Aging parents, entitled to care from their children?
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From time to time one hears of elderly people who receive little or no care or attention from their children, and many people think that that is a bad thing.
I'm rather on the opinion, though that care and attention is owed to one's children, rather than to one's parents.
I think it's a good thing if people are able to look after their aged parents if and when those parents need it, but I don't think that those parents are actually entitled to expect such care.
What think ye?
I'm rather on the opinion, though that care and attention is owed to one's children, rather than to one's parents.
I think it's a good thing if people are able to look after their aged parents if and when those parents need it, but I don't think that those parents are actually entitled to expect such care.
What think ye?
schmalex said:
Broccers said:
schmalex said:
no.
Rather a selfish take on life unless yours abused you etc.I feel a bit silly now
Thankfully my pretty fit young sis, 29, is totally crap at 'relationships', so she WILL look after our folks in old age.
Better that than having to sell offmy inheritance the family home to pay for their care.
And no, you can't have pics, as, as keen as she would be to meet any one of you, it may lead to events which would ruin my cunning plan.
Better that than having to sell off
And no, you can't have pics, as, as keen as she would be to meet any one of you, it may lead to events which would ruin my cunning plan.
singlecoil said:
From time to time one hears of elderly people who receive little or no care or attention from their children, and many people think that that is a bad thing.
I'm rather on the opinion, though that care and attention is owed to one's children, rather than to one's parents.
I think it's a good thing if people are able to look after their aged parents if and when those parents need it, but I don't think that those parents are actually entitled to expect such care.
What think ye?
its that precise attitude which will make sure any kids I have will get fI'm rather on the opinion, though that care and attention is owed to one's children, rather than to one's parents.
I think it's a good thing if people are able to look after their aged parents if and when those parents need it, but I don't think that those parents are actually entitled to expect such care.
What think ye?
k all in the will.stigmundfreud said:
singlecoil said:
From time to time one hears of elderly people who receive little or no care or attention from their children, and many people think that that is a bad thing.
I'm rather on the opinion, though that care and attention is owed to one's children, rather than to one's parents.
I think it's a good thing if people are able to look after their aged parents if and when those parents need it, but I don't think that those parents are actually entitled to expect such care.
What think ye?
its that precise attitude which will make sure any kids I have will get fI'm rather on the opinion, though that care and attention is owed to one's children, rather than to one's parents.
I think it's a good thing if people are able to look after their aged parents if and when those parents need it, but I don't think that those parents are actually entitled to expect such care.
What think ye?
k all in the will.Fittster said:
Yeah, stuff'em in a home. They did sod all for you.
Some homes are really good for old folk, it gives them a social side they often don't get at that age, especially if they're partner has died.It's only a case of "stuff em in there" if you pretend they don't exist afterwards.
I agree with the OP, if they "need" the care then help them, if not then don't.
anonymous said:
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I think it's probably a good thing that I don't know that Rimmerworld.And yes, I have thought about the repurcussions. I'll pay her something (not anywhere near as much as nursing fees though), it will be her job (live-in so rent can come off her 'wage') and she'll love it.
She'll get her fair share of the estate, though. I'm not an unfair person.
Parents are not entitled to expect help from their children. I would be uncomfortable receiving such help from mine.
Having said that, it was very rewarding to spend three years looking after my mother up to her death. Wouldn't have had it any other way as she was almost the perfect mother and deserved even more than I could offer.
She died two years ago...
And I'm stil knackered...
Having said that, it was very rewarding to spend three years looking after my mother up to her death. Wouldn't have had it any other way as she was almost the perfect mother and deserved even more than I could offer.
She died two years ago...
And I'm stil knackered...
singlecoil said:
stigmundfreud said:
singlecoil said:
From time to time one hears of elderly people who receive little or no care or attention from their children, and many people think that that is a bad thing.
I'm rather on the opinion, though that care and attention is owed to one's children, rather than to one's parents.
I think it's a good thing if people are able to look after their aged parents if and when those parents need it, but I don't think that those parents are actually entitled to expect such care.
What think ye?
its that precise attitude which will make sure any kids I have will get fI'm rather on the opinion, though that care and attention is owed to one's children, rather than to one's parents.
I think it's a good thing if people are able to look after their aged parents if and when those parents need it, but I don't think that those parents are actually entitled to expect such care.
What think ye?
k all in the will.Morally I think that unless your parents neglected or abused you throughout your childhood you should o what you can to support them when and if they need it. i know I would do everything I could.
However, I wouldn't say that it is their inherent right. i believet that children are entitled to the best care their parents can give and it is the parents responsibility that they are there. like I say though, I would hope that anyone who recieved care as a child from their parents would happily repay this.
However, I wouldn't say that it is their inherent right. i believet that children are entitled to the best care their parents can give and it is the parents responsibility that they are there. like I say though, I would hope that anyone who recieved care as a child from their parents would happily repay this.
I will happily and willingly take on my role as a carer for my parents. I have a Brother and 2 Sisters, and we will all do our bit.
I love them both unconditionally, and I would not view looking after them as a hardship.
I will be glad to be able to do a little bit to show my love and gratitude to them both for bringing me into the world and looking after me so well and with so much care and love.
I love them both unconditionally, and I would not view looking after them as a hardship.
I will be glad to be able to do a little bit to show my love and gratitude to them both for bringing me into the world and looking after me so well and with so much care and love.
Edited by Tazfan on Wednesday 10th December 18:14
If some of the more selfish people had a chance to visit some of the forgotten elderly people living alone all over the place with only the odd visit from the local friendly neighbourhood distraction burglar, you'd quickly change your minds.
Plus, it'll be your turn one day. What comes around, goes around. If your kids see how you treat your elderly parents, they'll treat you the same in 30-40 years.
Plus, it'll be your turn one day. What comes around, goes around. If your kids see how you treat your elderly parents, they'll treat you the same in 30-40 years.
Yoshiwaan said:
I agree with the OP, if they "need" the care then help them, if not then don't.
That isn't exactly what I was getting at. What I am saying is that although it is a good thing if children are able to care for their parents if and when they need it, that the parents aren't actually entitled to such careI hope my kids stick me in a home when the appropriate time comes, either when I am physically incapable of looking after myself or when I have gone truly and irretrievably mental. Genetics suggests that it will be the latter.
Seriously, would anyone want their kids having to give up their lives to wipe your arris and feed you mashed up veg through a straw? I will be making it entirely clear to my children that under no circumstances are they to move me in with them. Frankly I will top myself before that happens. Unfortunately if mental health turns out to be the issue, by the time you realise you need to top yourself you're focussing more on the fact that you invented the banana.
Old age. Nasty.
Seriously, would anyone want their kids having to give up their lives to wipe your arris and feed you mashed up veg through a straw? I will be making it entirely clear to my children that under no circumstances are they to move me in with them. Frankly I will top myself before that happens. Unfortunately if mental health turns out to be the issue, by the time you realise you need to top yourself you're focussing more on the fact that you invented the banana.
Old age. Nasty.
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