Proposing during a friends wedding holiday?

[Distant]

So I'm considering popping the question to my other half, and as we're going away somewhere exotic for a mates wedding soon I thought this would be the ideal time to do it (Think deserted white sandy beeches). Only thing is, I don't want to piss on his chips and divert any attention away from him and his missus during their special occasion.

I was thinking of asking him if he would mind, but don't want to put him in a situation where he feels like he can't say no. So whats the thoughts of the PH massive?

Opinions please...

[Eddw86]

Kind of pissing on his bonfire to be honest. Let them have their week of attention & wonder- you'll get your chance. Or do it on the last morning at sunrise or something like that...

[xrv]

Don't do it. Nobody likes an attention we.

[AntwerpMan]

Just dont do it full stop or you will only find yourself in a few years time comming on here and telling other people not to do it....

[Jamelio]

You could always do it and just keep it between the two of you until you got home, if its possible for a woman to keep a secret for that long that is...(the last night suggestion is sounding a good idea)

[GTIR]

yes i agree with the other ph early morning risers, dont do it unless she can keep it quite (unlikely) or do it the last night, after telling your ex mate.

Its all very emotional, sniff, good for you.

[Merlot]

No, don't do it.

[Hairspray]

Mistake.

[Thatch]

Are you the best man?

If so, do it as part of your speech.

It will really get the party started, I know I would like to be there to witness!

[Jasandjules]

1. I can't see how your mate COULD say no without seeming to be a bit of a wa***r
2. I can't see how your mate's wife-to-be would want you to do this and basically steal her thunder (women can be funny like that).

Do it the weekend after you return from the holiday (and once done and the ring accepted, you can tell your now fiance that you would have proposed on the Wedding holiday but for the fact that you didn't want to impose on their "special time" for perhaps more browny points?).

[Nolar Dog]

Send her a link to this thread

Job done.

[Poledriver]

If you do it while yo're at your mates wedding bash:-
a) Your mate and his missus will never talk to you again for taking the attention away from them.
b) Your OH will not think it's genuine, it will seem like you had a brainwave whilst having necked too much Bolly!

Far better to wait until you return, give it a week, take her for a lovely candlelit dinner then ask her if she enjoyed the wedding and how would she like to do the same!

HTH

[Mexico.]

Nolar Dog said:

Send her a link to this thread

Job done.

[cazzer]

Ask her now.
Have a double wedding with yer mate and his missus.
Hey, yer going out there anyway.
The room is already booked.
Think of the cost savings

[DeanVRS]

I'd say do it on the last evening before you fly home...deserted sunset etc

but warn/ask your mate first.

[raf_gti]

Why not just ask your mate and his fiance for their opinion?

I'd say once all the wedding formalities are over with then you should be able to get away with it.

eg "as we've all had such a fantastic day I've one thing left to say....will you marry me?"

or summat

good luck

[Distant]

Jamelio said:

You could always do it and just keep it between the two of you until you got home, if its possible for a woman to keep a secret for that long that is...(the last night suggestion is sounding a good idea)

There is absolutely no way on earth she would be able to keep it quiet, so thats out of the question. After the wedding itself we're all (the bride & groom and a few friends) going to an island for a week, kind of taking your friends with you on honeymoon. If I did it on the last night/morning on the island it would be almost a week after the wedding, but we're still there as part of the wedding celebrations, so is that still not on?

Quite like the idea of waiting til we're back and doing the "lets have a wedding of our own" line. Hmmmm.....

[cs02rm0]

Stay a little longer than everyone else maybe? I wouldn't do it during their time.

[Distant]

raf_gti said:

Why not just ask your mate and his fiance for their opinion?

I'd say once all the wedding formalities are over with then you should be able to get away with it.

eg "as we've all had such a fantastic day I've one thing left to say....will you marry me?"

or summat

good luck

I wouldn't want to do it on the day itself, that wouldn't feel right. Just on the holiday that we're going on as part of the wedding celebrations. Plus I intend on being so drunk at the end of the night it will be impossible to construct a coherent sentence.

[dreamer75]

Don't do it ! Let your friends remember their wedding holiday as exactly that. Not their wedding holiday and their mate's engagement. That'll be with them for the rest of their life.

Also, you want to remember your engagement as just that - not something you tagged on the end of someone elses wedding holiday.