Being happy for other people...

[JungleJim]

shameful to admit but...I just can't do it.

[Austin.J]

Don't worry, I'm a miserable tt too.

[sleep envy]

JungleJim said:

shameful to admit but...I just can't do it.

jealousy is an ugly trait

[10 Pence Short]

I had a massive lack of empathy for others until recently. Maybe one day you'll get over it and wake up. Hopefully you will.

[anonymous-user]

JungleJim said:

shameful to admit but...I just can't do it.

What strangers or people you know like friends and family?

[Ricky_M]

I'm happy for someone if I think they have worked for what they have and deserve it! Have never been jealous of anybody deserving.

What I can not stand is lazy scroungers that seem to always land on their feet and rub it in your face, makes you wonder why you work so hard and have little to show for it! Finance and Fraud is usually the reason!

[10 Pence Short]

dibbers006 said:

A perceived lack of empathy can be a sign of depression.

Do you also find yourself putting off tasks you could do today or stressing over minor changes to your routine.

I doubt you have a lack of care for others, it is much more likely you are caught up in your own issues, whether knowingly or not, that prevents you from projecting emotion towards fellow beings.

This. Seriously. This.

[rsv gone!]

It is not enough that I succeed, everyone else must fail

[anonymous-user]

Does anyone else feel like sharing with the group?

[308mate]

dibbers006 said:

A perceived lack of empathy can be a sign of depression.

Do you also find yourself putting off tasks you could do today or stressing over minor changes to your routine.

I doubt you have a lack of care for others, it is much more likely you are caught up in your own issues, whether knowingly or not, that prevents you from projecting emotion towards fellow beings.

Only if you lack compassion towards animals and their welfare should you start to consider the loony bin for our own good

Thats me and the Mrs I think.

Though she is mediterranean. Ive given up trying to work whether Im actually Arthur or Martha. She will soon tell me.

[Austin.J]

dibbers006 said:

A perceived lack of empathy can be a sign of depression.

Do you also find yourself putting off tasks you could do today or stressing over minor changes to your routine.

I doubt you have a lack of care for others, it is much more likely you are caught up in your own issues, whether knowingly or not, that prevents you from projecting emotion towards fellow beings.

Only if you lack compassion towards animals and their welfare should you start to consider the loony bin for our own good

For the last 2 years near enough I've had the same dinner everyday at work, a few weeks ago I had to get a jacket potato, I was genuinely very upset, think not angry but so angry you're nearly crying.

Am I just wrong in the head?

[4988cc]

dibbers006 said:

A perceived lack of empathy can be a sign of depression.

Only if you lack compassion towards animals and their welfare should you start to consider the loony bin for our own good

You're confusing symptoms of depression and psychopathy/sociopathy I think. Depressive people can be intensely empathic.

[10 Pence Short]

Austin.J said:

dibbers006 said:

A perceived lack of empathy can be a sign of depression.

Do you also find yourself putting off tasks you could do today or stressing over minor changes to your routine.

I doubt you have a lack of care for others, it is much more likely you are caught up in your own issues, whether knowingly or not, that prevents you from projecting emotion towards fellow beings.

Only if you lack compassion towards animals and their welfare should you start to consider the loony bin for our own good

For the last 2 years near enough I've had the same dinner everyday at work, a few weeks ago I had to get a jacket potato, I was genuinely very upset, think not angry but so angry you're nearly crying.

Am I just wrong in the head?

What filling was it? It makes the difference.

[4988cc]

NeMiSiS said:

I think the word apathy rather than empathy is more suited to someone suffering with depression.

At times.

[Austin.J]

10 Pence Short said:

Austin.J said:

dibbers006 said:

A perceived lack of empathy can be a sign of depression.

Do you also find yourself putting off tasks you could do today or stressing over minor changes to your routine.

I doubt you have a lack of care for others, it is much more likely you are caught up in your own issues, whether knowingly or not, that prevents you from projecting emotion towards fellow beings.

