wEdding list help
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Knowing the learned populous that frequents PH, I am looking for some help please folks. My other half and I are currently drawing up a wedding list of gifts etc for our forthcoming big day. However we have no idea what to put on it. So over to you guys for suggestions...
Cheers in advance
Kelk
EDIT - Missed a W off the title! Mods pls help or can someone suggest I get a typing course as a gift!
Cheers in advance
Kelk
EDIT - Missed a W off the title! Mods pls help or can someone suggest I get a typing course as a gift!
Edited by kelk on Monday 5th April 20:07
kelk said:
Dilligaf10 said:
Do you already live together and therefore have most of the household appliances you require?
Pretty much, yeahYou know this is the WRONG place to be posting this type of thing.
Some tight fecker will be along very shortly to tell you that you should just be happy that they are turning up to your big day and shouldn't expect anything other than there presence.
The fact you have probably spent at least fifty quid per head to have them there will mean f
k all.
Some tight fecker will be along very shortly to tell you that you should just be happy that they are turning up to your big day and shouldn't expect anything other than there presence.
The fact you have probably spent at least fifty quid per head to have them there will mean f
k all.We didn't mention anything about wedding gifts in our invites, and most of the responses were desperate to know what they could get us. Some people just like giving things, I suppose.
We've lived together for almost two years so we don't need any household things (apart from one or two - new hoover etc). My uncle kindly gave us a big wodge of cash which bought our honeymoon outright so we're going to ask for further donations to extend it (we're going to Egypt but can't afford the extra for a trip to the pyramids, for example).
We've lived together for almost two years so we don't need any household things (apart from one or two - new hoover etc). My uncle kindly gave us a big wodge of cash which bought our honeymoon outright so we're going to ask for further donations to extend it (we're going to Egypt but can't afford the extra for a trip to the pyramids, for example).
We got our honeymoon from Trailfinders, which has the ability for people to donate towards your honeymoon. (I think it shows up a bit like a JustGiving page, so they can leave a message with it.
We also did a small John Lewis list for the older family members who actually want to give a "thing." I managed to put a TV, PS3, PSP Go, MacBook Air and huge BBQ before the scanner thing got taken off me.
We also did a small John Lewis list for the older family members who actually want to give a "thing." I managed to put a TV, PS3, PSP Go, MacBook Air and huge BBQ before the scanner thing got taken off me.
last 2 weddings I have been to have had the rahter cheesy (but at the same time effective) 'your presence not presents are required*'
- But if you would like to help us get a head start John Lewis vouchers would be appreciated
Whatever you do, definitely have some sort of list/gift request in place, otherwise you will get a ton of absolutely horrible tat that isn't to your taste, you will not use, is all but useless and takes up valuable space. I saw this happen to a friend of mine. THeir small apartment is now littered with no doubt expensive, one-off ornaments, objets d'art, unique vases etc that they hate.
If you have most household appliance and equipment and you really don't want 3 toasters, a whole load of new plates and towels, then say so. It's not rude to request donations for your honeymoon (you can set up an account at your travel agent for this) and I think it's now ok to simply ask for cash (although you may feel this is taboo).
We requested contributions for our honeymoon, and set up an online list of gifts that guests could buy- e.g. hotel accommodation, excusrions, meals out and so on- so they knew they were contributing something meaningful (rather than 50 quid to pay the plumber). That way you can also adjust prices to what you think is acceptable for guests to pay (after all, you're going to go on your honeymoon regardless!). In our case, we went to the Seychelles and Dubai, and the costs for e.g. 1 night's hotel accommodation were way more than any normal guest would be prepared to pay- so we lowered it. It also meant that we could "invent" gifts that you know would be appealing for people to buy- like a snorkelling trip, or evening meal on the beach, and take a photo or tow of us doing this activity to include in the thank you cards.
Regardless of whatever you choose, some guest will ignore your carefully created wish list and buy you a load of crap anyway. it just helps if you can minimise it!
If you have most household appliance and equipment and you really don't want 3 toasters, a whole load of new plates and towels, then say so. It's not rude to request donations for your honeymoon (you can set up an account at your travel agent for this) and I think it's now ok to simply ask for cash (although you may feel this is taboo).
We requested contributions for our honeymoon, and set up an online list of gifts that guests could buy- e.g. hotel accommodation, excusrions, meals out and so on- so they knew they were contributing something meaningful (rather than 50 quid to pay the plumber). That way you can also adjust prices to what you think is acceptable for guests to pay (after all, you're going to go on your honeymoon regardless!). In our case, we went to the Seychelles and Dubai, and the costs for e.g. 1 night's hotel accommodation were way more than any normal guest would be prepared to pay- so we lowered it. It also meant that we could "invent" gifts that you know would be appealing for people to buy- like a snorkelling trip, or evening meal on the beach, and take a photo or tow of us doing this activity to include in the thank you cards.
Regardless of whatever you choose, some guest will ignore your carefully created wish list and buy you a load of crap anyway. it just helps if you can minimise it!
You need to split it down into cost levels, so everybody can buy you something affordable from the list. I'd suggest...
Top level: 60" plasma TV
Mid Level: PS3, Xbox360, Wii
Lower Level: Games for the above
Cheapest Level: batteries, leads and controllers.
Bingo - everybody included. Except the Mrs.
Top level: 60" plasma TV
Mid Level: PS3, Xbox360, Wii
Lower Level: Games for the above
Cheapest Level: batteries, leads and controllers.
Bingo - everybody included. Except the Mrs.
Use www.buy-our-honeymoon.com
We've just done that and it worked out really well.
It helps people feel they're actually buying you something rather than just contributing to a pile of cash. Plus it's a huge pile of cash rather than trailfinders' vouchers.
Best of luck
We've just done that and it worked out really well.
It helps people feel they're actually buying you something rather than just contributing to a pile of cash. Plus it's a huge pile of cash rather than trailfinders' vouchers.
Best of luck
We used Trailfinders.
Plan and book the trip before hand and you need to pay some weeks before going. As most people don't bother until the day before the wedding the payments were too late to actually pay up front for the honeymoon. If this is the case then they will give you vouchers or a refund to your card.
Trailfinders were excellent btw.
Plan and book the trip before hand and you need to pay some weeks before going. As most people don't bother until the day before the wedding the payments were too late to actually pay up front for the honeymoon. If this is the case then they will give you vouchers or a refund to your card.
Trailfinders were excellent btw.
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