So... When does Adulthood begin?

[anonymous-user]

Just an odd one I thought I'd throw out to PHers.

Many years ago I thought that life would truly begin for me once I hit 18. You know, making the transition to adulthood where I'd able to see life from a completely new prospect, and suddenly a load of doors would be flung open and I'd start making a proper life for myself.

Well as of a couple of days ago my 18th has come and gone and it's got me thinking that the world might be passing me by just a tad.

I mean, when I look around at other people my age they've got things going for them - My best friend has just announced that him and his girlfriend are going to have a baby, and he's 19 (Not that I think that is particularly clever). I'm seeing old friends that I went to school with just 2 years ago preparing to be shipped out to university, starting their new lives and through my decision to do my apprenticeship, I'm still here, where I've been sitting since I was 14 and have managed to achieve tantamount fk all....

I know this sounds stupid. I know you'll tell me that I've got the rest of my life to live. I guess I'm just mourning my teens.

Thanks for the time PH...

[Heathwood]

I'll tell you when I get there myself...








....Oooh, by the way, I'm 35.

[RobDickinson]

Figure out what you want to do and get of your arse and do it.

Adulthood, and life, begins when you decide it does, adulthood is a pile of bulst anyhow I'm 38 and still a kid.

[Technonotice]

When I was 18 I wanted to go to university and become some city bod who had a degree and was earning top wage..

Since then I have seen and done lots of horrible things and want to qualify and still become some city wker.

Keep your dream alive and keep trying.

HTH

Edited by Technonotice on Saturday 22 August 23:40

[Mojooo]

I spose I felt like a proper adult when I was around 20-21ish - not that I have done anything spectacular

[grumbledoak]

RobDickinson said:

Figure out what you want to do and get of your arse and do it.

^^^ This.

But, there are many of these moments, across all the aspects of your life. You will not have one single day when everything comes clear. That is what makes us all different.

[Soovy]

Do not settle down and have a kid until you are 35.

That is all you need to know.



End of.

[ShadownINja]

I may have misread your post, OPer, but are you just expecting life to "happen"? You do realise you have to go out there and do stuff if you want doors to open for you?

[Soovy]

Without wishing to sound like your grandad, read my lost post, and F KCING LISTEN.




Go out there and MAKE your life. MAKE IT HAPPEN. Or die disappointed.

[Defcon]

Simps said:

Just an odd one I thought I'd throw out to PHers.

Many years ago I thought that life would truly begin for me once I hit 18. You know, making the transition to adulthood where I'd able to see life from a completely new prospect, and suddenly a load of doors would be flung open and I'd start making a proper life for myself.

Well as of a couple of days ago my 18th has come and gone and it's got me thinking that the world might be passing me by just a tad.

I mean, when I look around at other people my age they've got things going for them - My best friend has just announced that him and his girlfriend are going to have a baby, and he's 19 (Not that I think that is particularly clever). I'm seeing old friends that I went to school with just 2 years ago preparing to be shipped out to university, starting their new lives and through my decision to do my apprenticeship, I'm still here, where I've been sitting since I was 14 and have managed to achieve tantamount fk all....

I know this sounds stupid. I know you'll tell me that I've got the rest of my life to live. I guess I'm just mourning my teens.

Thanks for the time PH...

You have two choices, either finish the post with a question, or get a girl knocked up.



ETA: You seem to want to hear something particular: "You're fine, you have plenty of years left, so and so started their business at the age of 30 and they are now billionaires, just relax and it will come to you". (Good luck with that )

Edited by Defcon on Saturday 22 August 23:54

[Technonotice]

Soovy said:

Without wishing to sound like your grandad, read my lost post, and F KCING LISTEN.




Go out there and MAKE your life. MAKE IT HAPPEN. Or die disappointed.

couldn't agree more tbh

/me = failure

Edited by Technonotice on Saturday 22 August 23:52

[RobDickinson]

ShadownINja said:

I may have misread your post, OPer, but are you just expecting life to "happen"? You do realise you have to go out there and do stuff if you want doors to open for you?

I think they do. Life should #happen' at 18 and have doors opened magicaly. And life is passing them by...