Only if you lack compassion towards animals and their welfare should you start to consider the loony bin for our own good

For the last 2 years near enough I've had the same dinner everyday at work, a few weeks ago I had to get a jacket potato, I was genuinely very upset, think not angry but so angry you're nearly crying.

Am I just wrong in the head?

What filling was it? It makes the difference.

That was one of the most annoying bits, i asked for cheese & tuna mayo, now with that you'd expect cheese and tuna mayo...

But I got cheese tuna and a massive dollop of mayo, now I hate mayo on it's own, hate it, also when I realised I hadn't enough time to go get something else it just made it even worse, fked my day right up, ended up having a right stty day followed by getting royally st faced to forget about it.

ETA: still pisses me off now how they could do that, never going there again, should of skipped work gone down and vomited all over the counter.

Edited by Austin.J on Monday 27th September 22:30

[10 Pence Short]

Austin.J said:

10 Pence Short said:

Austin.J said:

dibbers006 said:

A perceived lack of empathy can be a sign of depression.

Do you also find yourself putting off tasks you could do today or stressing over minor changes to your routine.

I doubt you have a lack of care for others, it is much more likely you are caught up in your own issues, whether knowingly or not, that prevents you from projecting emotion towards fellow beings.

Only if you lack compassion towards animals and their welfare should you start to consider the loony bin for our own good

For the last 2 years near enough I've had the same dinner everyday at work, a few weeks ago I had to get a jacket potato, I was genuinely very upset, think not angry but so angry you're nearly crying.

Am I just wrong in the head?

What filling was it? It makes the difference.

That was one of the most annoying bits, i asked for cheese & tuna mayo, now with that you'd expect cheese and tuna mayo...

But I got cheese tuna and a massive dollop of mayo, now I hate mayo on it's own, hate it, also when I realised I hadn't enough time to go get something else it just made it even worse, fked my day right up, ended up having a right stty day followed by getting royally st faced to forget about it.

ETA: still pisses me off now how they could do that, never going there again, should of skipped work gone down and vomited all over the counter.

Edited by Austin.J on Monday 27th September 22:30

Next time ask for beans and cheese. And make sure they put the beans on first.

Next.

[Austin.J]

I hate beans.

I'm a very fussy eater.

[Mobile Chicane]

dibbers006 said:

A perceived lack of empathy can be a sign of depression.

Do you also find yourself putting off tasks you could do today or stressing over minor changes to your routine.

I doubt you have a lack of care for others, it is much more likely you are caught up in your own issues, whether knowingly or not, that prevents you from projecting emotion towards fellow beings.

Only if you lack compassion towards animals and their welfare should you start to consider the loony bin for our own good

A thought-provoking post.

Thing is, how do you make the call that someone is depressed; or that they are in fact a selfish arse, and (for whatever reason) you just didn't see it previously?

[10 Pence Short]

Mobile Chicane said:

dibbers006 said:

A perceived lack of empathy can be a sign of depression.

Do you also find yourself putting off tasks you could do today or stressing over minor changes to your routine.

I doubt you have a lack of care for others, it is much more likely you are caught up in your own issues, whether knowingly or not, that prevents you from projecting emotion towards fellow beings.

Only if you lack compassion towards animals and their welfare should you start to consider the loony bin for our own good

A thought-provoking post.

Thing is, how do you make the call that someone is depressed; or that they are in fact a selfish arse, and (for whatever reason) you just didn't see it previously?

The person has to see it for themselves, well, they did in my case. Apathy for life can be so consuming that you just don't see you're going there.

[Jasandjules]

JungleJim said:

shameful to admit but...I just can't do it.

Can you give an example?

I mean, if two friends who are really nice people get married and then want to start a family but have a few issues, then when they do finally have a child, would you be happy for them?

As to depression, it is, in the main, a selfish illness IMHO. No empathy for others, simply doing as little as the depressed person wants, and not doing anything to help others nor in the interests of others.