Breaking up advice...

[cacatous]

I am looking to call time on a 3.5 yr relationship. She is at Uni and doing her exams so I can't do it right now. She finishes this week and I want to know the general consensus on whether I should break up straight away or wait until after Christmas?

Obviously I don't want to give her a sh1t Christmas but then I don't want to spend Christmas almost lying to her about my happiness and then breaking up.

So come on, what should I do and when?

[DJFish]

Erm...ditch her now, don't live a lie, and take advantage of all the bevvied up xmas totty!

These things always happen over the festive season, met my other half at Christmas and two of my mates are separating in Jan!

Good luck fella

Dave

[ocean1]

Whats her phone number? Only joking do it now, if thats what you really want!

[Lois]

Breaking up at crimbo isn't good. Depends how she'd take it. if you think she'd sit at home muling over itid wait, if you think she'd go out and celebrate then do it before!!!

[Pies]

3.5 years.If think i might try to talk to your partner about why the relationship is failing,but after xmas

[Wacky Racer]

If you have any feelings for the young lass, leave it till a few weeks after Christmas, then let her down gently........

If not, never put off till tomorrow, what you can do today....

>> Edited by Wacky Racer on Sunday 14th December 21:22

[deltaf]

Why are looking to break up?

[Mrs Fish]

Before or after it is going to be hard on her if she is not expecting it. Not sure what I would rather, its a difficult decision you have there.

[ocean1]

I should be so lucky as to have this kind of decision to make!

[deltaf]

ocean1 said:

I should be so lucky as to have this kind of decision to make!

Been there done that (twice) well, rather been on the recieving end twice i should say!
Not to worry....

[jessica]

after her exams def............,and u need to speak to her about your feelings after that.if u not happy then u have to tel her.Too many people stay in unhappy relationships. do it as soon as u can after exams.no point in living a lie!!!oh and GOOD LUCK

[Balmoral Green]

If it is going to be hard anyway, and emotional, I would focus on when would be practical instead, better to get exams and stuff out of the way 1st. Breaking up is one thing, screwing up her exam potential is another. Why does it have to be a snap final decision anyway? Cant it just fizzle out over time, why the bombshell?

[wedg1e]

jessica said:

Too many people stay in unhappy relationships.

I can hear that radio programme now...

[chim_girl]

Whatever you decide to do it isn't going to be nice, however the least you can do is let her get her exams out of the way. Perhaps breaking up at Christmas will allow her to spend time at home getting some sympathy from Mum.

[Lois]

You could always have a relationship talk and try and get her to dump you! lol

[simpo two]

Let her finish the exams - don't jeopardise her results.

[greeny]

cacatous said:

I am looking to call time on a 3.5 yr relationship. She is at Uni and doing her exams so I can't do it right now. She finishes this week and I want to know the general consensus on whether I should break up straight away or wait until after Christmas? Obviously I don't want to give her a sh1t Christmas but then I don't want to spend Christmas almost lying to her about my happiness and then breaking up. So come on, what should I do and when?

Just perhaps maybe, coz she's been doing her exams, she might have been a bit pre-occupied, and not been her usual self. Maybe when the exams are out of the way, she will return to her old self, you know the one

[Lois]

genius some may say (but I can still drive )

[dragstar]

break up with her at 5 to midnight on new years eve.

listen to her give you crap for 5 minutes, then say:

"get over it, it was so last year" in a dodgy american-teen-stylee voice

[cacatous]

Well that was quite a response! I have no intention of breaking up during her exams, I'm not that much of a bastage...

She finishes for Christmas on Wednesday so I want to do it as soon as possible so she has a month off Uni to try and get over it before she goes back to Uni.

I have been having doubts for some time and even tried to break up once before but the 'good times syndrome' got the better of me....