just finished with my mrs...

[pies1981]

Ok ph, kick me all you want, i cant feel any worse than i do at the moment...

Been going out with a girl for 8 months now. About 2-3 months ago i started to realise she wasn't for me. I decided tonight i cant be unhappy anymore i feel depressed all the time and i was taking it out on her which was not fair on her.

The reason i feel so bad? She fractured her ankle on saturday, on a night out for her birthday, she's off work for a week on crutches, also her mom and brother died within a year of each other about 2 years ago. To make things worse she lives alone, the majority of her mates have boyfriends and now i've done this, 10 days before christmas.


I'm being cruel to be kind right? Its more unfair of me keeping things going when she could be with someone who really wants to be with her?

Edited by pies1981 on Monday 15th December 21:12

[philthy]

Better sooner than later.....

[Hedders]

Until you are married with kids, You have to do the right thing for yourself IMO.

onwards and upwards!

[pies1981]

thanks lads, i await someone else apart from her to call me a C U Next Tuesday

[Skywalker]

pies1981 said:

I'm being cruel to be kind right? Its more unfair of me keeping things going when she could be with someone who really wants to be with her?

Edited by pies1981 on Monday 15th December 21:12

A hard call, but you didn't have much choice if you wanted her and you to have any chance of future happiness.

Don't beat yourself up too badly.

[LukeBird]

Is she fit? Beyond the fact she's a crippled, emotional retard is there any reason why we wouldn't hit it?







MX-5

[BOR]

Better now, than after christmas, so you don't need to buy a present.

[Ron Burgundy]

It could look bad, but we're all selfish and think about ourselves, better off earlier than later!

[Famous Graham]

Where does she live?

[pies1981]

LukeBird said:

Is she fit? Beyond the fact she's a crippled, emotional retard is there any reason why we wouldn't hit it?







MX-5

even in dark times, ph still makes you laugh with comments like this!!!

[Cooky]

Good call BOR,
you haven't bought her present yet have you? well there's always fleabay if you can't get yer money back.

BTW, is the Ex! (?/10) fit? we need pics to be able to quantify that you have done the right thing.

[MitchT]

pies1981 said:

Ok ph, kick me all you want, i cant feel any worse than i do at the moment...

Been going out with a girl for 8 months now. About 2-3 months ago i started to realise she wasn't for me. I decided tonight i cant be unhappy anymore i feel depressed all the time and i was taking it out on her which was not fair on her.

The reason i feel so bad? She fractured her ankle on saturday, on a night out for her birthday, she's off work for a week on crutches, also her mom and brother died within a year of each other about 2 years ago. To make things worse she lives alone, the majority of her mates have boyfriends and now i've done this, 10 days before christmas.


I'm being cruel to be kind right? Its more unfair of me keeping things going when she could be with someone who really wants to be with her?

Edited by pies1981 on Monday 15th December 21:12

Nice one. I'm in the same boat... well, not quite, I'm still stuck in the boat at the moment... and it's been eight years!

[MonkeyBusiness]

pies1981 said:

Been going out with a girl for 8 months now. About 2-3 months ago i started to realise she wasn't for me. I decided tonight i cant be unhappy anymore i feel depressed all the time and i was taking it out on her which was not fair on her.

Sounds like you've done the right thing.

[sleep envy]

Famous Graham said:

Where does she live?

[carinatauk]

I have a spare room. Can she cook? Damn, I'm away for the next two weeks, maybe after? But only if you don't feel guilty and return to her and get engaged [its Christams after all!]

[dxb335d]

lol. She might need some cheering up now eh.

[LukeBird]

pies1981 said:

LukeBird said:

Is she fit? Beyond the fact she's a crippled, emotional retard is there any reason why we wouldn't hit it?







MX-5

even in dark times, ph still makes you laugh with comments like this!!!

Glad to help chap!

[9.3]

I dumped one on a Christmas Eve about ten years ago. To this day I think I did the right thing.

[TheEnd]

It would hurt her far more if you found out you were staying with her out of sympathy.
But i suppose she knows that now, but the longer it goes on the worse it'd get.

You did the right thing.

[Sloppy]

Mate I did the same to my ex, she was not quite as bad off as yours but had some major issues and I think the fact I felt I was keeping her sane probably made me push her away even more. You have done the right thing....If she doesn't make you happy then it's time to move on.