Defamation of character ?
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Off topic from the general speeding debates but - I really could do with any help I can get at the moment.
I'll keep it as brief as I can.
Simply put I am contemplating a "defamation of character" law suit against a former friend.
Usual sticks and stones stuff wouldn't bother me but I've now just lost out in a lucrative job opportunity as a direct result of this guy.
I'm not sure if he actually has an illness but he continually discusses all of my business in perfect detail to complete strangers. Even down to how much money I've got in the bank.
You might think this guy is in his teens but he's actually nearing 40 years old !
Having looked at my life over the past year it would appear this guy actually ploted to have me and the misses split up and for me to get shacked up with his cousin. He managed the first part but not the second.
I can't go into too much detail due to a lot of the lies being too personal.
Anybody think I should take him on in the courts in order to get him to shut up ?
>>> Edited by lucozade on Thursday 6th May 09:40
I'll keep it as brief as I can.
Simply put I am contemplating a "defamation of character" law suit against a former friend.
Usual sticks and stones stuff wouldn't bother me but I've now just lost out in a lucrative job opportunity as a direct result of this guy.
I'm not sure if he actually has an illness but he continually discusses all of my business in perfect detail to complete strangers. Even down to how much money I've got in the bank.
You might think this guy is in his teens but he's actually nearing 40 years old !
Having looked at my life over the past year it would appear this guy actually ploted to have me and the misses split up and for me to get shacked up with his cousin. He managed the first part but not the second.
I can't go into too much detail due to a lot of the lies being too personal.
Anybody think I should take him on in the courts in order to get him to shut up ?
>>> Edited by lucozade on Thursday 6th May 09:40
Thought about that but I really want to have a life. I figure if I start with violence it will never end.
Let's just say I've never I'm my life heard so much lies coming from one person and all this person does is talk about me.
The accusation are sometimes funny, a little bit far fetched but a lot of the time very personal between me and my family.
I just found out today that he visited my ex at 2.30 Saturday morning to tell her all about what I was apparently up to while I was seeing her. Obviously he made up a complete cock-and-bull story but this does have ramifications for the future.
Let's just say I've never I'm my life heard so much lies coming from one person and all this person does is talk about me.
The accusation are sometimes funny, a little bit far fetched but a lot of the time very personal between me and my family.
I just found out today that he visited my ex at 2.30 Saturday morning to tell her all about what I was apparently up to while I was seeing her. Obviously he made up a complete cock-and-bull story but this does have ramifications for the future.
Cooperman said:
Wildcat is right. Injunct him, then if he continues he'll get 'banged up' for contempt, which it sounds like he deserves.
One thing, though, how does he know how much money you have in the bank?
Sounds like a good option.
He knows because I left my bank statements too handy when I used to share a flat with him.
>> Edited by lucozade on Thursday 6th May 10:32
stone said:
Reading between the lines is it your ex that is the motivating factor for him in this? Get you out the way and he can show her what a nice guy he is? I think Plotloss suggested the most efficient (and satisfying) course of action!!
Thought about that. He did visit her at 2.30 in the morning at the weekend to tell her all about my life, lies and more lies basically. She's not daft and spotted it a mile off.
On a lighter note he's tried this with every girl I've been with over the last 6 months!
I actually believe he was trying to live his life as me! The guy is severally ill to be honest. I think he has some mental problems. And that is the reason for the post - to see what I can do legally before he does something really stupid.
shnozz said:
legal fees for defamation are generally huge. And its never an easy case.
Very true. Such actions are only for those with very deep pockets. However, that cuts both ways. The threat of such an action, from a lawyer, may well have the desired effect. Remember, in such an action, it is for the defamer to prove that the allegations are true, not the defamed to prove that they are untrue.
lucozade said:
Let's just say I've never I'm my life heard so much lies coming from one person
Haven't you heard of politics?
I'd try to put as much physical distance between him and me for starters and make sure you get new locks too. Go ex directory and change mobile. Release the numbers to selected few only.
Can you not go to the potential employer and ask to speak to them? any possible support from plod to support story?
I understand that costs would be high and I'm prepared to go down that route if required. I've also spoken to a few witnesses who are willing to stand up and be counted and say that his allegations are completely untrue.
I really can't believe this has actually happened but it has. Thing is I could easily get even by popping next door to the main CSA building and advising them he's been working for a long time because he will no doubt be overdue a large number of payments to his ex-wife. I could actually cause this guy endless amounts of hardship but I'm not that kind of person.
I really can't believe this has actually happened but it has. Thing is I could easily get even by popping next door to the main CSA building and advising them he's been working for a long time because he will no doubt be overdue a large number of payments to his ex-wife. I could actually cause this guy endless amounts of hardship but I'm not that kind of person.
Jay-Aim said:
Can you not go to the potential employer and ask to speak to them? any possible support from plod to support story?
Can defo go to the employer as I am in direct contact with them. I'm really annoyed I couldn't take up the job because of all of this as it was rather a lucrative long term prospect. Thought it best not to take the job if I'm considering legal actions.
Not got plod involved - wasn't sure there was any comfortable laws to cater for it.
lucozade said:
I understand that costs would be high and I'm prepared to go down that route if required. I've also spoken to a few witnesses who are willing to stand up and be counted and say that his allegations are completely untrue.
I really can't believe this has actually happened but it has. Thing is I could easily get even by popping next door to the main CSA building and advising them he's been working for a long time because he will no doubt be overdue a large number of payments to his ex-wife. I could actually cause this guy endless amounts of hardship but I'm not that kind of person.
You are kidding right?? It's called LEVERAGE and it ain't nice BUT IT WORKS.
Screw him to the floorboards.('cos I've been in a "similar" situation myself)
MoJo.
You have to protect yourself as mud sticks - even when wrongly thrown at you.
A wrongful suggestion/ accusation of rape could tarnish you for life.
Would this woman make a written statement?
You never know when you might need it, especially if things get more unpleasant at some stage in the future.
A wrongful suggestion/ accusation of rape could tarnish you for life.
Would this woman make a written statement?
You never know when you might need it, especially if things get more unpleasant at some stage in the future.
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