Best mates....some times the are a pain in the ass
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The jist of the story is....3 years ago I left my long term partner, and thankfully my best mate of 24 years, and her hubby, put me and my 4 year old son up for six months.
During this time, I had very little money (one job, no maintenance payments, half a mortgage, etc) and therefore I was unable to give her anything for staying there. I did clean the house, buy and cook meals but over all felt like crap for not being able to contribute.
I finally got my own place to rent, and money got a tad easier as I got another job, started to receive maintenance and finally got my half of the house (ex partner bought me out). 16 months on and it was time to look for my own pad.....but I made the mistake of telling my landlord, who promptly gave me a months notice.
So once again we were homeless....and once again my best friend put us up for 8 wks. This time I could at least pay my way, and also wanted to give them a 'thank you' gift for helping me so much.
I decided to give them some cash for a nice meal (can't remember the amount tbh) plus I stuck a few hundred in a piggy bank in their daughters room, and said nothing.
10 months on, and I go on Facebook today only to see that she has found the piggy.
She knows it must have been me who left the money and is now insisting I take it back straight away, which of course I have refused. But if you knew Mrs F, you would also know this is not going to be an easy task to continue.
Why the hell can't best mates just accept gifts!
(Opps just noticed the title mistake....see what she's got me like already
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During this time, I had very little money (one job, no maintenance payments, half a mortgage, etc) and therefore I was unable to give her anything for staying there. I did clean the house, buy and cook meals but over all felt like crap for not being able to contribute.
I finally got my own place to rent, and money got a tad easier as I got another job, started to receive maintenance and finally got my half of the house (ex partner bought me out). 16 months on and it was time to look for my own pad.....but I made the mistake of telling my landlord, who promptly gave me a months notice.
So once again we were homeless....and once again my best friend put us up for 8 wks. This time I could at least pay my way, and also wanted to give them a 'thank you' gift for helping me so much.
I decided to give them some cash for a nice meal (can't remember the amount tbh) plus I stuck a few hundred in a piggy bank in their daughters room, and said nothing.
10 months on, and I go on Facebook today only to see that she has found the piggy.
She knows it must have been me who left the money and is now insisting I take it back straight away, which of course I have refused. But if you knew Mrs F, you would also know this is not going to be an easy task to continue.
Why the hell can't best mates just accept gifts!
(Opps just noticed the title mistake....see what she's got me like already
) Edited by Penny-lope on Thursday 3rd June 19:29
Well, you can find other ways of paying them back, buy the children (or them) a decent pressie or two. They may feel slightly insulted about you giving them cash that way, they may well have been quite happy to put you up simply because you are a friend.
I can understand what they are saying, I wouldn't want someone we'd put up to pay us some cash either.....
I can understand what they are saying, I wouldn't want someone we'd put up to pay us some cash either.....
HereBeMonsters said:
Penny-lope said:
Scott330ci said:
Money is a rubbish gift. Its better to buy them something thoughtful.
Trust me, they need nothing.....or perhaps two Ipad covers 
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