Marriage is Over....
Discussion
ShyTallKnight said:
However, none of the above has been allowed to happen by my wife and so we found ourselves in the position we found ourselves in December. Unfortuately the bombshell that she has been unfaithful signals the end of the relationship as far as I am concerned and she has agreed the best course of action is to move out and we separate.
Good. Glad it's over for you. Sounds harsh but it's not. Get her done and dusted and meet someone who will love you.I have a simple goal in life - stay happy. To cut a long story short. My starter wife did not agree with that sentiment and did practically anything she could to be a witch. I wasn't happy, I warned her a few times, she refused to discuss anything, she got a letter from the court one morning starting our divorce.
I did not get breakfast in bed that morning.
JDRoest said:
Good. Glad it's over for you. Sounds harsh but it's not. Get her done and dusted and meet someone who will love you.
I have a simple goal in life - stay happy. To cut a long story short. My starter wife did not agree with that sentiment and did practically anything she could to be a witch. I wasn't happy, I warned her a few times, she refused to discuss anything, she got a letter from the court one morning starting our divorce.
I did not get breakfast in bed that morning.
Hopefully you are on the main course now.I have a simple goal in life - stay happy. To cut a long story short. My starter wife did not agree with that sentiment and did practically anything she could to be a witch. I wasn't happy, I warned her a few times, she refused to discuss anything, she got a letter from the court one morning starting our divorce.
I did not get breakfast in bed that morning.
Wait until you get to the dessert
TwigtheWonderkid said:
fatboy69 said:
They decided that the sum I had been paying wasn't enough
But were they right? Had you been paying enough. Bringing up kids isn't cheap. I know how much it costs to bring up kids - nowhere near as much as she was thieving from me each month!!!
They just decided, without any dialogue with me, that I wasn't paying enough hence I was royally shafted by the CSA. One of the most untrustworthy bunch of people I have ever dealt with.
To the point that when I was released from hospital after my road accident they actually demanded proof that I had been badly injured. They would not accept a doctors note saying they were easy to forge so they demanded too see all of my hospital notes, X-rays, etc to prove why I was two days late making one payment!
They even wanted to know at what time I was admitted to hospital!
Complete tossers who should be avoided at all costs.
fatboy69 said:
TwigtheWonderkid said:
fatboy69 said:
They decided that the sum I had been paying wasn't enough
But were they right? Had you been paying enough. Bringing up kids isn't cheap. I know how much it costs to bring up kids - nowhere near as much as she was thieving from me each month!!!
They just decided, without any dialogue with me, that I wasn't paying enough hence I was royally shafted by the CSA. One of the most untrustworthy bunch of people I have ever dealt with.
To the point that when I was released from hospital after my road accident they actually demanded proof that I had been badly injured. They would not accept a doctors note saying they were easy to forge so they demanded too see all of my hospital notes, X-rays, etc to prove why I was two days late making one payment!
They even wanted to know at what time I was admitted to hospital!
Complete tossers who should be avoided at all costs.
Can CSA actually backdate anything? Legally I thought they could only start from the date at which the parent with custody contacts the CSA, then from that point as soon as they contact yourself, it starts from that point?
So how did they backdate anything?
singlecoil said:
ShyTallKnight said:
She swears on the kids lives and says "I would never do that to you.." when quizzed whether she is seeing someone elase and she does this to you. To be honest it makes me sick.
Her response to that will be that you were not entitled to ask her such questions. 'Ask no questions and you'll be told no lies' as the old saying goes.
tter, but I learnt so much...Great Pretender said:
MocMocaMoc said:
As a single(ish) 30 year old, looking for 'the one', this thread is scary!
OP, all the best. I hope everything turns out well for you.
But yeah, scary!
Ditto!OP, all the best. I hope everything turns out well for you.
But yeah, scary!
All the rest kinda falls into place afterwards.
OP I feel for you, been through this myself and I know how dreadful you will be feeling. I found out my delightful ex-wife had been having an affair for six months when our daughter was 19 days old.
What you often find is that they drip feed you information, they cant face what they have done so you get a little of the truth at a time.............and the truth aint pretty sadly.
But as others have said, you WILL come through it a better person. Keep your dignity and put the kids first! It is a long and painful road, no doubt, but you'll have a great life once you've got this chapter over with.
Best of luck.
What you often find is that they drip feed you information, they cant face what they have done so you get a little of the truth at a time.............and the truth aint pretty sadly.
But as others have said, you WILL come through it a better person. Keep your dignity and put the kids first! It is a long and painful road, no doubt, but you'll have a great life once you've got this chapter over with.
Best of luck.
A bit down said:
VinceFox said:
nod, smile and be polite.
and move your pieces.
This.and move your pieces.
And keep your chin up.
Great Pretender said:
MocMocaMoc said:
As a single(ish) 30 year old, looking for 'the one', this thread is scary!
OP, all the best. I hope everything turns out well for you.
But yeah, scary!
Ditto!OP, all the best. I hope everything turns out well for you.
But yeah, scary!
(Doesn't help if the OH is not on the same page, but hopefully you'll find one who is...)
ShyTallKnight said:
Bad, bad day today and the situation is worse than I thought. She cries and lies in perfect harmony. Anyway, she's gone so got to pick myself up and move on. Appointment made with legal representation later this week. Here's looking forward to the weekend and maybe some diff....
You’re taking this all in stride and keeping your head. Well done—many of us here know that it ain’t easy (especially when the layers and layers of lies start to unravel in front of you).The fact that you’re immediately looking forward to at least one element of the single life suggests that things were far from perfect for a long time anyway, and that you were fighting a losing battle trying to do the right thing. Nothing wrong with accepting that and if anything it probably helps you move on without too much bitterness and resentment. Go out and enjoy yourself. You deserve to.
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