What causes more arguments?
Discussion
aclivity said:
pilchardthecat said:
"My invisible divine omnipotent overlord is better than yours."
(Measured historically, globally, and in the sheer number of dead humans, at any rate).
Common fallacy. More death caused by "we like your country. We'll take it" by a vast factor. (Measured historically, globally, and in the sheer number of dead humans, at any rate).
Other people at the moment... 
I live on my own whilst she lives with her cousin. Been going out now for just over 6 months and lately it seems that from the moment I pick her up to the moment I drop her off she either moans about her problems, moans about how people don't care about her problems, moans about past problems, moans about future problems or generally just tries to pick a subject to cause and argument so she can moan about it.
Its getting on my nerves lately and whilst I try to be understanding about all these problems she seems to have (some completely engineered by herself) its becoming a bit tiresome now and I just don’t have the time/effort to keep justifying to her, every single time I see her, that everything is ok etc etc. She just seems to have the outlook in life of seeing everything as a negative. Someone could come up and give her £100 and she would find a fault in it that meant she could moan.
Take this one for an example, she has been saving to buy a block of driving lessons (and has now saved £200) but she has NOW decided (even though she has been going on for the last 2-3 months that she needs to learn to drive to get a decent job as she lives in a village) that she wants a tattoo, I said "I thought you were using that money for driving lessons? That tattoo will cost probably half the money you saved up".
Cue the "your just like the rest, treat me like a kid, every time I want something I can never have it and get told no"
I have taken to just going into "dumb" mode and saying yes/no at the right bits whilst taking absolutely no notice what so ever...which makes no difference as on the way back she will be moaning about the same thing so its like Sky+ anyway, I can just rewind and listen again.
Whilst I admit she has had problems in the past that would fully justify her moans...GET THE HELL OVER IT WOMAN!
I have a bad case of...THE MENTAL.
I live on my own whilst she lives with her cousin. Been going out now for just over 6 months and lately it seems that from the moment I pick her up to the moment I drop her off she either moans about her problems, moans about how people don't care about her problems, moans about past problems, moans about future problems or generally just tries to pick a subject to cause and argument so she can moan about it.
Its getting on my nerves lately and whilst I try to be understanding about all these problems she seems to have (some completely engineered by herself) its becoming a bit tiresome now and I just don’t have the time/effort to keep justifying to her, every single time I see her, that everything is ok etc etc. She just seems to have the outlook in life of seeing everything as a negative. Someone could come up and give her £100 and she would find a fault in it that meant she could moan.
Take this one for an example, she has been saving to buy a block of driving lessons (and has now saved £200) but she has NOW decided (even though she has been going on for the last 2-3 months that she needs to learn to drive to get a decent job as she lives in a village) that she wants a tattoo, I said "I thought you were using that money for driving lessons? That tattoo will cost probably half the money you saved up".
Cue the "your just like the rest, treat me like a kid, every time I want something I can never have it and get told no"
I have taken to just going into "dumb" mode and saying yes/no at the right bits whilst taking absolutely no notice what so ever...which makes no difference as on the way back she will be moaning about the same thing so its like Sky+ anyway, I can just rewind and listen again.
Whilst I admit she has had problems in the past that would fully justify her moans...GET THE HELL OVER IT WOMAN!
I have a bad case of...THE MENTAL.
ymwoods said:
Other people at the moment...
I live on my own whilst she lives with her cousin. Been going out now for just over 6 months and lately it seems that from the moment I pick her up to the moment I drop her off she either moans about her problems, moans about how people don't care about her problems, moans about past problems, moans about future problems or generally just tries to pick a subject to cause and argument so she can moan about it.
Its getting on my nerves lately and whilst I try to be understanding about all these problems she seems to have (some completely engineered by herself) its becoming a bit tiresome now and I just don’t have the time/effort to keep justifying to her, every single time I see her, that everything is ok etc etc. She just seems to have the outlook in life of seeing everything as a negative. Someone could come up and give her £100 and she would find a fault in it that meant she could moan.
