What are your attitudes on death?
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After a discussion with a few friends of mine, it got me thinking...
I seem to have a very healthy, or unhealthy approach to death depending on how you look at it.
I have had two close family members die, and while it was sad, I found it very easy in a sense to deal with. I am very emotionally detached as a person anyway.
I notice that other people have very different ways of dealing with death, some like myself, others at the other end of the scale who go completely hysterical, however those are usually the same types who seek attention wherever possible, and are usually female as well so I am assuming it is just a vessel for attention seeking in that instance.
When my grandfather died, I was sad but on the whole ok. I keep having family members telling me that I "need to let it out" - but I am unsure what that means because I feel absolutely fine - death is a part of life, that is it really. No point in pretending it won't happen, or being surprised when it finally does.
So what are your attitudes to death? Are you erring towards the more hysterical sign of grief, or do you just deal with it?
One thing I absolutely cannot stand, are those that show huge public displays of grief for those that they didn't even know (Diana etc...)
I seem to have a very healthy, or unhealthy approach to death depending on how you look at it.
I have had two close family members die, and while it was sad, I found it very easy in a sense to deal with. I am very emotionally detached as a person anyway.
I notice that other people have very different ways of dealing with death, some like myself, others at the other end of the scale who go completely hysterical, however those are usually the same types who seek attention wherever possible, and are usually female as well so I am assuming it is just a vessel for attention seeking in that instance.
When my grandfather died, I was sad but on the whole ok. I keep having family members telling me that I "need to let it out" - but I am unsure what that means because I feel absolutely fine - death is a part of life, that is it really. No point in pretending it won't happen, or being surprised when it finally does.
So what are your attitudes to death? Are you erring towards the more hysterical sign of grief, or do you just deal with it?
One thing I absolutely cannot stand, are those that show huge public displays of grief for those that they didn't even know (Diana etc...)
My attitude is pretty much exactly the same as the OP's, sure it can be sad, but we all know it's going to happen. Life goes on.
Can't stand all the grief business, when I go, if they cremate me I'm playing Disco Inferno & Smoke Gets In My Eyes just for gits & shiggles.
Can't stand all the grief business, when I go, if they cremate me I'm playing Disco Inferno & Smoke Gets In My Eyes just for gits & shiggles.
Edited by PHmember on Monday 1st March 16:18
Edited by PHmember on Monday 1st March 16:20
I'm like you OP, my grandad died when I was in my late teens, he wasn't religious, the family aren't religious, we don't have a headstone to stand around and stare at a patch of grass being miserable.
I've never laughed so much at a funeral at all the stuff he got up to. I have years of happy memories, he died of cancer but kept the most amazing dry sense of humour right to the end. I don't look back in sadness I remember the happy times laughing and joking with him as I grew up.
The only thing I do feel sad about is that he won't be able to be there at my wedding this year.
Not afraid of dying myself and don't believe in any kind of afterlife, make the most of the time here and don't waste your life is my philosophy.
I've never laughed so much at a funeral at all the stuff he got up to. I have years of happy memories, he died of cancer but kept the most amazing dry sense of humour right to the end. I don't look back in sadness I remember the happy times laughing and joking with him as I grew up.
The only thing I do feel sad about is that he won't be able to be there at my wedding this year.
Not afraid of dying myself and don't believe in any kind of afterlife, make the most of the time here and don't waste your life is my philosophy.
I have always just dealt with it...by the time I was a teenager, I had lost more than 5 members of my family (who I still have happy childhood memories of)
And whilst with my ex, also went through several family deaths on his side too.
Not much choice but to get on with it, and remember the happy times.
And whilst with my ex, also went through several family deaths on his side too.
Not much choice but to get on with it, and remember the happy times.
It very much depends on the circumstances and the person, when my grandparents died it was no great suprise and although sad didn't really affect me that badly, when my father died again he'd been ill for a long time and we all knew it was coming, when a friend & collegue died in an accident at work again I could deal with it because we all knew the risks, when a few close friends have died in motorbike accidents again deal with it and move on as once more we all know the risks. I think the ones that hit you hardest are when otherwise young, fit and healthy friends/relatives simply drop dead from things like heart attacks or die very quickly from totally unexpected illness those are the ones I have trouble getting my head round as there's just no logic, predictability, reason or fairness in when they go.
FraserLFA said:
PHmember said:
Life goes on.
I'm not too fussed about death. It's sad, but it's always gonna happen at some point. I'm not scared of dying myself. Although i'll be annoyed if i get run over and killed by anything less than an Audi.
I often think how difficult it must be for families whose loved ones are mown down and killed by a Skoda.
Once, in beautiful Coventry, two chaps suffered "death by trousers" within the space of about a month.
Terrible, really.
Used to be scared about dying myself, over that now though, been knocked out with drugs a few times and I imagine that dying is something like that, just nothingness 
In terms of other people dying, had a few freinds and family die, not great. And generally it upsets me on the day etc a tip for trying to to cry at a funeral was to think of porn, worked for me. But I guess I am over those deaths now. Just waiting for the next big one, which logically will be a parent.
In terms of other people dying, had a few freinds and family die, not great. And generally it upsets me on the day etc a tip for trying to to cry at a funeral was to think of porn, worked for me. But I guess I am over those deaths now. Just waiting for the next big one, which logically will be a parent.
okgo said:
Used to be scared about dying myself, over that now though, been knocked out with drugs a few times and I imagine that dying is something like that, just nothingness
In terms of other people dying, had a few freinds and family die, not great. And generally it upsets me on the day etc a tip for trying to to cry at a funeral was to think of porn, worked for me. But I guess I am over those deaths now. Just waiting for the next big one, which logically will be a parent.
Jesus.In terms of other people dying, had a few freinds and family die, not great. And generally it upsets me on the day etc a tip for trying to to cry at a funeral was to think of porn, worked for me. But I guess I am over those deaths now. Just waiting for the next big one, which logically will be a parent.
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