Who Got the Kid?
Poll: Who Got the Kid?
Total Members Polled: 67
Discussion
Based on various things I've seen, heard and read, it's seems increasingly sad that parents often don't have an equal chance to take responsibility of their children when a relationship ends. I would be very interested to know how many guys on here have split up, but more importantly how fair the settlements were and especially who 'got the kid'. I say this in light of a recent realisation that my dad, whose second wife left him for another bloke and took the kids without a word whilst he was working overseas, for him to return to an empty house, is not allowed any contact with these kids. He sends birthday cards but his ex-wife bins them, but he still pays CSA money despite having just had a stroke. He is not allowed to have any contact with them without his ex's permission, which she won't grant.
So; just how bad is it?
So; just how bad is it?
Looks like you've missed 10 votes already - so they can't re-vote - so that will totally skew your numbers; as you don't know the facts behind them.
Plus - you've changed the titles for 1st 2 options - so you can't count those 10 votes - as you are now assuming they are all male.
Plus - you've changed the titles for 1st 2 options - so you can't count those 10 votes - as you are now assuming they are all male.
Edited by Kinky on Sunday 8th March 17:00
I cannot vote as I dont have kids,
But my mate got his 2 kids (my godsons) after his wife left, she took the kids and emptied the house whilst he was at work it all went to court and he won custody of the 2 kids and she pay maintenance to him, kids have lived with him for the last 10 years.
But my mate got his 2 kids (my godsons) after his wife left, she took the kids and emptied the house whilst he was at work it all went to court and he won custody of the 2 kids and she pay maintenance to him, kids have lived with him for the last 10 years.
Don't get me going on this one. My ex abducted the kids back to Ireland, then went into hiding. I had to get the Gardai to find them, then was told they could not tell me where they were. Months later I won the right to access, which was denied me for three year. Each breach of access technically punishable by up to a year in prison! She should be in until retirelment age!
Had to go to court again. Had to drop the charges of breach....
At least I get to see them now.
Had to go to court again. Had to drop the charges of breach....
At least I get to see them now.
Never went through the courts, but between us, we decided that it was best that our son stayed with me during the week, and with his dad at the weekends. That way his schooling was no effected and dealt with by one parent.
Been like that for nearly two years, and seems to work. Holidays can be a bit of a problem, due to my ex's working hrs but we tend to work around this.
Been like that for nearly two years, and seems to work. Holidays can be a bit of a problem, due to my ex's working hrs but we tend to work around this.
A bit complex here....
When we first split she had custody of both my sons, but I had free access to them and generally saw then nearly every day after school and they usually stayed overnight at least one night each weekend.
She then threw a big wobbly at them, and dumped them at my place late one Friday night. When she calmed down a couple of days later she apologised to them and asked them to go back - the youngest ( aged 8 at the time ) did but the eldest ( 12 ) decided to stay with me. Initially he still visited her, but got fed up with her continually pressuring him about him staying with me, and now refuses to even speak to her he hasn't seen her since last September.
I still see my youngest every day after school though
When we first split she had custody of both my sons, but I had free access to them and generally saw then nearly every day after school and they usually stayed overnight at least one night each weekend.
She then threw a big wobbly at them, and dumped them at my place late one Friday night. When she calmed down a couple of days later she apologised to them and asked them to go back - the youngest ( aged 8 at the time ) did but the eldest ( 12 ) decided to stay with me. Initially he still visited her, but got fed up with her continually pressuring him about him staying with me, and now refuses to even speak to her he hasn't seen her since last September.
I still see my youngest every day after school though
HRG said:
You've missed off a "joint custody - in agreement" option.
There is the odd good ending to separation you know
and in the real world that is what should happen.There is the odd good ending to separation you know
my children live with me and at their fathers choice(wants a weekend to himself)
they go to his (two out of five kids do) one weekend out of two.i do all the parent stuff......##
parents evenings stress and trouble every day ish.
he does fri 4pm to sun 4pm not a second more every other week.
and thats only two out of five. He does however pay maintenance even if it is below CSA rates.
i wish it could all be equal.
yes i got the family home. yes i had to buy him out, yes get no pension and he gets to keep it all.
and i cannot work full time as i have two kids with special needs... there is no fair about it.
HRG said:
mybrainhurts said:
HRG said:
You've missed off a "joint custody - in agreement" option.
There is the odd good ending to separation you know
Even that's not good for the sprogs...There is the odd good ending to separation you know
I get to see my lad most Saturdays. I am not allowed staying contact. Or him to visit my abode.
I voluntarily pay £1500+ CS and SM.
It can work well if both parties are willing to compromise, but if either isn't it can be really s
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