Take this one for an example, she has been saving to buy a block of driving lessons (and has now saved £200) but she has NOW decided (even though she has been going on for the last 2-3 months that she needs to learn to drive to get a decent job as she lives in a village) that she wants a tattoo, I said "I thought you were using that money for driving lessons? That tattoo will cost probably half the money you saved up".
Cue the "your just like the rest, treat me like a kid, every time I want something I can never have it and get told no"
I have taken to just going into "dumb" mode and saying yes/no at the right bits whilst taking absolutely no notice what so ever...which makes no difference as on the way back she will be moaning about the same thing so its like Sky+ anyway, I can just rewind and listen again.
Whilst I admit she has had problems in the past that would fully justify her moans...GET THE HELL OVER IT WOMAN!
I have a bad case of...THE MENTAL.
Do you think her moaning has rubbed off on you?I live on my own whilst she lives with her cousin. Been going out now for just over 6 months and lately it seems that from the moment I pick her up to the moment I drop her off she either moans about her problems, moans about how people don't care about her problems, moans about past problems, moans about future problems or generally just tries to pick a subject to cause and argument so she can moan about it.
Its getting on my nerves lately and whilst I try to be understanding about all these problems she seems to have (some completely engineered by herself) its becoming a bit tiresome now and I just don’t have the time/effort to keep justifying to her, every single time I see her, that everything is ok etc etc. She just seems to have the outlook in life of seeing everything as a negative. Someone could come up and give her £100 and she would find a fault in it that meant she could moan.
Take this one for an example, she has been saving to buy a block of driving lessons (and has now saved £200) but she has NOW decided (even though she has been going on for the last 2-3 months that she needs to learn to drive to get a decent job as she lives in a village) that she wants a tattoo, I said "I thought you were using that money for driving lessons? That tattoo will cost probably half the money you saved up".
Cue the "your just like the rest, treat me like a kid, every time I want something I can never have it and get told no"
I have taken to just going into "dumb" mode and saying yes/no at the right bits whilst taking absolutely no notice what so ever...which makes no difference as on the way back she will be moaning about the same thing so its like Sky+ anyway, I can just rewind and listen again.
Whilst I admit she has had problems in the past that would fully justify her moans...GET THE HELL OVER IT WOMAN!
I have a bad case of...THE MENTAL.
ymwoods said:
Other people at the moment...
I live on my own whilst she lives with her cousin. Been going out now for just over 6 months and lately it seems that from the moment I pick her up to the moment I drop her off she either moans about her problems, moans about how people don't care about her problems, moans about past problems, moans about future problems or generally just tries to pick a subject to cause and argument so she can moan about it.
Its getting on my nerves lately and whilst I try to be understanding about all these problems she seems to have (some completely engineered by herself) its becoming a bit tiresome now and I just don’t have the time/effort to keep justifying to her, every single time I see her, that everything is ok etc etc. She just seems to have the outlook in life of seeing everything as a negative. Someone could come up and give her £100 and she would find a fault in it that meant she could moan.
Take this one for an example, she has been saving to buy a block of driving lessons (and has now saved £200) but she has NOW decided (even though she has been going on for the last 2-3 months that she needs to learn to drive to get a decent job as she lives in a village) that she wants a tattoo, I said "I thought you were using that money for driving lessons? That tattoo will cost probably half the money you saved up".
Cue the "your just like the rest, treat me like a kid, every time I want something I can never have it and get told no"
I have taken to just going into "dumb" mode and saying yes/no at the right bits whilst taking absolutely no notice what so ever...which makes no difference as on the way back she will be moaning about the same thing so its like Sky+ anyway, I can just rewind and listen again.
Whilst I admit she has had problems in the past that would fully justify her moans...GET THE HELL OVER IT WOMAN!
I have a bad case of...THE MENTAL.
might as well just put a ring on her finger now fella I live on my own whilst she lives with her cousin. Been going out now for just over 6 months and lately it seems that from the moment I pick her up to the moment I drop her off she either moans about her problems, moans about how people don't care about her problems, moans about past problems, moans about future problems or generally just tries to pick a subject to cause and argument so she can moan about it.
