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dpbird90

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5,535 posts

220 months

Thursday 15th April 2010
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I know they pop up all the time in The Lounge, but here's my story. Met someone at work, get on really well. Chatting one night when out of the blue she says she likes me as more than a friend, and of course the feeling is mutual. However we don't know each other that well, she says she wants to make an effort to sort that out though. I try and sort out days where we can spend time together, but she's a bit busy lately and I'm only going to be able to see her at work, which probably isn't the best place to discuss relationships (to be frank, neither is PH but what the hell, I've spent the last 12 hours on a train due to the fking Icelandic volcano, and most of that time's been spent getting drunk).

Flame/advice away!

And I know its inevitable that someone will suggest taking her to the Oxo Tower and smashing her back doors in on the back seat of a 335D(mapped), so once the silliness is out of the way, let the sensible advice begin. Ta

Jasandjules

72,626 posts

259 months

Thursday 15th April 2010
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Work and relationships are not a good idea IMHO.

One of you leave the company, then get together.

sday12

5,068 posts

241 months

Thursday 15th April 2010
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Dad?

Penny-lope

13,645 posts

223 months

Thursday 15th April 2010
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Jasandjules said:
Work and relationships are not a good idea IMHO.
I'd agree....avoid if possible

Do you work in the same dept.? Or just the same building/company?

V8mate

45,899 posts

219 months

Thursday 15th April 2010
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Did the OP actually ask a question? Or pose an issue?

Jasandjules

72,626 posts

259 months

Thursday 15th April 2010
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V8mate said:
Did the OP actually ask a question? Or pose an issue?
Pretty much......

bigdods

7,175 posts

257 months

Thursday 15th April 2010
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Never get your money where you get your honey.

working class

8,998 posts

217 months

Thursday 15th April 2010
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She is trying to let you down gently, take the hint.

drivin_me_nuts

17,949 posts

241 months

Thursday 15th April 2010
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This is employment and this is your gun
One pays the mortgage and the other's for fun.

What's more important, because sooner or later one of you may well have to choose.

Chrisgr31

14,289 posts

285 months

Thursday 15th April 2010
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But the reality is lots of people meet their partners at work, so mixing work with pleasure does happen, can happen, and can work out.

The reality is if the OP wants to take it further he will have to meet the girl outside work at some point so just keep working on her!



W333

417 posts

253 months

Thursday 15th April 2010
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Try and see her outside of work a few times. If you both enjoy your time together after seeing each other a few times, ask her what she wants from the relationship. Don't try to pin her down too much, it will be obvious what she wants by this stage.

Act depending on the answer. When she says she doesn't want anything from it and you can't live with the shame of being rejected by someone that is so immediately close to you, leave. I mean, imagine having to see her every day, knowing that you weren't good enough for her. Food for thought. Go get her fella!

Edited by W333 on Thursday 15th April 22:03

Shabs

1,866 posts

236 months

Thursday 15th April 2010
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met my wife at work, she left the company... actually so did I, but the point being is that one of you will eventually have to even if it does work out smile

mitzy

13,858 posts

227 months

Thursday 15th April 2010
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Dont poke the payroll.

WorAl

10,877 posts

218 months

Thursday 15th April 2010
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[mongo]smash her back doors in[/mongo]

Goochie

5,800 posts

249 months

Thursday 15th April 2010
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dpbird90 said:
And I know its inevitable that someone will suggest taking her to the Oxo Tower and smashing her back doors in on the back seat of a 335D(mapped), so once the silliness is out of the way, let the sensible advice begin. Ta
What? No mention of an MX5 ?

GTIR

24,741 posts

296 months

Thursday 15th April 2010
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bigdods said:
Never get your money where you get your honey.
Pooh Bear's fked then.

louiebaby

10,992 posts

221 months

Friday 16th April 2010
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Working for the same company needn't be a big problem, it depends how big the company is, and how close you work to her.

If you sit next to her in an office, and spend all day working with her, think long ang hard about it. If you're a mechanic and she works in the offices, so you only see her on lunch breaks, it's not such a big deal.

Although it's wrong to go into any new relationship wondering what will happen if it doesn't work out, when your job is concerned, it is a very valid consideration.

Dupont666

22,938 posts

222 months

Friday 16th April 2010
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Never st on your own doorstep... It makes life complicated.

Oscarmac

354 posts

199 months

Friday 16th April 2010
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Whilst the old phrase "Don't dip your pen in company ink" springs to mind, I think it very much depends on how big the company is and how uncomfortable it could become at work if the relationship didn't work or turned sour.

anonymous-user

84 months

Friday 16th April 2010
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If you work in a large company where your more or less the whole employment opportunity and the village/town is there because of you, you have no choice.

Completely depends on your own situation, I am aware of whole families being created by and working for one company.

Creates some interesting misconduct opportunities I can tell you.

Edited by anonymous-user on Friday 16th April 09:30