Has anyone else worked out its pointless?

[Jasandjules]

Just leave this world a better place than you found it.

[Lincsls1]

A500leroy said:

no wife, bent,single, no friends.

Then its time to make some changes! Make a point, find a point to your life.

[Milkbuttons]

Could be rite, but that is why you should live for the here and now! Try it

[A500leroy]

Lincsls1 said:

Then its time to make some changes! Make a point, find a point to your life.

i tried the nhs refuse to 'straighten' me out i did ask them nicely.

[Lincsls1]

A500leroy said:

tried to rectify that..twice..fked it up both times.

If a person truly wants to commit suicide, they don't fail. Especially twice.
I am unfortunate enough to have know a couple of people that committed suicide. No warnings, done.

[mog1275]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=buqtdpuZxvk

Edited by mog1275 on Monday 25th May 10:46

[MikeM6]

A500leroy said:

no wife, bent,single, no friends.

Try and figure out what you would want from life, as it seems like you may be missing on goals. You can make life whatever you want it to be if you can find the resolve to do it. Don't rely on others to make your life great, but do what you can to make their life great.

No friends is easy in theory to solve, but hard in practice. But it means you have to be brave and create situations where you can make friends. Often it's worth remembering that you have nothing to lose but all to gain from being brave socially. For many people the point of their lives is the social contact, so solving this side of things may make all the difference.

[Lincsls1]

Great advice!

[GT03ROB]

A500leroy said:

GT03ROB said:

A500leroy said:

is 36 too young for a mid life crisis to start?

Probably, sounds more like you are going through a teenage crisis, unless your wife is about to divorce you in which case you can have a midlife one

no wife, bent,single, no friends.

No wife -- opportunity
bent -- irrelevant
single -- opportunity
no friends - none of the previous 3 points has any bearing, other than to probably assist in solving this one.

Mid 30s, no baggage, no problem. Most midlife crisises stem from having restrictions & constraints, you don't appear to have any. Go for it!

[A500leroy]

GT03ROB said:

A500leroy said:

GT03ROB said:

A500leroy said:

is 36 too young for a mid life crisis to start?

Probably, sounds more like you are going through a teenage crisis, unless your wife is about to divorce you in which case you can have a midlife one

no wife, bent,single, no friends.

No wife -- opportunity
bent -- irrelevant
single -- opportunity
no friends - none of the previous 3 points has any bearing, other than to probably assist in solving this one.

Mid 30s, no baggage, no problem. Most midlife crisises stem from having restrictions & constraints, you don't appear to have any. Go for it!

Friends in my 20s - 3 beat me up for their own entertainment, 2 let me buy them presents and holidays and when i stopped doing it buggered off, 1 raped me. Im not 'friends' with friend.

Single same reason if thats what friends do then getting any closer to anyone, no thanks.

bent , not irrelevant, its a bit odd rite? never mind the pc stuff i still dont think its right even though i practice i feel very ashamed afterwards and have begged many nurses to refer me for psychological help to cure it and be normal but they aint allowed to anymore.

[anonymous-user]

What do you do for a living OP? Maybe that could be a place to start changing things. If you live near a retained fire station, maybe join up. If you have community first responders where you are, look at that. There are jobs that will increase you satisfaction in life by helping people, and you will definitely make friends in those environments

[anonymous-user]

Sometimes i feel sad living in these times. So much obsession with money, riches, i hope in the future we have transcended materialistic trinkets into a more fulfilling long term society that looks at a higher meaning.

[RDMcG]

The Spruce Goose said:

Sometimes i feel sad living in these times. So much obsession with money, riches, i hope in the future we have transcended materialistic trinkets into a more fulfilling long term society that looks at a higher meaning.

..a track day at Spa right now would be very meaningful

[1602Mark]

I work with people who often have low self worth and low self esteem. I always suggest they go do things for other people, such as charity work. Anything where they are putting the needs of others before their own. In my experience self worth and (especially) self esteem have to be sought through deeds and/or actions.

[CallThatMusic]

I’m planning to hang around long enough to read about Richard Branson’s Closing Down Sale.

I fancy one of these 747’s.

[A500leroy]

hucumber said:

What do you do for a living OP? Maybe that could be a place to start changing things. If you live near a retained fire station, maybe join up. If you have community first responders where you are, look at that. There are jobs that will increase you satisfaction in life by helping people, and you will definitely make friends in those environments

Postie, people treat us like low paid scum.

[Whatsmyname]

Yep it’s pretty st.

You have no choice on being put on this earth

You cannot at your own choosing decided to end your life all legal and above board. (I know some examples are out there)

You also have to pay for the privilege of being alive as an adult and get jailed if you don’t. (See council tax etc)

[V8mate]

A500leroy said:

hucumber said:

What do you do for a living OP? Maybe that could be a place to start changing things. If you live near a retained fire station, maybe join up. If you have community first responders where you are, look at that. There are jobs that will increase you satisfaction in life by helping people, and you will definitely make friends in those environments

Postie, people treat us like low paid scum.

I think that response tells us a great deal about you, and you should re-read comments from those respondents^^ who talk about self-esteem and doing valuable things with your time.

A few 'keen' terriers aside I've not heard of anyone treating posties like scum, and as for low paid... you have got to be having a laugh. For the job at hand, you're *very* well paid. If you want to earn more, get some PMA and look to ways you can change career.

[ruggedscotty]

fastraxx said:

GT03ROB said:

These threads are supposed to be posted late at night after a few too many sherbets..... not first thing in the morning.

Yes it's pointless...….who cares...….. get on & do what makes you happy.

Life is about Cuming

sorted that for ya

[ruggedscotty]

This was me back in September 1998, on a hospital bed in Sarajevo. Blood clot on the brain and not in a good place. Was in a landrover that hit a parked truck. I was sat in the front passenger seat.

You have a choice OP, you can give up and end it. If you think it pointless then maybe your over thinking it. There is always an end, that you can not escape, your heart will cease to beat, and your brain will crash. and that will be that.

its not about the future or the past, its about now, its about how you live your life and the people that are in your life, going through a near death it changes you, it makes you realise just whats important in YOUR life, makes you grasp that you have to look after yourself and make yourself happy. you cant rely on people. Everyone wants a piece of you and the more you give....

If I had been killed in that accident, I wouldn't have gained the experiences that I have had, I wouldn't have married and had a daughter. Id have departed and that would have been that. Life ? you can say it is or not pointless... but in the great grand scheme of things on a personal level it probably is pretty pointless from someone looking in but I can assure you its not pointless for the individual.