New start - making friends
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I have recently moved to newcastle due to the job etc. Got a nice flat and now want to get on and make friends etc. I have been told to do voluntary work to meet new people. I am 25 if that helps and recently single. Any advice? Anyone else had any experience of this and what did you do-Ta
Edited by DaGuv on Tuesday 5th January 03:18
I had that when I moved to the states. What I did was kidnap hobo's, and keep them in the attic. I speak to them when I'm lonely, for simply the price of some bread and water. A doddle!
Seriously, get yourself a local. People will soon recognise you as a regular, and you'll egt on fine. Worked for me!
Seriously, get yourself a local. People will soon recognise you as a regular, and you'll egt on fine. Worked for me!
The Riddler said:
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Constructive. 
OP you are young and if you have been advised to volunteer then go for it, although you may need to give more info, for better advice? Sorry but don't know Newcastle myself.
DaGuv said:
I have recently moved to newcastle due to the job etc. Got a nice flat and now want to get on and make friends etc. I have been told to do voluntary work to meet new people. I am 25 if that helps and recently single. Any advice? Anyone else had any experience of this and what did you do-Ta
you will make freinds through the job wont you?Edited by DaGuv on Tuesday 5th January 03:18
My dad was in the RAF and due to this I moved about every 2-3 years. Now this was when I was younger so I had the benefit of being 'forced' to make friends at school. It did also teach me how to make friends (even though I often come across as a cocky 
at first 
).
I'd advise you to just put yourself in situations where you will meet people but it's acceptable to be on your own ie. gym/squash club etc. A conversation is easily attainable and then come the referrals.......
"I met a great guy at the gym, let's invite him out with all of us hot girls" etc
Once you've cracked that, fun times will surely follow.
Good luck
at first ).I'd advise you to just put yourself in situations where you will meet people but it's acceptable to be on your own ie. gym/squash club etc. A conversation is easily attainable and then come the referrals.......
"I met a great guy at the gym, let's invite him out with all of us hot girls" etc
Once you've cracked that, fun times will surely follow.
Good luck
As MartinF said. Join some local sports/activity clubs. Doesn't matter if they're for things you do - learning a new sport would work just as well.
Gives you a reason to be in a group, some easy common conversations (ie about the sport and/or training), and people will talk to you to make you feel welcome as a new member.
If you're not into competitive sports think about things like climbing, SCUBA diving, walking, canoeing. Local councils and sports centers usually have lists of local clubs. Get yourself along to some, you'll quickly work out which ones are friendly have a good social side.
Gives you a reason to be in a group, some easy common conversations (ie about the sport and/or training), and people will talk to you to make you feel welcome as a new member.
If you're not into competitive sports think about things like climbing, SCUBA diving, walking, canoeing. Local councils and sports centers usually have lists of local clubs. Get yourself along to some, you'll quickly work out which ones are friendly have a good social side.
Interesting point. I tell you what is bloody hard. Making new friends as a bloke in your mid 30's. People that you used to know just dissapear, when your mates have kids thier priorities change, and they are not allowed out. Easier for girls I suspect. When they get preg they can meet loads of new mums down the nursery, school etc.
Making friends as an adult isn't as easy as people think. And while you might make acquaintances in the pub, but it's unlikely that these will be long term good friends. Meeting people that you have a common interest in from the start would help, so like others have said, join clubs, take up after-work activities and get yourself out and about. Even better, (i presume you drive?!) join a car club and go along to local meets.
DaGuv said:
I have recently moved to newcastle due to the job etc. Got a nice flat and now want to get on and make friends etc. I have been told to do voluntary work to meet new people. I am 25 if that helps and recently single. Any advice? Anyone else had any experience of this and what did you do-Ta
Join clubs and societies.Organise and attend events with them.
This is what I did when in exactly the same situation.
Do not bother with clubs that charge a lot for one meeting in the local every other month. Join ones that actually do stuff and actually have a few members.
Personally I found voluntary stuff very poor as most of the clubs doing this consisted of a dozen retired blokes with nothing else to do.
As a suggestion:
Ramblers or other outdoor activity club
IVC (varies greatly in age range and membership around the UK, our one is good)
Historical reanactment (my brothers are well into this, met loads of people)
Lions club
Scouts
Amateur dramatics
The church (you don't have to be religious to join most of their activities but everyone around you will be! )
That lot should keep you busy.
Welcome to Newcastle.
I think you'll find the most friends through work (depending on what it is you do)
Beyond that, Newcastle is a pretty friendly town. Are you living in the City Centre or one of the suburbs?
What are you interested in? There are lots of car clubs, almost all makes have an owners club up here, or as Chris said there is the North East section of PH.
Try an evening class in something you are interested in? Newcastle College do a whole range fo courses.
Cheers
Mike
I think you'll find the most friends through work (depending on what it is you do)
Beyond that, Newcastle is a pretty friendly town. Are you living in the City Centre or one of the suburbs?
What are you interested in? There are lots of car clubs, almost all makes have an owners club up here, or as Chris said there is the North East section of PH.
Try an evening class in something you are interested in? Newcastle College do a whole range fo courses.
Cheers
Mike
When i moved over to the US i didn't know a soul. I thought I'd meet people through work, but this didn't work out as i think english was about the 5th spoken language in the office I moved into.
Despite being warned not to play footy again (after 5 knee operations) I felt that joining a "soccer" team was going to be my best bet.
This was the right call, and I was welcomed into a big bunch of friends and social life was sorted and I met some great people there.
....and my knee did hold out.... until I broke my ankle
Join a club - good luck !
Despite being warned not to play footy again (after 5 knee operations) I felt that joining a "soccer" team was going to be my best bet.
This was the right call, and I was welcomed into a big bunch of friends and social life was sorted and I met some great people there.
....and my knee did hold out.... until I broke my ankle
Join a club - good luck !
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