Petty arguments that are bigger than they deserve to be
Discussion
So, what's the stupidest 'proper' argument you have had with the OH?
I will open with the tea bag story and see if you can beat it in terms of stupidity and outcome:
I had 2 business visitors for a meeting( I work from home). OH prepares the refreshments, sandwiches, cups etc. but tells me I have to sort out the serving of tea/coffee. I go to put water in the tea pot and there are already fresh tea bags in the pot she has prepared, so I put in the water and take it through to the office. At serving the tea is like bull's blood and I explained to the visitor that I will add more water to the pot as OH doesn't drink tea and isn't sure how many bags are required for 2-3 cups. As I go to the kettle OH is there so I ask her how many bags she has put in because it is very strong. Terse response. As soon as the visitors go we get a full blown shouty argument about my need to check the number if bags in the pot and not leave everything up to her, and how humilating it was to be 'blamed' for too many tea bags in the pot in front of visitors. Both of us see each other's response as 'typical': me laughing at the trivial nature of her concerns and her seeing it as deadly serious, life changing stuff. Cue 2 hours of sulking, banging cupboard doors and ignoring each other before we reluctantly make up.
The answer is 4 tea bags.
Both my OH and I are pretty chilled out but in the year we've lived together we've come close to an argument twice. The first time was over how we should pack our shopping in Sainsbury's- for some reason it became ABSOLUTELY CRITICAL to me that the heavy stuff should be in the beefiest bag, goodness knows why as it was fine in the bag she'd put it in. After this the person unpacking the trolley tends to let the other get on with the packing unmolested...
The second almost-argument was over her pathological need to wash up as she goes along, meaning she's elbow-deep in soapy water whilst her freshly cooked dinner gets cold next to her. I got annoyed as I can't see the point, she got annoyed with me because I'm questioning the way she cooks. Two minutes later we were wondering what the fuss was all about, and I've learned that it's not worth the worry.
The second almost-argument was over her pathological need to wash up as she goes along, meaning she's elbow-deep in soapy water whilst her freshly cooked dinner gets cold next to her. I got annoyed as I can't see the point, she got annoyed with me because I'm questioning the way she cooks. Two minutes later we were wondering what the fuss was all about, and I've learned that it's not worth the worry.
stitched said:
Best was when the, then, wife was ill and I'd paid a friend of a friend to do the housework, row because she kept tidying the house the day before the girl I'd paid was due.
Daft really but at the time it was a humdinger.
This is female - "I don't want the cleaner to think we have a dirty house."Daft really but at the time it was a humdinger.
Rude-boy said:
stitched said:
Best was when the, then, wife was ill and I'd paid a friend of a friend to do the housework, row because she kept tidying the house the day before the girl I'd paid was due.
Daft really but at the time it was a humdinger.
This is female - "I don't want the cleaner to think we have a dirty house."Daft really but at the time it was a humdinger.
There's a difference between cleaning the house before the cleaner comes and tidying it.
I actually can't remember an example of a trivial matter which has caused an argument.
However, I have learned that suggesting "...this is MENTAL..." tends not to bring such an argument to a state of amicable calm. In fact it tips her into full cross-eyed-with-anger Hitler speech mode.
Countering that, Mrs Zep can always choose to get the "You've changed..." dirty bomb from her significant armoury.
However, I have learned that suggesting "...this is MENTAL..." tends not to bring such an argument to a state of amicable calm. In fact it tips her into full cross-eyed-with-anger Hitler speech mode.
Countering that, Mrs Zep can always choose to get the "You've changed..." dirty bomb from her significant armoury.
I frequently receive an exhibition of the full mental due to stuff my family does - and which I have absolutely no control over, but simply because they are my relatives its my fault....and taking my usual approach of simply ignoring her simply makes it worse. Its an absolutely no-win situation, and what has irritated her is usually fantastically trivial stuff which has no impact on us whatsoever.
Cogcog said:
Yes but the best was when she took the huff because she had a dream that I was having an affair. Took me half a day to change her mood.
Been down that road before. Woke up, rolled over to give oh a good morning kiss and cuddle and she gets up and storms out the room before i have chance. So i'm laying there thinking wtf? 20 mins later she came back in, said she'd had the above sort of dream. Also took a good 3 hours or so for her to chill out and realise its her dream.Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff