How long before you move in with someone?
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I moved in with my ex after six months. Was probably sooner than ideal but was sick of living with my parents. We lived together for eight years and got on very well, so while it might have been too early that certainly wasn't to its detriment.
The main thing that determines its success is, I think, how you cope with the adjustment that takes place once you're living together. You have to realise that, when you're dating, you meet-up purely for the purpose of enjoying each other's company, so 100% of the time you're together is fun. Once you live together you have domestic chores and stuff, so the percentage of the time that you're together and having pure fun plummets. It's best to have your own assigned roles around the house and try to only actually be together for recreation.
Also, just because you're going to bed together every night doesn't mean you're getting laid every night. Something I struggled with for some time
The main thing that determines its success is, I think, how you cope with the adjustment that takes place once you're living together. You have to realise that, when you're dating, you meet-up purely for the purpose of enjoying each other's company, so 100% of the time you're together is fun. Once you live together you have domestic chores and stuff, so the percentage of the time that you're together and having pure fun plummets. It's best to have your own assigned roles around the house and try to only actually be together for recreation.
Also, just because you're going to bed together every night doesn't mean you're getting laid every night. Something I struggled with for some time
mine is after 2 1/2 years and starts at the end of this month.... She kind of asked me if she could stay over for a few weeks when her contract ends on her current house... I think we all know how that is going to end.
Im dooooooommmmmeeeddd!!!!
the hookers, coke and extreme alcohol have til the end of the month before sensible drinking starts (except for DD of course)
Im dooooooommmmmeeeddd!!!!
the hookers, coke and extreme alcohol have til the end of the month before sensible drinking starts (except for DD of course)
Don't be confused, it is a sign of deep love, if he does this, it shows a lot of respect and trust.
Took me 6 months to move in with my now wife, been together 10 years, all is good. I moved in with an ex that I was seeing for 3 years, lasted 2 days and I moved out and told her to GAGF. More person dependent that time dependent
Shabs
Took me 6 months to move in with my now wife, been together 10 years, all is good. I moved in with an ex that I was seeing for 3 years, lasted 2 days and I moved out and told her to GAGF. More person dependent that time dependent
Shabs
Dupont666 said:
mine is after 2 1/2 years and starts at the end of this month
What a coincidence - I'm in the identical position. Just over 2 1/2yrs together and I move in in mid-september. She originally spoke of it over 1 1/2yrs ago but I said that was too early and that it would come when ready. Now I'm ready and very much looking forward to it 
(not least, because she's giving me my very own man room!)TonyHetherington said:
Dupont666 said:
mine is after 2 1/2 years and starts at the end of this month
What a coincidence - I'm in the identical position. Just over 2 1/2yrs together and I move in in mid-september. She originally spoke of it over 1 1/2yrs ago but I said that was too early and that it would come when ready. Now I'm ready and very much looking forward to it (not least, because she's giving me my very own man room!)
ker!! I want a man room... Its my flat too and im not allowed one!!Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff