Have you been put off marriage by divorce settlements ?
Poll: Have you been put off marriage by divorce settlements ?
Total Members Polled: 151
Discussion
Dupont666 said:
if you have trust in the relationship what is the issue,
HO HO HO...I had trust for a very long time.
Problem with divorce settlements is the legal system, seemingly being in favour of the woman.
Another difficulty is finding a good lawyer. I had to pick mine from Yellow Pages in a hurry, but the ex had carefully researched the market. I was royally stuffed because her lawyer was good and mine was crap.
I wouldn't survive another one financially, so another relationship is out of the question.
Given how many marriages end in divorce, either most getting married are morons, or it's not possible to tell in advance (at least reliably) how likely your own marriage is to survive. Thus, if you take a dispassionate view of it, you are a complete f
king idiot to get married if you don't relish the idea of an unpleasant divorce 
king idiot to get married if you don't relish the idea of an unpleasant divorce Yes, and that is the way it will continue. Religious reasons went out of the window a long time ago for the populous, and there is less and less of a social stigma for not being married.
Of course every girl has a book in a shoebox somewhere wih the whole bloody thing planned out years in advance, but that's not important.
Of course every girl has a book in a shoebox somewhere wih the whole bloody thing planned out years in advance, but that's not important.
Never getting married or having any more children, these were to two conditions I gave my GF when she asked to move in with me.
Had a very messy, thankfully unwed (close escape we were engaged), relationship end and a very very very messy custody/residence battle.
Learned my lesson good and proper with that one.
However, having said all that, if she was a multi squillionaire I probably wouldnt have an issue with marriage, I'd like to think I wouldnt get the hump if the tables were turned.
Only thing I think I'm missing is having my own stag do!
Had a very messy, thankfully unwed (close escape we were engaged), relationship end and a very very very messy custody/residence battle.
Learned my lesson good and proper with that one.
However, having said all that, if she was a multi squillionaire I probably wouldnt have an issue with marriage, I'd like to think I wouldnt get the hump if the tables were turned.
Only thing I think I'm missing is having my own stag do!
Somewhatfoolish said:
Given how many marriages end in divorce, either most getting married are morons, or it's not possible to tell in advance (at least reliably) how likely your own marriage is to survive.
I don't think it's either/or, I think both statements are true.A momentary lapse of reason that binds a life for life...
I don't believe in the whole idea, and furthermore think that the different married vs. single tax allowances should be scrapped so there is less incentive to do it.
sneijder said:
Yes, and that is the way it will continue. Religious reasons went out of the window a long time ago for the populous, and there is less and less of a social stigma for not being married.
Of course every girl has a book in a shoebox somewhere wih the whole bloody thing planned out years in advance, but that's not important.
Not every girl, I assure you, some of us are as wary about being shafted financially as you are - and will continue to eschew marriage until pre-nups are binding.Of course every girl has a book in a shoebox somewhere wih the whole bloody thing planned out years in advance, but that's not important.
Lord Pikey said:
LoveMachine said:
I am considering how to put my assets out of reach.
Stuff we both contribute to, fine. I'll even give her more, but the stuff I had/was due before, not a penny, come hell or high water.
How do you do that legally ?Stuff we both contribute to, fine. I'll even give her more, but the stuff I had/was due before, not a penny, come hell or high water.
Absolutely nothing illegal about owning a pig farm.
Feeding divorce lawyers to your pigs, I grant you, might..I say might...be straying into the realms of illegality, but that all depends on how hungry the pigs are, and whether the divorce lawyer tripped into the pig pen because of an untied shoe lace, or was thrown into it screaming, having been shot in the kneecaps with the captive bolt gun you reasonably expected to have, being a pig farmer.
Just an idea, you understand.
eharding said:
Lord Pikey said:
LoveMachine said:
I am considering how to put my assets out of reach.
Stuff we both contribute to, fine. I'll even give her more, but the stuff I had/was due before, not a penny, come hell or high water.
How do you do that legally ?Stuff we both contribute to, fine. I'll even give her more, but the stuff I had/was due before, not a penny, come hell or high water.
Absolutely nothing illegal about owning a pig farm.
Feeding divorce lawyers to your pigs, I grant you, might..I say might...be straying into the realms of illegality, but that all depends on how hungry the pigs are, and whether the divorce lawyer tripped into the pig pen because of an untied shoe lace, or was thrown into it screaming, having been shot in the kneecaps with the captive bolt gun you reasonably expected to have, being a pig farmer.
Just an idea, you understand.
ds, I am looking just for pigs 
you can hide the asset but its harder these days, you can trust it to someone like your kids but then it isnt really yours. they can still claim including on your pension which i think is a shocker still.
as the man says the only real way to go is a prenup.
odd bit is marriage with prenup can be safer than no marriage at all. dont think you are safe by not marrying the bird. as soon as she moves in your on dodgy ground.
the only safe way is the cycle method. every three years club it and then under the patio. new one.
as the man says the only real way to go is a prenup.
odd bit is marriage with prenup can be safer than no marriage at all. dont think you are safe by not marrying the bird. as soon as she moves in your on dodgy ground.
the only safe way is the cycle method. every three years club it and then under the patio. new one.
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