Women folk....

[Beefmeister]

Quite a common thing, this, but i thought i'd vent my spleen in the direction of PH for once...

18:30

I arrive home from work. The O/H is walking around with a face like a smacked arse, huffing and puffing a lot. It starts to grate a little.

20:00

Me: Hun, you okay?
O/H: Yeah i'm fine.
Me: Are you sure? You seem to be a bit pissed off about something.
O/H: Yeah honestly, i'm fine.
Me: Well, okay then. But you're sure you're okay?
O/H: Yes, i'm fine <large sigh>

23:30 (asleep)

O/H: Are you asleep?



Oh for fu..... Aaaaarrrrghhhh!!!!!

Edited by Beefmeister on Wednesday 8th July 14:05

[Legend83]

The old 'get it of her chest at bedtime' routine.

Particularly galling when a funny episode of Family Guy is on.

[eddie1980]

There is nothing worse then the "no seriously I am fine" and then having to deal with it at an inappropriate moment.

[Los Palmas 7]

Beefmeister said:

20:00

Me: Hun, you okay?
O/H: Yeah i'm fine.
Me: Are you sure? You seem to be a bit pissed off about something.

And that, my friend, is where you went wrong.

This is how you do it:

Bloke: You OK, darling?

Huffy OH: Yes, I'm fine.

Bloke: Good. What's for dinner?


If they say they're fine when you've asked them if they're fine, then they're fine. If they are in any way unfine, they should take that opportunity to let you know. If they don't, then carry on as normal. They can't say you didn't ask, and if they want to play stupid mind games, then that's their look-out.

Don't rise to the bait.

[lazyitus]

Los Palmas 7 said:

Beefmeister said:

20:00

Me: Hun, you okay?
O/H: Yeah i'm fine.
Me: Are you sure? You seem to be a bit pissed off about something.

And that, my friend, is where you went wrong.

This is how you do it:

Bloke: You OK, darling?

Huffy OH: Yes, I'm fine.

Bloke: Good. What's for dinner?

[Zod]

Hmm, you are forgetting the "that's the whole problem with our relationship: you should know I'm not fine even if I say I am. It's obvious why I'm not fine."

[Neil_H]

Must have been something in the air last night as I got huffiness and slammed doors for no reason!

Maybe it's the weather.

[Steve748]

something like this for me

I come home from work and feeling OK...

'Hiya gorgeous' give her a kiss, 'how are you'

'I'm fine, what are you after'

next day

I come home from work and feeling OK...

'hiya how are you, give her a kiss..

'I'm OK what's up with you'

[Justayellowbadge]

They are all mental, without exception.

There are varying magnitudes of lunacy, given, but they are all batst box of frogs hatstand in at least one way.

I'm sure they'd say the same about us. Which goes some way to proving my point.

[G_T]

Steve748 said:

something like this for me

I come home from work and feeling OK...

'Hiya gorgeous' give her a kiss, 'how are you'

'I'm fine, what are you after'

next day

I come home from work and feeling OK...

'hiya how are you, give her a kiss..

'I'm OK what's up with youWhy are you being so nice What have you done?!'

Edited to reflect 7 days a month of my life.

[Cara Van Man]

If there is one thing to send my wife into a totally uncontrolled frenzy of anger when we are arguing, it's for me to say "shut up, you hormonal lunatic".

This presses all the correct buttons, without fail, time after time.

I now try to keep it for special occasions.

women, every single one, are mental. No ifs, no buts.

Mental.

[Nolar Dog]

Los Palmas 7 said:

Beefmeister said:

20:00

Me: Hun, you okay?
O/H: Yeah i'm fine.
Me: Are you sure? You seem to be a bit pissed off about something.

And that, my friend, is where you went wrong.

This is how you do it:

Bloke: You OK, darling?

Huffy OH: Yes, I'm fine.

Bloke: Good. What would you like for dinner?


If they say they're fine when you've asked them if they're fine, then they're fine. If they are in any way unfine, they should take that opportunity to let you know.

Don't rise to the bait.

Edited slightly for accuracy but in the main I totally agree with "your way"

If someone asked me "What was wrong?" or "Are you ok?" I would tell them truthfully and exactly what was wrong, assuming it's something I wanted to discuss.

Otherwise I'd just stay quiet.

As perfectly demonstrated by text message to someone yesterday as I was in a terrible mood.


Edited fir spellink

Edited by Nolar Dog on Wednesday 8th July 14:29

[Los Palmas 7]

Justayellowbadge said:

They are all mental, without exception.

So very true.

Justayellowbadge said:

I'm sure they'd say the same about us. Which goes some way to proving my point.

Indeed it does.

We are simple, one-dimensional creatures. When we say "I'm fine", what we actually mean is "I'm fine", because we're fine.

When they say "I'm fine", what they actually mean is "I am pretty much as far from fine as it is physically possible to get due to some minute, insignificant detail, but I'm not going to give you any clues as to why I am so far from fine, as that would give you an unfair advantage. You have to somehow use the non-existent clues that I am clearly giving out to work out exactly why I'm not fine and then use every imaginative bone in your body to somehow make things up to me with flowers and chocolates and st; because, obviously, it's you that are in the wrong."

Well, bks to that. If they don't tell you what's wrong, then there's nothing wrong.

[paulmurr]

[Nicol@]

I am fine never means 'I am happy'.
but 'something is on my mind that is probably making me angry or unhappy. I might tell you later (and it's probably you)'

[carmadgaz]

Fine means

fked up
Insecure
Neurotic
Exausted.

At least according to mum and her friend.

HTH

[HRG.]

It's easier being a bloke, we only have three emotions. Hungry, horny and sleepy.

Feed me, fk me then let me go to sleep. Bish bash bosh, job's a good 'un

[Los Palmas 7]

Nolar Dog said:

If someone asked me "What was wrong?" or "Are you ok?" I would tell them truthfully and exactly what was wrong, assuming it's something I wanted to discuss.

Which, IMHO, makes you the perfect woman.

Admittedly, your history may put you at an unfair advantage when it comes to male/female interfaces

[Zod]

My wife had our second child four months ago. She is still breastfeeding, but she told me on Saturday morning that her periods had just started again. Amazingly I got away with saying that I'd guessed at much from her irrational and unreasonable behaviour during the week. Phew!

[isee]

I absolutely hate it when she saves it up for bedtime, after I have already asked what is wrong during the day (particlarly because i have a very early start and she is unemployed).
Mine also suffers from intermittent short term memory loss and genuinely argues that I have never asked her if she was ok (and what's worse she genuinely at that point believes that i hadn't).

So when the "talk" and "sighs" start after I have already switched the lights off. I just tell her "fk off. not interested anymore".

The last bit has actually cost me even more sleep loss at the beginning and I would sometimes be afraid she'd chop my bks off while i am asleep, but the trick is consistency: do it every time and say nothing, I repeat NOTHING, after the "not interested" bit, she now seizes the opportunity to share with me when i ask.

• Waits for "chauvenist" flaming*