65th Birthday.. Am I missing something?
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SWMBO Dad is turning 65 next week.. Now, he has started dropping hints about this a big one, and its special etc etc.
However, the man had a big party on his 60th, and he gave up work when he was 50.. I can understand if it was to celebrate the end of his working life this would make sense.
So now the misses, has decided than instead of the usual 30/40 quid we give him, she want to give him £100, For a reason that she doesn't get, but 'Its obviously a big deal to them'.
Am I missing something here?
However, the man had a big party on his 60th, and he gave up work when he was 50.. I can understand if it was to celebrate the end of his working life this would make sense.
So now the misses, has decided than instead of the usual 30/40 quid we give him, she want to give him £100, For a reason that she doesn't get, but 'Its obviously a big deal to them'.
Am I missing something here?
I have made the wife get him a 'retirement card' though.. There does not need to be (and shouldn't be) a correlation between "how big a deal it is" and how much you spend.
Yes, you can spend more for a special present but it does not have to be that way. If your FIL is pushing for more to be spent on him, that is a very clear indication on character, however it doesn't sound like this is the case. It sounds like the OH has made the assumption that she has to pay more.
In my eyes, there is nothing special about a 65th. Just get him a bottle of whisky and a card, or take him out for a nice meal. Job done.
Yes, you can spend more for a special present but it does not have to be that way. If your FIL is pushing for more to be spent on him, that is a very clear indication on character, however it doesn't sound like this is the case. It sounds like the OH has made the assumption that she has to pay more.
In my eyes, there is nothing special about a 65th. Just get him a bottle of whisky and a card, or take him out for a nice meal. Job done.
Wing Commander said:
There does not need to be (and shouldn't be) a correlation between "how big a deal it is" and how much you spend.
Yes, you can spend more for a special present but it does not have to be that way. If your FIL is pushing for more to be spent on him, that is a very clear indication on character, however it doesn't sound like this is the case. It sounds like the OH has made the assumption that she has to pay more.
In my eyes, there is nothing special about a 65th. Just get him a bottle of whisky and a card, or take him out for a nice meal. Job done.
Its not about the money, it just about it being special.. So the wife things she need to send a bit more than normal.Yes, you can spend more for a special present but it does not have to be that way. If your FIL is pushing for more to be spent on him, that is a very clear indication on character, however it doesn't sound like this is the case. It sounds like the OH has made the assumption that she has to pay more.
In my eyes, there is nothing special about a 65th. Just get him a bottle of whisky and a card, or take him out for a nice meal. Job done.
As for the meal, they live in Scotland, we live in the South, and we were up last week. They are honest people, but for some reason this seems to mean something to them that we cannot fathom.
joe_90 said:
HereBeMonsters said:
Why does she give her Father money for his birthday? Put some thought into it and get him a nice gift, ffs.
To go towards the holiday the want to book... happy now?I don't think I'm the only one who finds it odd.
joe_90 said:
SWMBO Dad is turning 65 next week.. Now, he has started dropping hints about this a big one, and its special etc etc.
However, the man had a big party on his 60th, and he gave up work when he was 50.. I can understand if it was to celebrate the end of his working life this would make sense.
So now the misses, has decided than instead of the usual 30/40 quid we give him, she want to give him £100, For a reason that she doesn't get, but 'Its obviously a big deal to them'.
Am I missing something here?
Compromise. £65. £1 for every year of his age.However, the man had a big party on his 60th, and he gave up work when he was 50.. I can understand if it was to celebrate the end of his working life this would make sense.
So now the misses, has decided than instead of the usual 30/40 quid we give him, she want to give him £100, For a reason that she doesn't get, but 'Its obviously a big deal to them'.
Am I missing something here?
HereBeMonsters said:
joe_90 said:
HereBeMonsters said:
Why does she give her Father money for his birthday? Put some thought into it and get him a nice gift, ffs.
To go towards the holiday the want to book... happy now?I don't think I'm the only one who finds it odd.
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dHereBeMonsters said:
joe_90 said:
HereBeMonsters said:
Why does she give her Father money for his birthday? Put some thought into it and get him a nice gift, ffs.
To go towards the holiday the want to book... happy now?I don't think I'm the only one who finds it odd.
Edited by joe_90 on Wednesday 7th April 14:18
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