Reality is no one owes you a damned thing and unless you get lucky (lottery lucky) you have to carve out what you want from it by yourself.

[RDMcG]

I think it begins when you understand that you have to rely on yourself to make it through life, not on your parents. I came from a very poor family and started work at 11, and to an extent that's when it started. I think its not about age, but about looking out for yourself.

[Flanders.]

Its better to think I wish I didn't do that, rather than thinking I wish I did.

[Mobile Chicane]

Soovy said:

Do not settle down and have a kid until you are 35.

At least...

Wise words.

[strudel]

When you realise that your parents don't know everything and mostly blag their way through.

[anonymous-user]

ShadownINja said:

I may have misread your post, OPer, but are you just expecting life to "happen"? You do realise you have to go out there and do stuff if you want doors to open for you?

I know that is stupid, but looking back at things, maybe I do expect 'life' to just happen. Take girlfriends for example, I've always thought the right woman would come up at the right time and as a result I haven't made the slightest effort... Which hasn't really worked out in my favour to be honest .

Soovy said:

Without wishing to sound like your grandad, read my lost post, and F KCING LISTEN.




Go out there and MAKE your life. MAKE IT HAPPEN. Or die disappointed.

Heh, here lies a massive part of the problem. Sort of having an F40 sitting in garage, I don't know what to make happen, let alone how

Defcon said:

You have two choices, either finish the post with a question, or get a girl knocked up.



ETA: You seem to want to hear something particular: "You're fine, you have plenty of years left, so and so started their business at the age of 30 and they are now billionaires, just relax and it will come to you". (Good luck with that )

Edited by Defcon on Saturday 22 August 23:54

The original opening post was quite good, it was going to be "At what age did you realize/accept that you were an adult?". But then I started rambling. And then I hit 'submit'

[EDLT]

Simps said:

Just an odd one I thought I'd throw out to PHers.

Many years ago I thought that life would truly begin for me once I hit 18. You know, making the transition to adulthood where I'd able to see life from a completely new prospect, and suddenly a load of doors would be flung open and I'd start making a proper life for myself.

Well as of a couple of days ago my 18th has come and gone and it's got me thinking that the world might be passing me by just a tad.

I mean, when I look around at other people my age they've got things going for them - My best friend has just announced that him and his girlfriend are going to have a baby, and he's 19 (Not that I think that is particularly clever). I'm seeing old friends that I went to school with just 2 years ago preparing to be shipped out to university, starting their new lives and through my decision to do my apprenticeship, I'm still here, where I've been sitting since I was 14 and have managed to achieve tantamount fk all....

I know this sounds stupid. I know you'll tell me that I've got the rest of my life to live. I guess I'm just mourning my teens.

Thanks for the time PH...

You realise that in five years time you'll have finished your apprenticeship, have a good job (economy allowing) and the money to pay for all kinds of fun while your friend will be 24 and will have just started paying off the massive childcare bill.


His girlfriend will also be really fat.

[Adam B]

RobDickinson said:

Figure out what you want to do and get of your arse and do it.

Adulthood, and life, begins when you decide it does, adulthood is a pile of bulst anyhow I'm 38 and still a kid.

same age, same viewpoint

my life has been great so far despite impending divorce - good friends, good family, done the whole hsagging around thing and done with it, stunning and lovely 28 year old gf, good career that i am bored of and will leave shortly, still go out all the time and do silly things

key is to find out who you are and be happy and confident with it, then everything else falls into place - adult or not

[Defcon]

simps said:

Defcon said:

You have two choices, either finish the post with a question, or get a girl knocked up.



ETA: You seem to want to hear something particular: "You're fine, you have plenty of years left, so and so started their business at the age of 30 and they are now billionaires, just relax and it will come to you". (Good luck with that )

Edited by Defcon on Saturday 22 August 23:54

The original opening post was quite good, it was going to be "At what age did you realize/accept that you were an adult?". But then I started rambling. And then I hit 'submit'

You've reached adulthood when you stop hitting the "submit" button prematurely. Eventually you start to use the edit button like viagra .

ETA: Strangely enough, every time I use the edit button I feel slightly faint.

Edited by Defcon on Sunday 23 August 00:11