Loopy ex. Do I
Poll: Loopy ex. Do I
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Well, it was always going to happen.
I guess it’s my own fault for smugly thinking that everything would somehow go swimmingly, but Ex-Lady F has managed to go completely bonkers, eventually. Yes, we accidentally ended up in bed again a while back, but that was very much at her instigation, not mine. Anyway, apart from turning up on my doorstep the day after my father went into hospital for a kidney transplant (and knowing full well that he had) and going mental on me, she has now taken to calling everyone and telling them what a sod I am. All because I started seeing someone else relatively soon after we broke up.
Of course on the flip side she’s now sending me texts that alternate between screaming rage, and tearful wistful “weren’t we great together, listen to this song as I think it says everything” headf@ckerry, which suggest she wants us to love each other for ever etc etc. Don’t even get me started on the voicemails (I neither answer the phone nor respond to the text messages). Which include messages about how I have not only let her family (who I was very close to) but how her father wants to kill me (doubtful, as he’s a rather lovely and peaceable man). Women are mental. I say this with love and understanding.
More importantly, she called my mother up and put her through all of this, at a time when my Dad’s health is seriously suspect, and my mother has enough to worry about (like her husband dying, for instance). Oh, and did the same to my sister – who thankfully b
ked her.
Throughout all of this, despite the fact that I have serious issues regarding how ex Lady F acted during the relationship, over the break-up and afterwards, I have kept schtum – apart from on here, which frankly doesn’t matter as it’s a way to vent and affects her life in no way at all.
This is disappointing as she’s destroying any chance of recovering the friendship we had before we went out (and it was a great friendship). Oh, and she’s coming across as demented, which is never cool. It all started after she found out I was seeing someone else – basically she was happy never to contact me when she thought there was a chance I’d come back to her. Now that it’s obvious that nothing of the sort will happen and in fact I have had more and better since we broke up, we have the full scale mentalness. It would appear that women only realise after they have actually lost something that they want it back (or want to kill it in its sleep).
The woman needs to understand that she broke up with me so a) gets no right as to how I live my life and b) needs to stay the f@ck away from my family (especially right now, as we have enough to deal with) and my friends.
So I have put a poll option in. Feel free to vote. As ever, haven’t put a “couldn’t give a toss” option, as that would obviously win, and that’s boring. In either case, I’m going to see her tonight to tell her to cease and desist. Apart from arming myself (which is both illegal and, I suspect, unnecessary), what precautions to take? Never had barmy ex issue before...
And before anyone says it, I took my keys back, they were registered security keys that only I could get copies of, I have a reinforced doorframe. Also the new toughened double glazing arrives at the beginning of May, and I own shotguns.
I guess it’s my own fault for smugly thinking that everything would somehow go swimmingly, but Ex-Lady F has managed to go completely bonkers, eventually. Yes, we accidentally ended up in bed again a while back, but that was very much at her instigation, not mine. Anyway, apart from turning up on my doorstep the day after my father went into hospital for a kidney transplant (and knowing full well that he had) and going mental on me, she has now taken to calling everyone and telling them what a sod I am. All because I started seeing someone else relatively soon after we broke up.
Of course on the flip side she’s now sending me texts that alternate between screaming rage, and tearful wistful “weren’t we great together, listen to this song as I think it says everything” headf@ckerry, which suggest she wants us to love each other for ever etc etc. Don’t even get me started on the voicemails (I neither answer the phone nor respond to the text messages). Which include messages about how I have not only let her family (who I was very close to) but how her father wants to kill me (doubtful, as he’s a rather lovely and peaceable man). Women are mental. I say this with love and understanding.
More importantly, she called my mother up and put her through all of this, at a time when my Dad’s health is seriously suspect, and my mother has enough to worry about (like her husband dying, for instance). Oh, and did the same to my sister – who thankfully b
ked her.Throughout all of this, despite the fact that I have serious issues regarding how ex Lady F acted during the relationship, over the break-up and afterwards, I have kept schtum – apart from on here, which frankly doesn’t matter as it’s a way to vent and affects her life in no way at all.
This is disappointing as she’s destroying any chance of recovering the friendship we had before we went out (and it was a great friendship). Oh, and she’s coming across as demented, which is never cool. It all started after she found out I was seeing someone else – basically she was happy never to contact me when she thought there was a chance I’d come back to her. Now that it’s obvious that nothing of the sort will happen and in fact I have had more and better since we broke up, we have the full scale mentalness. It would appear that women only realise after they have actually lost something that they want it back (or want to kill it in its sleep).
