Paying for dinner Etiquette

[Brother D]

So conundrum...


Meeting the prospective in-laws for the first time in a restaurant.

Should I insist on paying the bill?

Or let the Dad if he insists? There by not diminishing his status?


Thanks in advance on a tricky one.


Peace out.

[Soovy]

Brother D said:

So conundrum...


Meeting the prospective in-laws for the first time in a restaurant.

Should I insist on paying the bill?

Or let the Dad if he insists? There by not diminishing his status?


Thanks in advance on a tricky one.


Peace out.

Offer to pay, if he says no, then offer to buy the wine.

If he still insists, let him pay, and say thank you.

Edited by Soovy on Thursday 1st July 14:35

[rich1231]

Who asked the other party to come to dinner?

[Brother D]

I think the OH asked them, so I assumed it would come down to me to pay.

But by all accounts the Dad is quite a gruff man's man, and not wanting to put him on the wrong foot and all that at first meeting, as this one is in all probability a keeper.

Peace.

[Cock Womble 7]

rich1231 said:

Who asked the other party to come to dinner?

Does the inviter pay for the invitee's dinner?

[Cock Womble 7]

rich1231 said:

Cock Womble 7 said:

rich1231 said:

Who asked the other party to come to dinner?

Does the inviter pay for the invitee's dinner?

I would suggest that is the correct approach.

You invite someone for dinner, you pay.

Sounds fair to me.

[OnTheOverrun]

Get an iphone app that disects the bill into fractions of a penny automatically allowing for who had the extra bread roll and who didn't have a coffee and take bags of small change with you to insure you can tender exactly your share of the bill.

That'll impress 'em.

[Cock Womble 7]

Time warp.

[rich1231]

Cock Womble 7 said:

rich1231 said:

Who asked the other party to come to dinner?

Does the inviter pay for the invitee's dinner?

I would suggest that is the correct approach.

You invite someone for dinner, you pay.

[Astacus]

Soovy said:

Brother D said:

So conundrum...


Meeting the prospective in-laws for the first time in a restaurant.

Should I insist on paying the bill?

Or let the Dad if he insists? There by not diminishing his status?


Thanks in advance on a tricky one.


Peace out.

Offer to pay, if he says no, then offer to buy the wine.

If he still insists, let him pay, and say thank you.

Edited by Soovy on Thursday 1st July 14:35

Spot on.

Next.............

[hornetrider]

Brother D said:

Peace out.

Brother D said:

Peace.

What the fk?

[GTIR]

If he offers to pay except his kind offer and say "It'll give me more money to buy condoms, need loads see. Dad"

[CraigW]

try not to make a big deal of it. Offer to pay before he does, if he insists then accept graciously and thank him personally afterwards as well as adding that next time it's your turn.

If he makes it clear that paying is "his thing" then next time maybe order and pay for some champagne before dinner or send potential MIL some flowers and invite him for a pint.

[RobCrezz]

Soovy said:

Brother D said:

So conundrum...


Meeting the prospective in-laws for the first time in a restaurant.

Should I insist on paying the bill?

Or let the Dad if he insists? There by not diminishing his status?


Thanks in advance on a tricky one.


Peace out.

Offer to pay, if he says no, then offer to buy the wine.

If he still insists, let him pay, and say thank you.

Edited by Soovy on Thursday 1st July 14:35

This.

[louismchuge]

hornetrider said:

Brother D said:

Peace out.

Brother D said:

Peace.

What the fk?

War?

[Frankeh]

Make them pay, then fk their daughter while thinking about the free meal you just got.

Best night ever.

[CraigW]

or stroke his leg and ask him if you can poke him on facebook

[Big E 118]

Offer to pay but if there's any discussion say:

"for fs sake man, Mrs Brother D promised I could smash her back doors in if tonights dinner went well, I'm gagging to get home"

[Cock Womble 7]

CraigW said:

If he makes it clear that paying is "his thing" then next time maybe order and pay for some champagne before dinner or send potential MIL some flowers and invite him for a pint.

Then retire to the drawing room with port and cigars and discuss with him exactly how many ways you're going to fk his daughter bandy that very evening.

Potential Father-In-Laws love that sort of stuff.

[Odie]

Pay in advance, so you can coolly go "its already been taken care of"