People pretending that they haven't seen you
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Maybe it's just the area I live in (although I think I've come across this elsewhere)-
I'm outside maybe walking along my street and I see someone I sort of know, knodding acquaintance type of person. So as I walk along I look directly at them, getting ready to make eye contact. followed by maybe a nod, or a 'good morning' or even a short conversation, and then I realise that is isn't going to happen because they are looking the other way. Now this doesn't happen when we are walking directly towards eachother, some kind of mutual ackowledgement is inevitable then, but it often happens when both parties are sufficiently close to eachother for it to be more or less certain that they are aware that I am there.
Does this happen to anybody else, or maybe it's just me (or the area I livein)? I can understand people not wanting to get involved in a banal conversation, but some kind of nod, smile, grunt or whatever isn't too much to ask, shirley?
I'm outside maybe walking along my street and I see someone I sort of know, knodding acquaintance type of person. So as I walk along I look directly at them, getting ready to make eye contact. followed by maybe a nod, or a 'good morning' or even a short conversation, and then I realise that is isn't going to happen because they are looking the other way. Now this doesn't happen when we are walking directly towards eachother, some kind of mutual ackowledgement is inevitable then, but it often happens when both parties are sufficiently close to eachother for it to be more or less certain that they are aware that I am there.
Does this happen to anybody else, or maybe it's just me (or the area I livein)? I can understand people not wanting to get involved in a banal conversation, but some kind of nod, smile, grunt or whatever isn't too much to ask, shirley?
No just you.
When I walk around your area everyone waves and has a morning chat.
In the areas I have lived in I have always talked to the people in my village and said hello and waved when passing in cars.
However when i lived for a year in York I used to talk to the other people in the area, my housemate thought I was weird.
When I walk around your area everyone waves and has a morning chat.
In the areas I have lived in I have always talked to the people in my village and said hello and waved when passing in cars.
However when i lived for a year in York I used to talk to the other people in the area, my housemate thought I was weird.
elster said:
No just you.
When I walk around your area everyone waves and has a morning chat.
Actually that reassures me, I wouldn't want to think I live in an area full of ignorant tWhen I walk around your area everyone waves and has a morning chat.
ts, feel much better knowing they've got a reason for ignoring me.Edited by singlecoil on Sunday 14th June 11:55
singlecoil said:
elster said:
No just you.
When I walk around your area everyone waves and has a morning chat.
Actually that reassures me, I wouldn't want to think I live in an area full of ignorant tWhen I walk around your area everyone waves and has a morning chat.
ts, feel much better knowing they've got a reason for ignoring me.Edited by singlecoil on Sunday 14th June 11:55
You're probably one of those people that nobody likes.
That's the only reason I can think of. If I see someone I want to speak to in the street I'll make an effort to say hi, but if I see someone I don't like or can't be arsed with I pretend I haven't clocked them.
I've never had anyone pretending they haven't seen me either.
That's the only reason I can think of. If I see someone I want to speak to in the street I'll make an effort to say hi, but if I see someone I don't like or can't be arsed with I pretend I haven't clocked them.
I've never had anyone pretending they haven't seen me either.
snowy slopes said:
Believe me, this isnt just restricted to the south east, or york. Most of the people i work with dont say good morning, and wont talk during the day. apparently its due to the fact im a............., tell you what, insert your own description here!
That used to happen where I used to work, too... I'd always come in and announce a generic 'morning' as I walked to my desk. Some people would look-up and grunt an acknowledgment, some would ignore it. I noticed there were quite a few people though that would turn-up and not say a damn word! My boss, for instance, was classic for turning-up without saying 'morning'. He would also leave without saying anything either. He would, however, occasionally spark-up social conversation during the day. He was one of those unpredictable types.People, eh?
ian_uk1975 said:
snowy slopes said:
Believe me, this isnt just restricted to the south east, or york. Most of the people i work with dont say good morning, and wont talk during the day. apparently its due to the fact im a............., tell you what, insert your own description here!
That used to happen where I used to work, too... I'd always come in and announce a generic 'morning' as I walked to my desk. Some people would look-up and grunt an acknowledgment, some would ignore it. I noticed there were quite a few people though that would turn-up and not say a damn word! My boss, for instance, was classic for turning-up without saying 'morning'. He would also leave without saying anything either. He would, however, occasionally spark-up social conversation during the day. He was one of those unpredictable types.People, eh?
ds. It was either becuase they worked for the council or they were from Ipswich.Never having met you, it's difficult to say whether people deliberately ignore you. Perhaps they're just not particularly sociable. If that's not the case, maybe it's something to do with you. They may find you unplesant or boring.
I occasionally pretend I haven't seen people but generally it's when I'm in a hurry and the person in question is one of those who is incapable of simply saying hello and insists on talking at you for 30 minutes in tiresome detail about whatever inconsequential bee they have in their bonnet that particular day.
I occasionally pretend I haven't seen people but generally it's when I'm in a hurry and the person in question is one of those who is incapable of simply saying hello and insists on talking at you for 30 minutes in tiresome detail about whatever inconsequential bee they have in their bonnet that particular day.
Edited by Risotto on Sunday 14th June 17:42
Well, I've got a couple of workable theories.
One is that there are an awful lot of people who are just rude, but the theory I like better is that the blokes are jealous, and the women dislike because although they fancy me rotten, they know they can never have me. Which is daft, really, because quite a few of them could, if only they asked
One is that there are an awful lot of people who are just rude, but the theory I like better is that the blokes are jealous, and the women dislike because although they fancy me rotten, they know they can never have me. Which is daft, really, because quite a few of them could, if only they asked
singlecoil said:
Well, I've got a couple of workable theories.
One is that there are an awful lot of people who are just rude, but the theory I like better is that the blokes are jealous, and the women dislike because although they fancy me rotten, they know they can never have me. Which is daft, really, because quite a few of them could, if only they asked
Strange, because I'm of the same mindset and men and women alike fall over themselves to try and talk to me, either by starting a matey conversation or trying to gain my affection. Such is the pain of being an alpha male.One is that there are an awful lot of people who are just rude, but the theory I like better is that the blokes are jealous, and the women dislike because although they fancy me rotten, they know they can never have me. Which is daft, really, because quite a few of them could, if only they asked
So I don't think it's that, sorry mate.
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