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I'm not talking about the serious court case type of stalking here but the Ex-mrs type of stalking.
It seems that I have a nack of attracting nutters... I'm currently on my 3rd Ex who after the split is incessantly hassling me. So far this week I've been woken up between 3-5am 3 days by texts, phone calls on mobile/home phone. From her number, with held numbers and others.
The content includes...demands to know who I'm in bed with, paranoid delusions, accusations, demands for sex, asking if I'm free on x y z day to meet up, apologies for previous messages, threats of a mate who's a boxer (
), telling me it's over (er yeah I know that), descriptions of how she's currently playing with herself (this i don't mind), telling me all sorts of crap she (alledgedly) did behind my back... blah blah blah
The following morning i get more texts starting at around 8 every day, being nice and apologising for the insanity, then going downhill until mid-morning... stopping for the afternoon and starting again at night.
One of my previous ex's used to turn up at my house a few times a week in the middle of the night crying, drunk and ALWAYS on the last tube/bus to try and force me to let her in. This only stopped after her visa ran out about 4 months later and she had to f
k off back to australia (where she currently has another boyfriend with the same fking name as me... hmmm) Both became violent, paranoid, insecure nutters which is why the relationships ended.
Now this isn't another relationship thread moan, a cry for help or advise on how to handle it... I'm perfectly capable of dealing with it... I just don't know anybody else amongst my mates who's had this so I turn to you lot on here to ask... is this common than you'd think or do i just have incredibly bad luck/judgement
?
Yes I am the common denominator and it would seem that I do pick them with a serious dose of the mental
Yes I could turn my phone off but I don't want to. Yes I could change my number but I've had it for 17 years and don't want the hassle. They always go away in the end!!
It seems that I have a nack of attracting nutters... I'm currently on my 3rd Ex who after the split is incessantly hassling me. So far this week I've been woken up between 3-5am 3 days by texts, phone calls on mobile/home phone. From her number, with held numbers and others.
The content includes...demands to know who I'm in bed with, paranoid delusions, accusations, demands for sex, asking if I'm free on x y z day to meet up, apologies for previous messages, threats of a mate who's a boxer (
), telling me it's over (er yeah I know that), descriptions of how she's currently playing with herself (this i don't mind), telling me all sorts of crap she (alledgedly) did behind my back... blah blah blahThe following morning i get more texts starting at around 8 every day, being nice and apologising for the insanity, then going downhill until mid-morning... stopping for the afternoon and starting again at night.
One of my previous ex's used to turn up at my house a few times a week in the middle of the night crying, drunk and ALWAYS on the last tube/bus to try and force me to let her in. This only stopped after her visa ran out about 4 months later and she had to f
k off back to australia (where she currently has another boyfriend with the same fking name as me... hmmm) Both became violent, paranoid, insecure nutters which is why the relationships ended.Now this isn't another relationship thread moan, a cry for help or advise on how to handle it... I'm perfectly capable of dealing with it... I just don't know anybody else amongst my mates who's had this so I turn to you lot on here to ask... is this common than you'd think or do i just have incredibly bad luck/judgement
?Yes I am the common denominator and it would seem that I do pick them with a serious dose of the mental
Yes I could turn my phone off but I don't want to. Yes I could change my number but I've had it for 17 years and don't want the hassle. They always go away in the end!!
Hey gilla
I have had this for last 18 months beleive it or not. How did it stop? Well I think it has, been quiet for a month or so......
I told them I had met someone else. I had met them sometime before then but didn't impart that information, I wish I had though as it got worse for a week then nothing at all.
Oh turn off your phone at night! Don't put up with it, I am a fking fool for putting up with it but it seems alright now.
I have had this for last 18 months beleive it or not. How did it stop? Well I think it has, been quiet for a month or so......
I told them I had met someone else. I had met them sometime before then but didn't impart that information, I wish I had though as it got worse for a week then nothing at all.
Oh turn off your phone at night! Don't put up with it, I am a f
king fool for putting up with it but it seems alright now.Custard Test said:
Hey gilla
I have had this for last 18 months beleive it or not. How did it stop? Well I think it has, been quiet for a month or so......
I told them I had met someone else. I had met them sometime before then but didn't impart that information, I wish I had though as it got worse for a week then nothing at all.
Oh turn off your phone at night! Don't put up with it, I am a fking fool for putting up with it but it seems alright now.
since you built that new patio perhaps I have had this for last 18 months beleive it or not. How did it stop? Well I think it has, been quiet for a month or so......
I told them I had met someone else. I had met them sometime before then but didn't impart that information, I wish I had though as it got worse for a week then nothing at all.
Oh turn off your phone at night! Don't put up with it, I am a f
king fool for putting up with it but it seems alright now.This one is a relatively short period of time so far - I'm not putting up with it and will not get dragged intop a slanging match with her. I'm currently just calmly asking her to stop every now and again and remaining as nice as possible whilst asking to be left alone. I'm pretty sure she's gone off the rails on drink and coke - which she had previous issues with... no other reason she'd be awake at the times she is or as paranoid.
This may be the wrong approach but I'll wait and see... luckily she's 30 miles away so it'll remain a phone pest... she's blocked on all my online accounts.
Bernard80 said:
gilla said:
V8mate said:
gilla said:
Bernard80 said:
You appear to drive women crazy. And not in a good way
^ this..oh hang on a minute... it's me he's talking about
Bernard80 said:
gilla said:
V8mate said:
gilla said:
Bernard80 said:
You appear to drive women crazy. And not in a good way
^ this..oh hang on a minute... it's me he's talking about
snowy slopes said:
possibly due to the fact that when we do split up they have found someone better
That is is saddest thing I have ever read on here, and not in a "your sad" kinda way but a "ah I feel for you man", and now I sound like a gay.Never had an issue with crazy wimin, other then I cant seem to get them to like me, my mate swears by them, as there are nutters in the sack too.
KrazyIvan said:
... nutters in the sack too.
This is very true... however "mental with benefits" sometimes ends badly... definate nympho and very good at it... hmmmI'm now debating on giving into her demands for sex, just one last time... after all the s
t I'm already getting, what's the worst that could happen??? gilla said:
she's gone off the rails on drink and coke - which she had previous issues with...
On a serious note, if I found out the female i was chatting up had these sorts of previous issues, id be running, very fast.No Offence, but perhaps aim higher than ex-druggie??
No doubt, she was very nice, and no doubt someone will pop-up saying they are an ex druggie and now are very normal, but as a general rule, steer VERY clear....
Petrolhead_Rich said:
gilla said:
she's gone off the rails on drink and coke - which she had previous issues with...
On a serious note, if I found out the female i was chatting up had these sorts of previous issues, id be running, very fast.No Offence, but perhaps aim higher than ex-druggie??
No doubt, she was very nice, and no doubt someone will pop-up saying they are an ex druggie and now are very normal, but as a general rule, steer VERY clear....
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