Discuss: "Dating"
Discussion
After talking to an old flame earlier and deciding to get together sometime but making no definate plans I started thinking about the "dating"
I hear about it all the time. On TV mainly but also from plenty of other sources including the old P&P...
But it seems to me to be some sort of made-up game that only happens on Match.com and in Rom' Com's. Especially these supposed rules about who pays, how many dates before you can have sex, should you walk her home, when to kiss her etc etc etc.
In the real world (mine anyway) it seems people meet in innocuous places in there everyday life, if they hit it off, they have a drink and a laugh then if it's good some sex.... After that meet again or go your seperate ways?
I have never met anyone who has done the whole Sex and the City style dating game? Does it just happen in that there London or something? Or is it more for the middle aged folk?
The closest I have ever got to a specific 'date' was after I gave a tasty neighbour a lift to work she later came to my house and asked if a fancied coming for a drink - then - beer, laughing, sex, relationship.
I really do believe that you 'know' within a few minutes of meeting someone if it's going to go anywere, so what are the multiple 'dates' for?
I'm not having a dig or trying to get approval her but was just wondering...
Do people out there do the whole "Dating" Game?
Anyway over to you guys in 'The Lounge'
I'm also expecting some random flaming for this thread as well
I hear about it all the time. On TV mainly but also from plenty of other sources including the old P&P...
But it seems to me to be some sort of made-up game that only happens on Match.com and in Rom' Com's. Especially these supposed rules about who pays, how many dates before you can have sex, should you walk her home, when to kiss her etc etc etc.
In the real world (mine anyway) it seems people meet in innocuous places in there everyday life, if they hit it off, they have a drink and a laugh then if it's good some sex.... After that meet again or go your seperate ways?
I have never met anyone who has done the whole Sex and the City style dating game? Does it just happen in that there London or something? Or is it more for the middle aged folk?
The closest I have ever got to a specific 'date' was after I gave a tasty neighbour a lift to work she later came to my house and asked if a fancied coming for a drink - then - beer, laughing, sex, relationship.
I really do believe that you 'know' within a few minutes of meeting someone if it's going to go anywere, so what are the multiple 'dates' for?
I'm not having a dig or trying to get approval her but was just wondering...
Do people out there do the whole "Dating" Game?
Anyway over to you guys in 'The Lounge'
I'm also expecting some random flaming for this thread as well
I met my girlfriend in a bar in Edinburgh. I was from Australia. She was from Manchester.
1 week later I was in Manchester and we met up again for a night of drinking. Ended up with her coming back with me to my hotel. Stayed in Manchester for a week.
3 days later I invited her to come to Paris with me. She came. Spent a week together there then she needed to get back to work.
2 weeks later I was back in Manchester for about 3 months with her.
She is now moving to Australia to see what happens on an open return ticket.
Dating? Who the hell needs that crap in their life?
1 week later I was in Manchester and we met up again for a night of drinking. Ended up with her coming back with me to my hotel. Stayed in Manchester for a week.
3 days later I invited her to come to Paris with me. She came. Spent a week together there then she needed to get back to work.
2 weeks later I was back in Manchester for about 3 months with her.
She is now moving to Australia to see what happens on an open return ticket.
Dating? Who the hell needs that crap in their life?
Colonial said:
I met my girlfriend in a bar in Edinburgh. I was from Australia. She was from Manchester.
1 week later I was in Manchester and we met up again for a night of drinking. Ended up with her coming back with me to my hotel. Stayed in Manchester for a week.
3 days later I invited her to come to Paris with me. She came. Spent a week together there then she needed to get back to work.
2 weeks later I was back in Manchester for about 3 months with her.
She is now moving to Australia to see what happens on an open return ticket.
Dating? Who the hell needs that crap in their life?
That is exactly what I mean. People meet, hit it off and get together. It's the whole 'organised' dating thing that I don't seem to see in the real world. Has the media and TV/Film industry just invented it?1 week later I was in Manchester and we met up again for a night of drinking. Ended up with her coming back with me to my hotel. Stayed in Manchester for a week.
3 days later I invited her to come to Paris with me. She came. Spent a week together there then she needed to get back to work.
2 weeks later I was back in Manchester for about 3 months with her.
She is now moving to Australia to see what happens on an open return ticket.
Dating? Who the hell needs that crap in their life?
Nobody You Know said:
That is exactly what I mean. People meet, hit it off and get together. It's the whole 'organised' dating thing that I don't seem to see in the real world. Has the media and TV/Film industry just invented it?
Meanwhile... on handbag.com, there are entire threads dedicated to 'He waited until the second date before he tried to kick my back doors in - does that mean he loves me?'You evidently know nothing about women. You might just be 'getting it on', however as far as they're concerned, 99.999999% of the time, there's an agenda.
