Relationship question :) ho-hum

[dugless]

Will set the scene....

6 month relationship , everything is great , talking about moving in together,totally into each other in all ways..

after the 1st 2 months we both were a bit stand offish feeling pressures etc and split up , only for 1 day as we had such strong feelings etc.

Last week... after a bout of crying she admitted she had kissed 3 other guys in the 1st 2 months , she didnt think we were going anywhere at that time..hence why we split.

Now.... I am faced with the fact she has cheated , but the thing is , I would NEVER ever have found this out due to the nature of the way things happened...

So now , due to her telling me something like this do I now know I can fully trust her more than before ? , she didnt have to tell me but she said it was eating her up inside.

Her feelings have increased ten fold since then and I can help but know that.

Or is playing away completely and utterly unacceptable irrespective of time / feelings.

[Justayellowbadge]

It's probably not a good idea to move her in untill she has finished school.

[lazyitus]

Depends if she did 'tongues'.

Seriously, crack on with her - it's not as if she's been participating in bukkake orgies, is it?

[davido140]

IMO

Pissed snog in a club? Personally I'd forgive and forget.

Hide the sausage? Instant dumping.

However having had this chat with my GF a while ago, if I so much as snog another woman I'm probably ditched.

On the plus side, I'm allowed to look as much as I like.

[HOGEPH]

Waste of time posting stuff like this in the Lounge, as the usual answers will be either:


Take her up the OXO tower

Kick her back doors in.

Etc.

[maix27]

Go for it mate, if you know she's the right person for you.

She was very honest, which is good, and there's no reason to think it will happen again.

Good luck!

[curtisl]

If you like her that much then crack on. You will only regret it if you do split up, and by that time it will be too late as it seems that she is not struggling to get other blokes.

[lawrence567]

Go kiss 3 other girls and see what she says.

[anonymous-user]

davido140 said:

IMO

Pissed snog in a club? Personally I'd forgive and forget.

Hide the sausage? Instant dumping.

However having had this chat with my GF a while ago, if I so much as snog another woman I'm probably ditched.

On the plus side, I'm allowed to look as much as I like.

This is how I view it as well, not something I would encourage mind you, but I think one is perhaps more forgivable than the other..

Not going to advise you on whether to stick with her or not, only YOU can know how you feel and what you want to do

Have to give her credit for telling you though...a lot may not have bothered

[macp]

We are only talking about kissing here and she told you.Get on and fill your boots or hers if your that way inclined.

[Maxf]

davido140 said:

IMO

Pissed snog in a club? Personally I'd forgive and forget.

Hide the sausage? Instant dumping.

However having had this chat with my GF a while ago, if I so much as snog another woman I'm probably ditched.

On the plus side, I'm allowed to look as much as I like.

Women are a bit less logical though, to say the least.

[WorAl]

Justayellowbadge said:

It's probably not a good idea to move her in untill she has finished school.

[rhinochopig]

lazyitus said:

Depends if she did 'tongues'.

Seriously, crack on with her - it's not as if she's been participating in bukkake orgies, is it?

And if she has can I have her number. Bukkake parties are the new tupperware.

[Steamer]

lawrence567 said:

Go kiss 3 other girls and see what she says.

Her mate, her mum and her sister should do the trick.

[DrTre]

rhinochopig said:

And if she has can I have her number. Bukkake parties are the new tupperware.

Somewhat less practical for the storage of dried foodstuffs I've found though.

[Penny-lope]

She did before, she'll do it again.

So what if she was honest to you....that's just because she felt guilty, and couldn't handle it. It had feck all to do with your feelings.

Get rid, and move on

[isee]

Wouldn't really give a st if mine kissed someone else before it became apparent that we are definitely moving forward (which she has, though it was only one bloke, who she started dating before me anyway).

What makes me wonder though: 3 blokes in 1 month? I am not very old or conservative, but realistically, how likely is she to meet 3 "willing" blokes and like them back enough to snog them? Does she have no standards at all or is she so hot and the "throughput" so high that she actually liked 3 blokes enough to snog them out of say a hundered? - genuine question

[isee]

lawrence567 said:

Go kiss 3 other girls and see what she says.

do that

[Justayellowbadge]

Penny-lope said:

She did before, she'll do it again.

So what if she was honest to you....that's just because she felt guilty, and couldn't handle it. It had feck all to do with your feelings.

Get rid, and move on

The sisterhood is strong in this one.

[M3CHA-MONK3Y]

From your first post, you've already stepped up to defend what she's done, so you've already made your mind up.
It's a bit like that scene out of the matrix:

"your not here to make the choice, your here to understand why you made the choice"