Its getting on my nerves lately and whilst I try to be understanding about all these problems she seems to have (some completely engineered by herself) its becoming a bit tiresome now and I just don’t have the time/effort to keep justifying to her, every single time I see her, that everything is ok etc etc. She just seems to have the outlook in life of seeing everything as a negative. Someone could come up and give her £100 and she would find a fault in it that meant she could moan.
Take this one for an example, she has been saving to buy a block of driving lessons (and has now saved £200) but she has NOW decided (even though she has been going on for the last 2-3 months that she needs to learn to drive to get a decent job as she lives in a village) that she wants a tattoo, I said "I thought you were using that money for driving lessons? That tattoo will cost probably half the money you saved up".
Cue the "your just like the rest, treat me like a kid, every time I want something I can never have it and get told no"
I have taken to just going into "dumb" mode and saying yes/no at the right bits whilst taking absolutely no notice what so ever...which makes no difference as on the way back she will be moaning about the same thing so its like Sky+ anyway, I can just rewind and listen again.
Whilst I admit she has had problems in the past that would fully justify her moans...GET THE HELL OVER IT WOMAN!
I have a bad case of...THE MENTAL.
pilchardthecat said:
aclivity said:
pilchardthecat said:
"My invisible divine omnipotent overlord is better than yours."
(Measured historically, globally, and in the sheer number of dead humans, at any rate).
Common fallacy. More death caused by "we like your country. We'll take it" by a vast factor. (Measured historically, globally, and in the sheer number of dead humans, at any rate).
WW2?
American War of Independence?
American Civil War?
Religious basis for these? As I said, it's a common one, but it IS a fallacy.
aclivity said:
pilchardthecat said:
aclivity said:
pilchardthecat said:
"My invisible divine omnipotent overlord is better than yours."
(Measured historically, globally, and in the sheer number of dead humans, at any rate).
Common fallacy. More death caused by "we like your country. We'll take it" by a vast factor. (Measured historically, globally, and in the sheer number of dead humans, at any rate).
WW2?
American War of Independence?
American Civil War?
Religious basis for these? As I said, it's a common one, but it IS a fallacy.
Europe endured dozens of religious conflicts through the 15,16 and 1700s, you have the muslim conquests of the 600/700s, the crusades of the 11/12/13th centuries, the collapse of the Sassanid empire and the Byzantines in Egypt, Palestine and Syria, the 30 year war in the German States, Sweden and Poland, the Taiping/Shangdi rebellion, the Hindu rebellion, the White Lotus Rebellion, the Sri Lankan Civil War(s), the Milhemet Mitzvah Jewish-Roman war, the Sikh uprising, the Frankish invasion of Saxony in 700s (the whole Charlamagne era)..... There are literally thousands of historical conflicts throughout the last two millennia.
pilchardthecat said:
aclivity said:
pilchardthecat said:
aclivity said:
pilchardthecat said:
"My invisible divine omnipotent overlord is better than yours."
(Measured historically, globally, and in the sheer number of dead humans, at any rate).
Common fallacy. More death caused by "we like your country. We'll take it" by a vast factor. (Measured historically, globally, and in the sheer number of dead humans, at any rate).
WW2?
American War of Independence?
American Civil War?
Religious basis for these? As I said, it's a common one, but it IS a fallacy.
Europe endured dozens of religious conflicts through the 15,16 and 1700s, you have the muslim conquests of the 600/700s, the crusades of the 11/12/13th centuries, the collapse of the Sassanid empire and the Byzantines in Egypt, Palestine and Syria, the 30 year war in the German States, Sweden and Poland, the Taiping/Shangdi rebellion, the Hindu rebellion, the White Lotus Rebellion, the Sri Lankan Civil War(s), the Milhemet Mitzvah Jewish-Roman war, the Sikh uprising, the Frankish invasion of Saxony in 700s (the whole Charlamagne era)..... There are literally thousands of historical conflicts throughout the last two millennia.
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