The woman needs to understand that she broke up with me so a) gets no right as to how I live my life and b) needs to stay the f@ck away from my family (especially right now, as we have enough to deal with) and my friends.
So I have put a poll option in. Feel free to vote. As ever, haven’t put a “couldn’t give a toss” option, as that would obviously win, and that’s boring. In either case, I’m going to see her tonight to tell her to cease and desist. Apart from arming myself (which is both illegal and, I suspect, unnecessary), what precautions to take? Never had barmy ex issue before...
And before anyone says it, I took my keys back, they were registered security keys that only I could get copies of, I have a reinforced doorframe. Also the new toughened double glazing arrives at the beginning of May, and I own shotguns.
Love it. Ignore her and then bend one into her sister when everything has settled down.
Harry Flashman said:
chunkymonkey71 said:
Bad news Flash.
you're doing the right thing by being dignified about it... but I love the idea of poking her sister!!!
So do I - she's seriously hot! Sadly, at 19, well under my cutoff age of 21; but in a couple of years...you're doing the right thing by being dignified about it... but I love the idea of poking her sister!!!
Revenge is dish best eaten cold etc etc.
elster said:
I call bks on this story.
As if any woman would get that obsessed over you, I've read the stories.
To be fair, this is the first time it's happened. Amd on great terms with every other significant ex. Who were most likely relieved to be shot of me.ks on this story.As if any woman would get that obsessed over you, I've read the stories.
This one seems different, sadly. I think she's 30, worried about having the family etc, and mourning the loss of what we could have had - we both went into the relationship thinking it was going to be marriage, kids etc etc. I'm still a bit sad that it didn't turn out this way (although significantly less so now that all this rubbish has been happening - can you imagine what would have happened had we ever got divorced? *shudder*)
Harry Flashman said:
elster said:
I call bks on this story.
As if any woman would get that obsessed over you, I've read the stories.
To be fair, this is the first time it's happened. Amd on great terms with every other significant ex. Who were most likely relieved to be shot of me.ks on this story.As if any woman would get that obsessed over you, I've read the stories.
This one seems different, sadly. I think she's 30, worried about having the family etc, and mourning the loss of what we could have had - we both went into the relationship thinking it was going to be marriage, kids etc etc. I'm still a bit sad that it didn't turn out this way (although significantly less so now that all this rubbish has been happening - can you imagine what would have happened had we ever got divorced? *shudder*)
Justayellowbadge said:
Harry Flashman said:
I think she's 30
I can see why she dumped you.This issue isn't whether I deserved to get canned (I did - couldn't commit, was hopelessly badly behaved etc etc), but whether having done the deed and professed that I still meant lots to her and she wanted to be friends, she should stop acting like a crazy person and badmouthing me to everyone she can.
Harry Flashman said:
Yes, we accidentally ended up in bed again a while back, but that was very much at her instigation, not mine.
That's where you went wrong. I am the type of person who says "you don't just fall into bed". So even if she instigated it, you still did it. As a result you are the source, founder and instrumental part to your own downfall. Stop shagging women and think - says me, who has successfully managed to annoy my fair share..My advice (from someone who is ill-experienced to actually give advice here anyway) - keep quiet. Do the gentleman bit. No need to prolong or out-shout her. Let her get it out of her system. DONT SHAG HER and forget it. Stuff happens and we need to deal with it. But best thing is to just dont drop to the same level. Keep your dignity and move on. Plenty more fish as they say.
I'd say it has to go like this....
1) Strike fast, and poke her fit sister
2) Strike first, smear her cushions with faeces
3) Tell her parents that she's a loon
4) Then tell absolutely everyone that she's a loon
5) Run, run like the wind, taking any bunnies or other favourite pets with you!
6) Ignore with dignity (from a safe and secure location)
7) Don't get really, really angry, she's not worth it.
1) Strike fast, and poke her fit sister
2) Strike first, smear her cushions with faeces
3) Tell her parents that she's a loon
4) Then tell absolutely everyone that she's a loon
5) Run, run like the wind, taking any bunnies or other favourite pets with you!
6) Ignore with dignity (from a safe and secure location)
7) Don't get really, really angry, she's not worth it.
Oh, and there is no danger of our sleeping together again.
1) I value my testicles
2) there is a new post ex Lady F, post The Spaniard, girl on the scene at the moment. Who both seems sane and lives outside London, leaving my weekdays completely free for London-based dating. So no ex sex on the agenda.
1) I value my testicles
2) there is a new post ex Lady F, post The Spaniard, girl on the scene at the moment. Who both seems sane and lives outside London, leaving my weekdays completely free for London-based dating. So no ex sex on the agenda.
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