/ sisterhood
Mobile Chicane said:
Nobody You Know said:
That is exactly what I mean. People meet, hit it off and get together. It's the whole 'organised' dating thing that I don't seem to see in the real world. Has the media and TV/Film industry just invented it?
Meanwhile... on handbag.com, there are entire threads dedicated to 'He waited until the second date before he tried to kick my back doors in - does that mean he loves me?'You evidently know nothing about women. You might just be 'getting it on', however as far as they're concerned, 99.999999% of the time, there's an agenda.
/ sisterhood
I will say this though, I indeed know nothing about women.
Colonial said:
I agree. Dating only happens when you have someone who is ok and you think you might have a chance of getting them into bed as you have no better offers.
When you meet up with someone different that you just click with just go with it
When you meet up with someone different that you just click with just go with it
'Dating' is a fallacy. Maybe in the US they go on dates like you see in films, but for the rest of us meeting a partner is a random occurrence which, when it happens, has its own flow and is not a series of stilted & forced encounters.
I think I have been on 2 dates in my entire life. None of my friends (guys or gals) seem to do it either. Neither of those dates amounted to anything, but when I look at how I ended up actually in relationships with someone, it is entirely chance meetings, usually fuelled by some drink, a couple of nights spent in each others company & then just carrying on as it seems to work
The idea of actual dating as perpetuated by Hollywood leaves me cold.
every "relationship" I'd had prior to meeting the missus had been a case of meet while pissed and wake up in the morning thinking "hmmm she still looks reasonable" The missus I did actually "date" as she lived a fair distance away and on the night we met she was sober (so utterly impervious to my slurred panty hamster petting requests.) Bizarrely actually rather enjoyed the whole dating thing and had I not married her I'd probably have tried it again rather than just jumping straight into bed.
OK the last bit is b
ks, but I did enjoy it.
OK the last bit is b
ks, but I did enjoy it.
I think the whole dating game should be taken seriously.
If I was dating I would wine them, dine them in interesting restaurants and engage them in light conversation. I would try to make them relaxed and feel valued as a person, I wouldn't want them to get the wrong idea so if they tried to make a move on me I'd simply tell them I think too much of them to take advantage.
Hopefully a meaningful friendship would flourish.
If I was dating I would wine them, dine them in interesting restaurants and engage them in light conversation. I would try to make them relaxed and feel valued as a person, I wouldn't want them to get the wrong idea so if they tried to make a move on me I'd simply tell them I think too much of them to take advantage.
Hopefully a meaningful friendship would flourish.
Sheets Tabuer said:
I think the whole dating game should be taken seriously.
If I was dating I would wine them, dine them in interesting restaurants and engage them in light conversation. I would try to make them relaxed and feel valued as a person, I wouldn't want them to get the wrong idea so if they tried to make a move on me I'd simply tell them I think too much of them to take advantage.
Hopefully a meaningful friendship would flourish.
If I was dating I would wine them, dine them in interesting restaurants and engage them in light conversation. I would try to make them relaxed and feel valued as a person, I wouldn't want them to get the wrong idea so if they tried to make a move on me I'd simply tell them I think too much of them to take advantage.
Hopefully a meaningful friendship would flourish.
hahaha nice one centurian, now seriously, what's your actual take on this?Sheets Tabuer said:
I think the whole dating game should be taken seriously.
If I was dating I would wine them, dine them in interesting restaurants and engage them in light conversation. I would try to make them relaxed and feel valued as a person, I wouldn't want them to get the wrong idea so if they tried to make a move on me I'd simply tell them I think too much of them to take advantage.
Hopefully a meaningful friendship would flourish.
funny, I'd always assumed from your name you were a bloke!If I was dating I would wine them, dine them in interesting restaurants and engage them in light conversation. I would try to make them relaxed and feel valued as a person, I wouldn't want them to get the wrong idea so if they tried to make a move on me I'd simply tell them I think too much of them to take advantage.
Hopefully a meaningful friendship would flourish.
Boozy said:
Sheets Tabuer said:
I think the whole dating game should be taken seriously.
If I was dating I would wine them, dine them in interesting restaurants and engage them in light conversation. I would try to make them relaxed and feel valued as a person, I wouldn't want them to get the wrong idea so if they tried to make a move on me I'd simply tell them I think too much of them to take advantage.
Hopefully a meaningful friendship would flourish.
If I was dating I would wine them, dine them in interesting restaurants and engage them in light conversation. I would try to make them relaxed and feel valued as a person, I wouldn't want them to get the wrong idea so if they tried to make a move on me I'd simply tell them I think too much of them to take advantage.
Hopefully a meaningful friendship would flourish.
hahaha nice one centurian, now seriously, what's your actual take on this?Then bum the f
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