Grr bloody inlaws - am I right to be furious.
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Wife gets a call yesterday from her sister asking would she babysit tonight as she and husband are going out for a meal with her (and my wife's) parents and husband's parents. The reason, her parents (my in-laws) have "suggested" that it would be best if it was adults only as the pub they are going to is a fancy gastro pub (which I agree with TBH as babies and gastro pubs don't mix IMHO).
So, the plan was that my wife would go around to her parents to look after the baby, and take our dogs around so they weren't left in all night (I was supposed to be going to the pub for a few drinks). Father-in-law has stated that he doesn't think wife will cope because the dogs jump up at them when they come to our house and is worried about the dogs licking baby. He's also worried the dogs will damage their house. So basically he told her not to bring them.
The reason they jump is because despite being told to ignore the dogs when they first come through the threshold, they ALWAYS ignore this advice and make a fuss of them. They never jump up at us when we come home, or others who ignore them. The dogs have also been in their house before and never damaged anything. So basically I'm sat here with the dogs (no one was out anyway) and the wife is at her parents baby sitting.
Personally, I'm furious that we are doing them a favour so that they can have the night they want, and they are dictating the terms on which we do them a favour. Am I overreacting to this? Quite frankly I feel like saying to them the dogs are part of our family, so at times like Christmas etc we won't bother coming around any more as I'd hate for the dogs to ruin their day.
So, the plan was that my wife would go around to her parents to look after the baby, and take our dogs around so they weren't left in all night (I was supposed to be going to the pub for a few drinks). Father-in-law has stated that he doesn't think wife will cope because the dogs jump up at them when they come to our house and is worried about the dogs licking baby. He's also worried the dogs will damage their house. So basically he told her not to bring them.
The reason they jump is because despite being told to ignore the dogs when they first come through the threshold, they ALWAYS ignore this advice and make a fuss of them. They never jump up at us when we come home, or others who ignore them. The dogs have also been in their house before and never damaged anything. So basically I'm sat here with the dogs (no one was out anyway) and the wife is at her parents baby sitting.
Personally, I'm furious that we are doing them a favour so that they can have the night they want, and they are dictating the terms on which we do them a favour. Am I overreacting to this? Quite frankly I feel like saying to them the dogs are part of our family, so at times like Christmas etc we won't bother coming around any more as I'd hate for the dogs to ruin their day.
Thanks chaps - stops me going off at the FIL when I see him next. Always nice to have a rationale second opinion. I'll just gently point out my displeasure rather than getting cross.
To the poster who mentioned not having dogs in your house - I quite agree with you, you're either a dog person or your not, especially in your own home. The thing is the in-laws dog sit for two other dogs in their village and used to own a dog.
To the poster who mentioned not having dogs in your house - I quite agree with you, you're either a dog person or your not, especially in your own home. The thing is the in-laws dog sit for two other dogs in their village and used to own a dog.
s.m.h. said:
So youre having to stay in so the in-laws can go out?
Do they ever baby-sit for you?
Not on really, they should drop the baby off to your house, and collect afterwards.
Echo that - why did you not tell the outlaws to drop the sprogs off at yours rather than your mrs go over to theirs?Do they ever baby-sit for you?
Not on really, they should drop the baby off to your house, and collect afterwards.
You are right to be miffed with the outlaws, but not furious.
rhinochopig said:
Personally, I'm furious that we are doing them a favour so that they can have the night they want, and they are dictating the terms on which we do them a favour. Am I overreacting to this? Quite frankly I feel like saying to them the dogs are part of our family, so at times like Christmas etc we won't bother coming around any more as I'd hate for the dogs to ruin their day.
You're being a prat. It's their house, they don't want your dogs in it. Full stop.rhinochopig said:
To the poster who mentioned not having dogs in your house - I quite agree with you, you're either a dog person or your not, especially in your own home. The thing is the in-laws dog sit for two other dogs in their village and used to own a dog.
Maybe they like those dogs and they don't like yours (for whatever reason). I've always grown up with dogs and have a dog, but I won't have my brothers mangey beasts in my house because they don't behave, get on the furniture, beg for food and they smell!Mrs Trackside said:
rhinochopig said:
To the poster who mentioned not having dogs in your house - I quite agree with you, you're either a dog person or your not, especially in your own home. The thing is the in-laws dog sit for two other dogs in their village and used to own a dog.
Maybe they like those dogs and they don't like yours (for whatever reason). I've always grown up with dogs and have a dog, but I won't have my brothers mangey beasts in my house because they don't behave, get on the furniture, beg for food and they smell!rhinochopig said:
Mrs Trackside said:
rhinochopig said:
To the poster who mentioned not having dogs in your house - I quite agree with you, you're either a dog person or your not, especially in your own home. The thing is the in-laws dog sit for two other dogs in their village and used to own a dog.
