Overworking wifey?
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BERGS2

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2,828 posts

266 months

Wednesday 8th April 2009
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Quick straw poll:

I dropped of my mrs at her office at 830 this morning (thats a comparatively late start on recent run of play...)

I'm going to pick her up hopefully in time for her to get back for the Apprentice at 9pm.

She is a chartered accountant, and they are at 'year end'.

Now, in my time' I've done hours way in excess of these myself - and yes, the current economic climate isn't really the best, but I'm starting to get the ar$e with the demands her place is putting on her...

She is 6 months pregnant with our first, and whilst she says 'its fine', i know that before her work has had her in tears recently (not just through pregnancy mentalism) - I am concerned about her being stressed with the little one on board...

am i being unreasonable*?


  • in expecting her to be home and cook dinner by 7pm?
  • *****
sorry - should this be posted in the 'health & wellbeing' forum?



chunkymonkey71

13,129 posts

216 months

Wednesday 8th April 2009
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I can see why you're concerned. If she is 6 months pregnant she shouldnt be put under so much strain.

baby feels what she feels. (so they say)


R5GTTGAZ

7,897 posts

238 months

Wednesday 8th April 2009
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BERGS2 said:
Quick straw poll:

I dropped of my mrs at her office at 830 this morning (thats a comparatively late start on recent run of play...) Lounge topic

I'm going to pick her up hopefully in time for her to get back for the Apprentice at 9pm. TV and Film topic

She is a chartered accountant, and they are at 'year end'. Jobs topic

Now, in my time' I've done hours way in excess of these myself - and yes, the current economic climate isn't really the best, but I'm starting to get the ar$e with the demands her place is putting on her... Politics and Economics topic

She is 6 months pregnant with our first, and whilst she says 'its fine', i know that before her work has had her in tears recently (not just through pregnancy mentalism) - I am concerned about her being stressed with the little one on board... Lounge topic

am i being unreasonable*?


  • in expecting her to be home and cook dinner by 7pm?
  • *****
sorry - should this be posted in the 'health & wellbeing' forum?
Edited by R5GTTGAZ on Wednesday 8th April 20:27

NDA

23,607 posts

243 months

Wednesday 8th April 2009
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You have a wife that works?? That must be amazing, mine gave up almost the moment she met me.

She should definitely be taking it easy during pregnancy, how many hours a week is she doing? What is she contracted to do in her employment contract?


missdiane

13,993 posts

267 months

Wednesday 8th April 2009
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Overworked yes
And when you sort it out, you can be cooking dinner for 7pm whilst she puts her feet up hehe

ETA, they will take advantage til she puts her foot down, they are testing the water seeing what she will do.

Edited by missdiane on Wednesday 8th April 20:29

Coco H

4,237 posts

255 months

Wednesday 8th April 2009
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Not overworked by accountant standards - I would expect 15-20 hour days when really busy

BUT overworked when 6 months pregnant. Not good enough - she needs to tell them it is too much. She can always get her doctor to say she should be doing less.

Please get her to do something about it. I am in the same profession and something awful happened at 38 weeks to a colleague due to working 13 hour days. I am afraid no job is worth that.

PS cook your own dinner!

rich1231

17,339 posts

278 months

Wednesday 8th April 2009
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Maybe she just feels the need to be near the source of the seed

Edited by rich1231 on Wednesday 8th April 21:21

Zebrano

820 posts

233 months

Wednesday 8th April 2009
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Mine is the same also an accountant... goes to work early and is sometimes out the office by 9.30 -10pm at year end.... Just have to roll with it.

The Orphan

29,977 posts

269 months

Wednesday 8th April 2009
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Can i just confirm something?......She does cook your dinner for you when she gets home, yes?

BERGS2

Original Poster:

2,828 posts

266 months

Wednesday 8th April 2009
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The Orphan said:
Can i just confirm something?......She does cook your dinner for you when she gets home, yes?
hehe no - was only joking - i do her dinner!

skeggysteve

5,724 posts

235 months

Wednesday 8th April 2009
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OP,

How will you feel when your wife has a miscarriage?
If you are sat there, now, thinking that she should slow down, them deal with it, NOW, not after the event.

Sorry to be harsh, but I promise that you don't want to deal with a women that has lost a baby, especially when you could have done some thing about it.

............

Having said the above I wish you and your wife the very best of luck.

Jasandjules

71,412 posts

247 months

Wednesday 8th April 2009
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Has she seen a doctor to check if those hours are too long for a pregnant woman. My own opinion which is based on no medical training at all says that's just too much strain on her (and quite possibly the baby given that she is likely to be stressed).

There must be other non-pregnant people who can take the strain this time round....

The Orphan

29,977 posts

269 months

Wednesday 8th April 2009
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just spoken to my wife about this....she's a trainee midwife.

Your wife is overdoing it. she needs to rest a lot more.

Her employer should be providing facilities for her to lie down and rest etc.

Are they trying to force her out as apparently this can be common?



Edited by The Orphan on Wednesday 8th April 21:09

Jonny_

4,561 posts

225 months

Wednesday 8th April 2009
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Health and safety law is on her side, it's just a matter of whether she's willing to make use of it.

Have a read of the Health and Safety at Work Act, particularly under section 2.1... her employer clearly isn't taking "reasonable care" for her health, safety or welfare.

http://www.hse.gov.uk/legislation/hswa.pdf it's a horrible, tedious, dry old tome but it does have its uses smile

Somewhatfoolish

4,914 posts

204 months

Wednesday 8th April 2009
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rich1231 said:
Maybe she just feels the need to be nesar the source of the seed
rofl

Bushmaster

27,511 posts

297 months

Wednesday 8th April 2009
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Somewhatfoolish said:
rich1231 said:
Maybe she just feels the need to be nesar the source of the seed
rofl
rofl

12 inch legend

8,969 posts

205 months

Wednesday 8th April 2009
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rich1231 said:
Maybe she just feels the need to be near the source of the seed

Edited by rich1231 on Wednesday 8th April 21:21
Oh my god, have another!!!!

roflroflroflrofl

ali_kat

32,115 posts

239 months

Wednesday 8th April 2009
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rofl for Rich1231


Its year end, of course your wife is going to be busy, and it sounds as though she loves her job, so will be going back after the baby arrives?

Cut her some slack, its not every month, it is 1 in 12 smile

The best way you can help her is to support her, have dinner ready, do the housework, ironing, washing etc so when she is home she can rest biggrin

Bushmaster

27,511 posts

297 months

Thursday 9th April 2009
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If she is a PHer she will need all her energy to make sense of new, worsened, PH.

batfink79

2,877 posts

228 months

Thursday 9th April 2009
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rich1231 said:
Maybe she just feels the need to be near the source of the seed

Edited by rich1231 on Wednesday 8th April 21:21
Not unlike your mum last night,

She gives you her best by the way ..

HTH (In a Jeremy Kyle kind of repatriating tts to their mothers fashion)