Dads had a stroke
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GLENRED

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8,469 posts

222 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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Sat in Winchester royal hospital , my dad had a bleed in his brain last night and I have been sat here for the worst 27 hours of my life. Doctors last night said he was touch and go whether he was going to survive. He is concious and can speak a little but his left side is quite badly paralysed, but he is starting to move it a little. Has any one else had any experience of strokes? And what is the timescale for recovery.

Need some freindly advise or stories of relatives pulling through this please.

Thanks for listening

Glenn

lazyitus

19,928 posts

282 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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My Nan did.

Similar thing. She was in a bad way but eventually returned to her former glory.

He's gonna need you and your family for support. Be there, be strong and help him as much as possible.

Good luck mate. smile

Kermit power

29,622 posts

229 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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I can't provide any advice or experience, but good luck for you Dad. I hope he pulls through OK.

n3il123

2,722 posts

229 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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Sorry to hear that... My Grandad had a MASSIVE stroke in portugal about 20 years ago... they said that if he had been in England he would have been much much better. As it was he lasted for another 17 years and enjoyed every minute of it.. I know its no consolation at the moment.. but it may not be that bad..

911DM

4,622 posts

203 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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My thoughts are with you all.

Amongst other things at the time, my wife had a stroke and has made a near full recovery. There was significant paralysis down the left side of the body. The bulk of the recovery was within six months if I recall. Sorry if I sound vague but this wasn't the only problem. She had the stroke when she was in intensive care on life support, suffering from very advanced endocarditus. In fact it was detritus from the endocarditus that caused the stroke.

From what I was told at the time, recovery depends on how quickly they catch it and the younger the 'victim' is the better the chances.

Ask the doctors(I'm sure you have); they'll know more than anyone here about your Dad's situation.

All the best. These are tough times; put a brave face on for all concerned.

robinhood21

30,933 posts

248 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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lazyitus said:
My Nan did.

Similar thing. She was in a bad way but eventually returned to her former glory.

He's gonna need you and your family for support. Be there, be strong and help him as much as possible.

Good luck mate. smile
Same here, only it was my Dad. Lived to a great old age. All the best for a speedy recovery.

GTIR

24,741 posts

282 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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Sorry to hear that friend. I hope he pulls through and you both can share a beer after all the stress you've all been through.


littlegreenfairy

10,134 posts

237 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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I don't have any experience, but just wanted to wish you and your family all the best.

ellroy

7,513 posts

241 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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A friend i worked with a few years ago had a stroke, youngish bloke, he pulled through back working and is his usual self now.

Thoughts & prayers with you and the family.

Dogwatch

6,329 posts

238 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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My sympathies as both my Mother and MIL had strokes, both different in nature as my mother had none of the usual symptoms (partial paralysis etc) while my MIL did.

Quit a bit on Google if you search 'stroke' or 'stroke recovery'.

This book may help in the future. Others around of course.

Best wishes.

eldar

24,146 posts

212 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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If he has survived the first 24 hours, that is a good start. He will be confused, afraid and probably angry, so you'll need to be patient and reassuring for a few weeks at least.

I hope he, and you are OK as you can be.

GLENRED

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8,469 posts

222 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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Thanks for all your kind words. My dad is 60 so not that old. They think it was high blood pressure that has caused it but the doctors won't tell me much as they just don't know how bad it is. His CT scan showed a bleed the size of an egg on the right side of his brain.

Can't type mhch more sorry I will let you all know how he is.

Thanks again for the kind words.

Olf

11,974 posts

234 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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I went through something similar with my Dad 2.5 years ago. Sadly he didn't pull through and it took a month of intensive care to get to the end. I say this because my advice to you is to pace yourself. While sitting with him day in day out might feel like the right thing to do, but, once he's stable, it isn't, you need to look after yourself, your Mum and your siblings. The nurses and Drs will do a great job for him.

I hope it works out for you.

celticpilgrim

1,965 posts

259 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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When I was 18 (43 now), pop went in for a 'routine' hernia op - sufered 2 heart attacks and a stroke. Whe we got him home he was a bit of a state - bed/loo downstais, etc, but through his own blooy mindedness, eventually goe 90% of his feeling back, drove and allsorts.

Only just recently passed away - people can make remarkable recoveries, time, love and support are all vital, along with a pig-headed attitude!!

CP

Papa_Hotel

12,760 posts

198 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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I wish your dad all the best, hope he gets through it.

My dad died of two massive strokes at the age of only 54 in April this year... I don't know exactly what you're going through now, every situation is different, but I've a good idea. Trust the docs know what they're doing and be there when he wakes up. Good luck.

Working class

8,958 posts

203 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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Just want to wish you all the best mate, hope your dad is ok.

Papa_Hotel

12,760 posts

198 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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Oh, some words of wisdom for you - DO NOT google strokes or stroke recovery, steer clear of the likes of wikipedia. I tried to research what I could find out and it makes things worse. Like I said before, trust the doctors. Ignorance is bliss.

Tuscanless Ali

2,187 posts

225 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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Sorry to hear about your Dad, the only advice I can offer is to start physiotherapy straight away, the earlier it's started the better apparently, my mum has drummed it into me that if ever she has a stroke this has to be started immediately.

Hope your Dad makes a speedy recovery.

Wacky Racer

39,867 posts

263 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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Depends on the severity of the stroke....some people make a 99% recovery, some people die from them.

My mother spent the last six years of her life in a wheelchair with slurred speech.....not nice.

On the other hand, some people are hardly affected at all.

Let's hope your Dad makes a full and speedy recovery........smile

skeggysteve

5,724 posts

233 months

Friday 4th September 2009
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I'm not an expert but I have, in my job looking after mobility equipment, meet a quite a few people that had had stokes.

Some strokes are worst, physicaly, than others but I've never meet anyone, who has had a stroke, that has lost thier sense of humour or their brain power.

Best wishes to all involved.