Maybe they like those dogs and they don't like yours (for whatever reason). I've always grown up with dogs and have a dog, but I won't have my brothers mangey beasts in my house because they don't behave, get on the furniture, beg for food and they smell!Look after the baby(s)
a)in their own home?
b) your in laws house?
c) your house?
rhinochopig said:
Father-in-law has stated that he doesn't think wife will cope because the dogs jump up at them when they come to our house and is worried about the dogs licking baby. He's also worried the dogs will damage their house. So basically he told her not to bring them.
And at that point you should have told him to get a baby sitter, and then f
ked off out to the pub.Mrs Trackside said:
rhinochopig said:
Mrs Trackside said:
rhinochopig said:
To the poster who mentioned not having dogs in your house - I quite agree with you, you're either a dog person or your not, especially in your own home. The thing is the in-laws dog sit for two other dogs in their village and used to own a dog.
Maybe they like those dogs and they don't like yours (for whatever reason). I've always grown up with dogs and have a dog, but I won't have my brothers mangey beasts in my house because they don't behave, get on the furniture, beg for food and they smell!Look after the baby(s)
a)in their own home?
b) your in laws house?
c) your house?
Least if its at your own home you know where everything is if something happens.
I'd be pissed if my wifes offer of a favour ended up changing my plans.
s.m.h. said:
Mrs Trackside said:
rhinochopig said:
Mrs Trackside said:
rhinochopig said:
To the poster who mentioned not having dogs in your house - I quite agree with you, you're either a dog person or your not, especially in your own home. The thing is the in-laws dog sit for two other dogs in their village and used to own a dog.
Maybe they like those dogs and they don't like yours (for whatever reason). I've always grown up with dogs and have a dog, but I won't have my brothers mangey beasts in my house because they don't behave, get on the furniture, beg for food and they smell!Look after the baby(s)
a)in their own home?
b) your in laws house?
c) your house?
Least if its at your own home you know where everything is if something happens.
I'd be pissed if my wifes offer of a favour ended up changing my plans.
anyway, the long and the short of it is, she was asked to do a favour knowing that she couldn't take the dogs (which she may not have been able to in the sister in laws house). If she didn't like the rules, she could have said no, but she didn't, so it's only a problem for the OP because he's stuck at home looking after the dog. Which I find strange in itself, because why can't he leave the dog(s) in the house on its/their own while he goes to the pub?
rhinochopig said:
Wife gets a call yesterday from her sister asking would she babysit tonight as she and husband are going out for a meal with her (and my wife's) parents and husband's parents. The reason, her parents (my in-laws) have "suggested" that it would be best if it was adults only as the pub they are going to is a fancy gastro pub (which I agree with TBH as babies and gastro pubs don't mix IMHO).
So, the plan was that my wife would go around to her parents to look after the baby, and take our dogs around so they weren't left in all night (I was supposed to be going to the pub for a few drinks). Father-in-law has stated that he doesn't think wife will cope because the dogs jump up at them when they come to our house and is worried about the dogs licking baby. He's also worried the dogs will damage their house. So basically he told her not to bring them.
The reason they jump is because despite being told to ignore the dogs when they first come through the threshold, they ALWAYS ignore this advice and make a fuss of them. They never jump up at us when we come home, or others who ignore them. The dogs have also been in their house before and never damaged anything. So basically I'm sat here with the dogs (no one was out anyway) and the wife is at her parents baby sitting.
Personally, I'm furious that we are doing them a favour so that they can have the night they want, and they are dictating the terms on which we do them a favour. Am I overreacting to this? Quite frankly I feel like saying to them the dogs are part of our family, so at times like Christmas etc we won't bother coming around any more as I'd hate for the dogs to ruin their day.
So they want a baby sitter, but no boisterous dogs in their house? Sounds too tragic to be true. Are you sure you understood it all?So, the plan was that my wife would go around to her parents to look after the baby, and take our dogs around so they weren't left in all night (I was supposed to be going to the pub for a few drinks). Father-in-law has stated that he doesn't think wife will cope because the dogs jump up at them when they come to our house and is worried about the dogs licking baby. He's also worried the dogs will damage their house. So basically he told her not to bring them.
The reason they jump is because despite being told to ignore the dogs when they first come through the threshold, they ALWAYS ignore this advice and make a fuss of them. They never jump up at us when we come home, or others who ignore them. The dogs have also been in their house before and never damaged anything. So basically I'm sat here with the dogs (no one was out anyway) and the wife is at her parents baby sitting.
Personally, I'm furious that we are doing them a favour so that they can have the night they want, and they are dictating the terms on which we do them a favour. Am I overreacting to this? Quite frankly I feel like saying to them the dogs are part of our family, so at times like Christmas etc we won't bother coming around any more as I'd hate for the dogs to ruin their day.
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