Overworking wifey?
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Quick straw poll:
I dropped of my mrs at her office at 830 this morning (thats a comparatively late start on recent run of play...)
I'm going to pick her up hopefully in time for her to get back for the Apprentice at 9pm.
She is a chartered accountant, and they are at 'year end'.
Now, in my time' I've done hours way in excess of these myself - and yes, the current economic climate isn't really the best, but I'm starting to get the ar$e with the demands her place is putting on her...
She is 6 months pregnant with our first, and whilst she says 'its fine', i know that before her work has had her in tears recently (not just through pregnancy mentalism) - I am concerned about her being stressed with the little one on board...
am i being unreasonable*?
I dropped of my mrs at her office at 830 this morning (thats a comparatively late start on recent run of play...)
I'm going to pick her up hopefully in time for her to get back for the Apprentice at 9pm.
She is a chartered accountant, and they are at 'year end'.
Now, in my time' I've done hours way in excess of these myself - and yes, the current economic climate isn't really the best, but I'm starting to get the ar$e with the demands her place is putting on her...
She is 6 months pregnant with our first, and whilst she says 'its fine', i know that before her work has had her in tears recently (not just through pregnancy mentalism) - I am concerned about her being stressed with the little one on board...
am i being unreasonable*?
- in expecting her to be home and cook dinner by 7pm?
- *****
BERGS2 said:
Quick straw poll:
I dropped of my mrs at her office at 830 this morning (thats a comparatively late start on recent run of play...) Lounge topic
I'm going to pick her up hopefully in time for her to get back for the Apprentice at 9pm. TV and Film topic
She is a chartered accountant, and they are at 'year end'. Jobs topic
Now, in my time' I've done hours way in excess of these myself - and yes, the current economic climate isn't really the best, but I'm starting to get the ar$e with the demands her place is putting on her... Politics and Economics topic
She is 6 months pregnant with our first, and whilst she says 'its fine', i know that before her work has had her in tears recently (not just through pregnancy mentalism) - I am concerned about her being stressed with the little one on board... Lounge topic
am i being unreasonable*?
I dropped of my mrs at her office at 830 this morning (thats a comparatively late start on recent run of play...) Lounge topic
I'm going to pick her up hopefully in time for her to get back for the Apprentice at 9pm. TV and Film topic
She is a chartered accountant, and they are at 'year end'. Jobs topic
Now, in my time' I've done hours way in excess of these myself - and yes, the current economic climate isn't really the best, but I'm starting to get the ar$e with the demands her place is putting on her... Politics and Economics topic
She is 6 months pregnant with our first, and whilst she says 'its fine', i know that before her work has had her in tears recently (not just through pregnancy mentalism) - I am concerned about her being stressed with the little one on board... Lounge topic
am i being unreasonable*?
- in expecting her to be home and cook dinner by 7pm?
- *****
Edited by R5GTTGAZ on Wednesday 8th April 20:27
Not overworked by accountant standards - I would expect 15-20 hour days when really busy
BUT overworked when 6 months pregnant. Not good enough - she needs to tell them it is too much. She can always get her doctor to say she should be doing less.
Please get her to do something about it. I am in the same profession and something awful happened at 38 weeks to a colleague due to working 13 hour days. I am afraid no job is worth that.
PS cook your own dinner!
BUT overworked when 6 months pregnant. Not good enough - she needs to tell them it is too much. She can always get her doctor to say she should be doing less.
Please get her to do something about it. I am in the same profession and something awful happened at 38 weeks to a colleague due to working 13 hour days. I am afraid no job is worth that.
PS cook your own dinner!
OP,
How will you feel when your wife has a miscarriage?
If you are sat there, now, thinking that she should slow down, them deal with it, NOW, not after the event.
Sorry to be harsh, but I promise that you don't want to deal with a women that has lost a baby, especially when you could have done some thing about it.
............
Having said the above I wish you and your wife the very best of luck.
How will you feel when your wife has a miscarriage?
If you are sat there, now, thinking that she should slow down, them deal with it, NOW, not after the event.
Sorry to be harsh, but I promise that you don't want to deal with a women that has lost a baby, especially when you could have done some thing about it.
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Having said the above I wish you and your wife the very best of luck.
Has she seen a doctor to check if those hours are too long for a pregnant woman. My own opinion which is based on no medical training at all says that's just too much strain on her (and quite possibly the baby given that she is likely to be stressed).
There must be other non-pregnant people who can take the strain this time round....
There must be other non-pregnant people who can take the strain this time round....
just spoken to my wife about this....she's a trainee midwife.
Your wife is overdoing it. she needs to rest a lot more.
Her employer should be providing facilities for her to lie down and rest etc.
Are they trying to force her out as apparently this can be common?
Your wife is overdoing it. she needs to rest a lot more.
Her employer should be providing facilities for her to lie down and rest etc.
Are they trying to force her out as apparently this can be common?
Edited by The Orphan on Wednesday 8th April 21:09
Health and safety law is on her side, it's just a matter of whether she's willing to make use of it.
Have a read of the Health and Safety at Work Act, particularly under section 2.1... her employer clearly isn't taking "reasonable care" for her health, safety or welfare.
http://www.hse.gov.uk/legislation/hswa.pdf it's a horrible, tedious, dry old tome but it does have its uses
Have a read of the Health and Safety at Work Act, particularly under section 2.1... her employer clearly isn't taking "reasonable care" for her health, safety or welfare.
http://www.hse.gov.uk/legislation/hswa.pdf it's a horrible, tedious, dry old tome but it does have its uses


Its year end, of course your wife is going to be busy, and it sounds as though she loves her job, so will be going back after the baby arrives?
Cut her some slack, its not every month, it is 1 in 12

The best way you can help her is to support her, have dinner ready, do the housework, ironing, washing etc so when she is home she can rest

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