True love slipping away :-(

[Dakkon]

The initial message was deleted from this topic on 04 September 2009 at 23:30

[monthefish]

Dakkon said:

When you want to end a relationship, what exactly do you say?

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Edited by monthefish on Friday 4th September 11:28

[alfa pint]

You blew it. She doesn't trust you. You need to move on, tough as it sounds.

[parakitaMol.]

You've dumped her twice, told her she's not the woman you want to spend your life with and now you say you love her.

It would appear from the outside that you only want what you can't have. (ie at the point in which she's had enough of being dumped and accepted it/ is no longer 'available' to you - you want her back)

In my opinion you've fked it.

Don't keep pestering her, this displays lack of self-esteem (very unattractive).

Learn life's lessons and apply them to new relationships.

Sometimes you need to fk up in order to not make the same mistake again.

This advice would be applicable to male or female.

[Puggit]

parakitaMol. said:

You've dumped her twice, told her she's not the woman you want to spend your life with and now you say you love her.

It would appear from the outside that you only want what you can't have. (ie at the point in which she's had enough of being dumped and accepted it/ is no longer 'available' to you - you want her back)

In my opinion you've fked it.

Don't keep pestering her, this displays lack of self-esteem (very unattractive).

Learn life's lessons and apply them to new relationships.

Sometimes you need to fk up in order to not make the same mistake again.

This advice would be applicable to male or female.

End of thread...

Except no one has suggested back doors yet

[lady topaz]

parakitaMol. said:

You've dumped her twice, told her she's not the woman you want to spend your life with and now you say you love her.

It would appear from the outside that you only want what you can't have. (ie at the point in which she's had enough of being dumped and accepted it/ is no longer 'available' to you - you want her back)

In my opinion you've fked it.

Don't keep pestering her, this displays lack of self-esteem (very unattractive).

Learn life's lessons and apply them to new relationships.

Sometimes you need to fk up in order to not make the same mistake again.

This advice would be applicable to male or female.

Just thinking how to phrase a reply and youve just said exactly what I was going to but probably more eloquently.

[Mobile Chicane]

You say your Dad's just died. I'd recommend that you don't make any big decisions for a while.

The list of people I know who have rushed into inappropriate relationships / job changes in the aftermath of a bereavement is as sad as it is long.

[shirt]

parakitamol speaketh the truth.

hindsight's a bh ain't it, but you'll learn.

[parakitaMol.]

Bloody hell

That's a first.

[Famous Graham]

What Para said.

I did exactly the same thing about 7 years ago. I had to accept that I hadn't been mature enough at the time and blew it.

[Soovy]

Dakkon said:

I sent her a huge bunch of flowers and chocolates this week and all that did was get a call from her saying 'This has to stop, it is definitely over,please stop hassling me and my family'.

Move on.

Sorry.

[Rach*]

Some idiot man did something similar to me, 1 year later, i can text him and be civil but i cant be in a relationship with him again. Give her time and space, you never know she might soften a little

[mrmaggit]

lady topaz said:

parakitaMol. said:

You've dumped her twice, told her she's not the woman you want to spend your life with and now you say you love her.

It would appear from the outside that you only want what you can't have. (ie at the point in which she's had enough of being dumped and accepted it/ is no longer 'available' to you - you want her back)

In my opinion you've fked it.

Don't keep pestering her, this displays lack of self-esteem (very unattractive).

Learn life's lessons and apply them to new relationships.

Sometimes you need to fk up in order to not make the same mistake again.

This advice would be applicable to male or female.

Just thinking how to phrase a reply and youve just said exactly what I was going to but probably more eloquently.

Yup, this is it in a nutshell, very well put. We all screw up sometimes, just learn from it, don't rush, and don't panic. Give yourself some time, and move on.

[Soovy]

parakitaMol. said:

You've dumped her twice, told her she's not the woman you want to spend your life with and now you say you love her.

It would appear from the outside that you only want what you can't have. (ie at the point in which she's had enough of being dumped and accepted it/ is no longer 'available' to you - you want her back)

In my opinion you've fked it.

Don't keep pestering her, this displays lack of self-esteem (very unattractive).

Learn life's lessons and apply them to new relationships.

Sometimes you need to fk up in order to not make the same mistake again.

This advice would be applicable to male or female.

^^^^

This.


We've all got one of these in out past.

You've blown it, and you'll have to learn to live with it, just like the rest of us.


You MAY be very lucky and IF you stay AWAY from her then she may soften. But I doubt it.

[Don]

Dakkon said:

But deep down I know she really loves me, she is just trying to be strong and independent and protect herself from me hurting her again.

That's plain creepy. You do not KNOW what's going on in her head. Only she knows that! If you "know" something like that you are just making it up. It may or may not be true.

Instead: interpret her actions. If you haven't worked it out I have got news for you: she's sick of your bullst.

Parakitamol has it right. Leave her alone, sort yourself out.

There's a lot of life left to live - go and enjoy it.

Edited by Don on Friday 4th September 11:53

[Davey111]

At the end of last year I broke up with my girlfriend. For a while it hadn't felt right so it seemed like the right thing to do. I then went through a similar set of feelings, that she was definately the one and I would happily quit my job and move to her to make it work.

All I can say is thank God I dodn't do that. It is just a phase in the process of getting over someone (Denial). You ended it twice becasue it didn't work. If you got her back you would still resent having to give up your weekends for her family. The two of you are obviously not compatible.

Go out and emerse yourself in some things that you want to do. Be selfish for a bit and put yourself first. You will get past this feeling and in 6 months will know that she was not the one.

(Obviously this is just going on my experience and the little information that I have read here)

[coolcatmaz]

As Rach has said really. You need to give her some space and only time will tell if it is true love on both sides.

[sleep envy]

stop being wet, you've fked up

leave her alone, stop acting like an idiot and move on having learnt a life lesson

next time don't be such a selfish fool

[Grant.D]

Im not going to jump to any hasty conclusions here as I dont believe you've completely ruined it.

IMO I think your best course of action is to leave her to it for the minute, dont bother her. Ulthough you see the chocolates and flowers as a heart felt apology, its more likely she see's them as more 'hassle'. If I were in your shoes what I would try to do after letting some time pass is arrange a meet up with her just to talk rashionaly, tell her all that you feel. Without sugar coating however it is up to her to decide if you both get back together, having already given you a second chance the ball is well and truely in her court.

I wish you the best of luck

Grant

[ofcorsa]

Woman like cute stuff

Collect as many dead cats and arrange them in a heart shape on her lawn,