When do you know.....

[speed_monkey]

Hello guys, girls and Nolar

Quick question posed to the PH masses......

When the fk do you know you have exited the "dating phase" and into full on I want all of your money and will not even suck your plums "relationship phase".

Reason I ask is I have been dating this girl for a while (2 or 3 weeks) and we have spoken about what we want i.e something along the lines of a relationship and not "fun" or "fk buddies" but when do you know that you are officially an item?

It was so much easier back at school, you'd finger the girl at the disco and say "will you go out with me" and hey presto, I get to play stink finger for a while till I meet a fitter girl at the next disco.

Come on then..... explain this crazy ritual to me....

[Sheets Tabuer]

After you have discussed it or when she starts to tell you about her day and you think oh ffs

[speed_monkey]

Well the discussion went along the lines of this:

Me: So what exactly are you wanting out of this
Her: Well I am about ready to settle down now so I guess relationship..... what about you?
Me: Yeah same....(turn back to watching T2: Judgement Day directors cut..... awesome film BTW)

[Penny-lope]

When they call you their g/f / b/f to other people, including their parents

Oh and fart openly in front of you

[speed_monkey]

Buggles said:

Is it not the moment you become 'exclusive' to each other.

Dating goes on for months surely? The odd nights spent at each others homes, weekends away e.t.c.

fk knows mate.... shes stayed over mine quite a few times.

I don't mind the exclusive to each other part.... shes a cool girl and we get on well

[Mr E Driver]

When she goes for a piss while you are having a shower/bath, assuming the piss pot and the bath/shower are in the same room.

[speed_monkey]

Penny-lope said:

When they call you their g/f / b/f to other people, including their parents

Oh and fart openly in front of you

Does burping count???

[Penny-lope]

Mr E Driver said:

When she goes for a piss while you are having a shower/bath, assuming the piss pot and the bath/shower are in the same room.

In that case, I am still single


Just joking Mike

[speed_monkey]

Sheets Tabuer said:

when she starts to tell you about her day and you think oh ffs

Is that not all women???

[Nolar Dog]

You cheeky fker.

I hope she dumps you.
For a pre-op tranny.
With a bigger cock.

[speed_monkey]

Buggles said:

speed_monkey said:

Buggles said:

Is it not the moment you become 'exclusive' to each other.

Dating goes on for months surely? The odd nights spent at each others homes, weekends away e.t.c.

fk knows mate.... shes stayed over mine quite a few times.

I don't mind the exclusive to each other part.... shes a cool girl and we get on well

Well, I have been out of the game for a while, but this is my take on it mate.

You meet a girl and start dating, actual dates like the cinema, meals e.t.c. You don't have to delete the contents of your bat phone at this point however.
As time goes on, you spend a bit more time together, nights at each others homes and she will at some point just start phoning you to say hi, because 'she misses you' e.t.c.
Then I would say, you are pretty much exclusive and she may think about bringing a couple of bits and bobs over to yours so she can get ready for work from there.

It is a minefield mate, and every relationship is different but good luck. It's easier being single, but more rewarding being in a relationship

Actual Dates? check
Lots of nights/ time together? check
Lots of random phone calls/ text? check

Moving her things in??? Negative 10-4 the pattern is full!

Me thinks I might have to have one of those "grown up" discussions again, I cant just make quick replies like "yeah same" all my life while returning my 110% of attention to frankly awesome 80's/ 90's films

[Sheets Tabuer]

speed_monkey said:

Sheets Tabuer said:

when she starts to tell you about her day and you think oh ffs

Is that not all women???

Later can you perfect the art of nodding along without actually taking any of it in for now you have to take part

[speed_monkey]

Nolar Dog said:

You cheeky fker.

I hope she dumps you.
For a pre-op tranny.
With a bigger cock.

[speed_monkey]

Sheets Tabuer said:

speed_monkey said:

Sheets Tabuer said:

when she starts to tell you about her day and you think oh ffs

Is that not all women???

Later can you perfect the art of nodding along without actually taking any of it in for now you have to take part

oooh yes I have this one perfected coupled with enthused "uh-huh's" and "no way she didn't did she" and its the perfect crime!

[peterbredde]

Have you smelt her st yet? That for me is the real clincher. If it makes you want to hurl, then just go and save the 2 of you a load of trouble. If it doesn't, she's the one. It's not romantic, but that's life.

[Pagey]

Buggles said:

Then I would say, you are pretty much exclusive and she may think about bringing a couple of bits and bobs over to yours so she can get ready for work from there.

So the hairbrush, toothbrush, shampoo etc all mean.........


Oh heck, she currently has my spare key (and has had it for a week!) I assumed she would lock up as she left and pop it back through letterbox

[speed_monkey]

Buggles said:

speed_monkey said:

Buggles said:

speed_monkey said:

Buggles said:

Is it not the moment you become 'exclusive' to each other.

Dating goes on for months surely? The odd nights spent at each others homes, weekends away e.t.c.

fk knows mate.... shes stayed over mine quite a few times.

I don't mind the exclusive to each other part.... shes a cool girl and we get on well

Well, I have been out of the game for a while, but this is my take on it mate.

You meet a girl and start dating, actual dates like the cinema, meals e.t.c. You don't have to delete the contents of your bat phone at this point however.
As time goes on, you spend a bit more time together, nights at each others homes and she will at some point just start phoning you to say hi, because 'she misses you' e.t.c.
Then I would say, you are pretty much exclusive and she may think about bringing a couple of bits and bobs over to yours so she can get ready for work from there.

It is a minefield mate, and every relationship is different but good luck. It's easier being single, but more rewarding being in a relationship

Actual Dates? check
Lots of nights/ time together? check
Lots of random phone calls/ text? check

Moving her things in??? Negative 10-4 the pattern is full!

Me thinks I might have to have one of those "grown up" discussions again, I cant just make quick replies like "yeah same" all my life while returning my 110% of attention to frankly awesome 80's/ 90's films

I know that feeling. Have you had the awkward silence yet when they have clearly asked you something important, but you have missed it because you were thinking about what car to buy next? Or daydreaming about being Rambo? Or Rocky? They don't make films like they used to!

It was always Corporal Hicks for me "affirmative"

[silverthorn2151]

speed_monkey said:

Reason I ask is I have been dating this girl for a while (2 or 3 weeks) and we have spoken about what we want i.e something along the lines of a relationship and not "fun" or "fk buddies" but when do you know that you are officially an item?

Whatever it is or might be, it ain't it yet!

I have colds last longer than that, and let me tell you by week 4 I can be quite fed up with that little relationship!

[speed_monkey]

silverthorn2151 said:

speed_monkey said:

Reason I ask is I have been dating this girl for a while (2 or 3 weeks) and we have spoken about what we want i.e something along the lines of a relationship and not "fun" or "fk buddies" but when do you know that you are officially an item?

Whatever it is or might be, it ain't it yet!

I have colds last longer than that, and let me tell you by week 4 I can be quite fed up with that little relationship!

Agreed..... however I do not want to fall into the hole of assuming we're just "dating" when she thinks we are an official item

[working class]

Is "dating" the same as "seeing each other" then?