking it out on each other somewhat.

Anyone got any ideas?

I'm about to suggest they elope. Seriously.

I think you're right - the threat of elopement, or a quick (secret, no guests or family) registry office wedding is probably the only thing which might bring the old battleaxe to her senses. It's very sad, but unfortunately all too common for relations to hi-jack weddings for their own purposes, forgetting whose day it really is.

[scotal]

Who's paying for the wedding, if it's the couple they are quite within their rights to tell her to fk off, but they have to do it as a couple, and they have to be prepared to say "well fine, dont come then" and mean it.

[K7900]

tinman0 said:

elope.

That's exactly what two of my freinds done after monumental interference from both their families. They ended up booking a wedding package deal on Barbados and done that.

They got married on a tropical beach with two of the hotel staff as witnesses.

[Meeja]

tinman0 said:

mechsympathy said:

quotemehappy said:

Civil ceremony at registry office

Or on a nice beach somewhere, with everyone but the MIL. That'll learn her

i am genuinely suggesting Las Vegas. Get an extra week off work, and fly out to the US and job done. Then fly off the for honeymoon.

Be sure to send a postcard to MIL from Honeymoon destination, having not tole her you were getting married.



Dear MIL,

Having a great time. Weather fantastic. Apartment luxurious. Food awesome. Entertainment great.

By the way, we got married last Monday - the wedding list is still available at John Lewis, if you want to pop down and buy a gift, that would be lovely.

See you in a fortnight.

Tinman & Mrs Tinman

PS Could you be a love, and pop into ours and feed the fish please? Plus if you could drop off a fresh loaf and a pint of milk for the day we get back, that'd be super.

[tinman0]

scotal said:

Who's paying for the wedding, if it's the couple they are quite within their rights to tell her to fk off, but they have to do it as a couple, and they have to be prepared to say "well fine, dont come then" and mean it.

He could afford do, but for some reason he hasn't acted. They thought of that a couple of months ago, and I even suggested it, and its not like he'd be hard hit if he did either. But with 5 weeks to go I think they may have missed that possibility.

[Timmy35]

scotal said:

Who's paying for the wedding, if it's the couple they are quite within their rights to tell her to fk off, but they have to do it as a couple, and they have to be prepared to say "well fine, dont come then" and mean it.

Oh . I often wonder if interfering relatives and the resulting stress leading up to a 'big' wedding doesn't actually lay the seeds for the divorce that often follows several years later.

[paulmurr]

Elope to Las Vegas

[tinman0]

Timmy35 said:

scotal said:

Who's paying for the wedding, if it's the couple they are quite within their rights to tell her to fk off, but they have to do it as a couple, and they have to be prepared to say "well fine, dont come then" and mean it.

Oh . I often wonder if interfering relatives and the resulting stress leading up to a 'big' wedding doesn't actually lay the seeds for the divorce that often follows several years later.

And thats what I'm worried about.

Even MsT who has heard it from the brides to be side has said the same thing. Her (MsT) first marriage was out of her control and her words "she despised that for years". Probably still does in fact.

[mechsympathy]

tinman0 said:

scotal said:

Who's paying for the wedding, if it's the couple they are quite within their rights to tell her to fk off, but they have to do it as a couple, and they have to be prepared to say "well fine, dont come then" and mean it.

He could afford do, but for some reason he hasn't acted. They thought of that a couple of months ago, and I even suggested it, and its not like he'd be hard hit if he did either. But with 5 weeks to go I think they may have missed that possibility.

Whatever she's contributed, it's not worth the hassle IMO. They should hand her a cheque back with a "thank you, but this isn't needed".

[T_Pot]

tell the MIL unless she backs off totally, she will not be coming to the wedding full stop


dont see why they are letting her do this to them, grow some and stand up to her.