Help me with a conundurum

[metatron]

I am hoping that some people could help me with a conundurum.

Me and my girlfriend have decided to have a break for a couple of weeks. Do these ever work or are we doomed???

The reason we are doing this is that I have been taking her a bit for granted (not replying to her texts, not telling her I love her etc etc) and it's come back to bite me in the arse a bit.

She's coming round mine on Friday so I'm also looking for advise on what to do for her so we can rekindle that spark. If we can rekindle that spark then there might not be any reason to take a break.

Cheers in advance guys.

METATRON

[TheEnd]

Hmm, no title makes it a little trick to click on the thread!

[sublimatica]

TheEnd said:

Hmm, no title makes it a little trick to click on the thread!

Never mind - he posted three times just to be sure of annoying someone.

[john_p]

The secret thread!

[V8mate]

sublimatica said:

TheEnd said:

Hmm, no title makes it a little trick to click on the thread!

Never mind - he posted three times just to be sure of annoying someone.

Maybe he had the same effect on his girlfriend.

[metatron]

Wow that's random I put a title in there and only posted it once. can a moderator please put a title on here please as i don't think I am able to do it and also delete the other two threads????

Anyway unless you have anything constructive to say don't bother......

[metatron]

V8mate said:

sublimatica said:

TheEnd said:

Hmm, no title makes it a little trick to click on the thread!

Never mind - he posted three times just to be sure of annoying someone.

Maybe he had the same effect on his girlfriend.

Yea very constructive mate cheers!!!!

[Jasandjules]

Rather than take a break from each other, why not take a break together? Go away for the weekend etc..

[Big Al.]

metatron said:

Can a moderator please put a title on here please as i don't think I am able to do it and also delete the other two threads????

Anyway unless you have anything constructive to say don't bother......

Title added other two deleted.

[metatron]

Cheers bigal no idea what happened, it's never happened before.

Anyway, unfortunately I work 7 days a week 10 hours a day so a holiday is out of the question.

But cheers for your input.

[Engineer1]

So as far as your girlfriend was concerned then you where ignoring her, and you work pretty much all day everyday, sounds like you need to make some time to be together.

[metatron]

We do spend quite a lot of time together. I see her almost everyday but I'm so caught up at work I'm always tired so we don't have sex as much as we used to because I'm always so tired. Luckily I won't be working this much for much longer.

[Jasandjules]

metatron said:

We do spend quite a lot of time together. I see her almost everyday but I'm so caught up at work I'm always tired so we don't have sex as much as we used to because I'm always so tired. Luckily I won't be working this much for much longer.

Therein lies the problem sir.

[metatron]

Jasandjules said:

metatron said:

We do spend quite a lot of time together. I see her almost everyday but I'm so caught up at work I'm always tired so we don't have sex as much as we used to because I'm always so tired. Luckily I won't be working this much for much longer.

I think your probably right but I have been massively involved in a court case at the moment and as a litigant in person I'm hugely busy. I'm going to court in a couple of weeks so maybe a break is the best thing. But do they ever work. And what shall I do on Friday???

Therein lies the problem sir.

[anonymous-user]

You know what you have done wrong! so start by telling her you know what you have done and you are really sorry! Tell her you would really like to make it up to her! take her out for a nice meal along with some romantic gestures! Book a little holiday away with her, doesnt have to be right now, almost better if it isnt as she will know you are commited long term! and remeber girls love all things shiney! If its meant to be it will be!

[Jasandjules]

metatron said:

I think your probably right but I have been massively involved in a court case at the moment and as a litigant in person I'm hugely busy. I'm going to court in a couple of weeks so maybe a break is the best thing. But do they ever work. And what shall I do on Friday???

Take Friday off. Completely off. Spend the day together (assuming she can get time off work etc if not then go somewhere Saturday instead, a day at the beach playing on the arcades or something equally childish, but fun). Go out somewhere nice for dinner Friday night, or get a movie and a takeaway and spend some quality time together. Tell her that the case won't last for ever, you know that you are not giving her enough attention and you are sorry. Promise that as soon as the case is over you will do something together like go away.

Please believe me I am fully aware of the difficulties faced by litigants in person, and the work required to run court cases.... As an aside, have you sought legal expenses insurance protection from say your house insurance as they may have cover? (is it perchance an Employment Tribunal?)

[metatron]

Well we have been going out 2 years next month so it's not just some fling and she knows it. The thing I am really worried about is I'm her first proper boyfriend and she may be getting a bit curious but I hope not. Because I really do love her to bits.

[metatron]

Cheers jasandjules that's sound advice but funnily enough she's working. I think we might have a drink, takeaway and a film that sounds perfect.

Yea being a litigant in person is a pain in the arse, but I'm not a home owner and have no real assets accept my business which has ceased trading until I regain my £50000 from the defendant. So no not an employment tribunal as such. But if you have any advice on going to court that would be awesome.

[cazzer]

Sorry mate, but my thoughts would be....
If she suggested the break, she just fancies shagging someone at work without the guilt.

And no, being "on a break" doesn't work.

[pad58]

cazzer said:

Sorry mate, but my thoughts would be....
If she suggested the break, she just fancies shagging someone at work without the guilt.

And no, being "on a break" doesn't work.

I know if you go "on a break" nothing will ever be the same again.