Wedding Reception Attire

[Rags]

Hello There,

I have a wedding reception in a couple of hours and am debating whether I need to wear a tie or not.

I am planning on wearing a custom made smart striped shirt, with a dark grey suit and black shoes but no tie.

It is at a swanky hotel in London but the wedding was last week and this is going to be a more relaxed affair.

Is this acceptable?

[dugt]

Wear the tie and you can always take it off, don't wear one and you will feel silly if everyone else does.

[flyingjase]

Rags said:

Hello There,

I have a wedding reception in a couple of hours and am debating whether I need to wear a tie or not.

I am planning on wearing a custom made smart striped shirt, with a dark grey suit and black shoes but no tie.

It is at a swanky hotel in London but the wedding was last week and this is going to be a more relaxed affair.

Is this acceptable?

That will be absolutely fine as long as you're confident enough in yourself. If you're one of these people that needs to do what everyone else does, then as has been suggested, wear one that you can take off later.

I never wear a tie to weddings anymore and I'm talking about the daytime service as well as the evening do. Nobody has ever said anything to me to infer they found it rude.

Edited by flyingjase on Saturday 3rd July 17:21

[Blown2CV]

I too hardly ever wear ties anymore, esp in Summer. Depends on the type of affair though, but I would suggest that anything other than business meetings and very stuffy dos require a tie. I have however had people mention it to me, but on the other hand, I don't give a fk.

[Marcellus]

I haven't worn a tie for years (except to my own wedding) and couldn't give a monkeys whether my guests did or didn't wear one...... that they were there was the main thing.

[Slaav]

Marcellus said:

I haven't worn a tie for years (except to my own wedding) and couldn't give a monkeys whether my guests did or didn't wear one...... that they were there was the main thing.

Agree with this. If the wedding is totally formal, then maybe a tie. If not, then enjoy and be comfortable - not jeans and T but you know what I mean.

I pretty much never wear a tie any more even in formal meetings (depending on the other attendees) and that is with formal suits and shirts etc

No tie!

[Slaav]

anonymous said:

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Agreed - Personally I find it reasonably simple and if in real doubt - tie!

If an evening do and not too formal, I am not sure I would wear one ever but if a very 'old school' family and host, would go with what works best - tie...

If full blown day wedding with white frock, church etc, would probably bring one and maybe even wear it!

If the main event is full morning/penguin suit - tie every time (if not also penguin suit)

HTH? We are all different and I am not sure that I would ever want to be the only one without a tie? But mid summer and garden party style, would struggle to talk me into wearing one!

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[whoami]

anonymous said:

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They sound like a pair of characters.

[Marcellus]

ANy update RAGS.. what did you decide and how did it go?

[Nolar Dog]

Yes we're all dying to know.
I assume that will have to wait until the Internet has told you what to have for breakfast?

[becksW]

This is a bit different because it's not the actual wedding but I'd say tie and remove if nec. Mainly for any group photos.

I've mentioned it before but a couple of our photos weren't so great due to a friend of hubbys wearing casual open shirt, when everyone else were in ties, he really stood out and not in a good way.

For the rest of the time I didn't really care (or notice) what people wore but this really bothered me, esp as everytime I look at those photos that's what really notices!

[gilla]

Ties are for estate agents, recruitment consultants, *insert anything* consultants and people who are concerned about image over anything else. I couldn't care less both in business and personally what other people are wearing or if my attire offends them. If they want me there i'll be there and what is covering my skin is entirely irrelevant. The effort to be smartly presented is a must on occasions... How a useless strip of cloth around your neck like a ready made noose reflects this I have no idea! Unless someone asks me specifically to wear a tie there is no hope in hell. Even if asked it will only happen if i'm best man/usher/in a casket without a choice!

Just checked wardrobe... i don't even own one despite spending 1/2 my life in business mettings!

[Rags]

Morning all,

Slightly hungover but enjoyed last night.

For what it's worth, I wore the above without a tie and was absolutely fine.

I had loads of compliments about how sharp I looked compared to the majority who were in Black and White with a coloured tie. I think it was the fact I was wearing a very well cut shirt with a high collar, it would have looked comedy with a tie.

So there you have it, completely acceptable.

[flyingjase]

anonymous said:

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Tonks - you sound a bit uptight about this! (or should that be uptie)

Personally (and of course it's not about me!) if someone invites you to a wedding, then they want you there, warts and all. Tie or no tie. It shouldn't matter to them. A wedding is about celebrating the joining of two people, not about how smart the guests are. And ofcouse smartness is all a matter of opinion.

Ofcourse if you have your head stuck up your ass and the day is really for show (as most weddings seem to be these days) then I can understand why the bride would get the hump of someone didn't wear a tie. If it's about love, then who cares?

To the OP - glad it went well sans tie

[flyingjase]

anonymous said:

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I have to agree with you on a couple of things here.

For me it's tie or no tie - loosened tie for photos is wrong. Loosened tie at end of the night is ok, but definately not for photos. I always wonder why people wear a tie then loosen it (unless they are leathered)

Also, beer in the formal photos, really? Didn't the phtographer say something? I mean ok for the more casual photos that wedding photographers seem to be going for a lot these days, but not good in the formal line up.

[V8mate]

Rags said:

I had loads of compliments ... I think it was the fact I was wearing a very well cut shirt with a high collar

[Cotty]

flyingjase said:

I never wear a tie to weddings anymore and I'm talking about the daytime service as well as the evening do. Nobody has ever said anything to me to infer they found it rude.

Perhaps they were to polite to mention it.

anonymous said:

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On the other hand a few people did not wear a tie to a wedding I went to and the groom only noticed when he looked at the wedding photos a year later.

[Cock Womble 7]

Is it acceptable to wear one's tie tied around one's head whilst sliding on one's knees across the dance-floor at the reception?

[Cotty]

flyingjase said:

Personally (and of course it's not about me!) if someone invites you to a wedding, then they want you there, warts and all. Tie or no tie. It shouldn't matter to them. A wedding is about celebrating the joining of two people, not about how smart the guests are. And of couse smartness is all a matter of opinion.

Its all about protocol. Jeans are not acceptable at a wedding and I am sure you would agree. Its the dregees of dress that you have to take into account. If everyone was suited and booted then follow suit, if they were open colar then you have the option to remove your tie.

flyingjase said:

Ofcourse if you have your head stuck up your ass and the day is really for show (as most weddings seem to be these days) then I can understand why the bride would get the hump of someone didn't wear a tie. If it's about love, then who cares?

If it is for show which I don't believe, why not join in and dress appropriately

[Cotty]

Cock Womble 7 said:

Is it acceptable to wear one's tie tied around one's head whilst sliding on one's knees across the dance-floor at the reception?

Only at the end of the night, I think down the isle may raise some eyebrows

Edited by Cotty on Sunday 4th July 18:01