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Scares me to think I was a mere 22 year old when I first joined PH in search of my first TVR. I blinked, and 3 TVRs, 3 Lotus and 1 Porsche later I'm mid-30's.
To all those saying they are old before their years, do something to change it. You've got a whole future to be old and settled. Some of my biggest 20's regrets were doing grown-up things because I wanted to advance quicker.
To all those saying they are old before their years, do something to change it. You've got a whole future to be old and settled. Some of my biggest 20's regrets were doing grown-up things because I wanted to advance quicker.
theshrew said:
Steffan said:
Indeed not. I am 68 years old now and the grim reaper is definitely getting closer. Being a compulsive/ obsessive nutcase with a daft lifestyle to match and some five marriages gone by (I enjoyed every one!!) it is remarkable that I am still alive as my doctors regularly confirm to me and anyone else interested enough to ask. Probably more remarkable that none of the wives actually killed me although I suspect a few contemplated the process. Enjoy every minute of you life. Take and make every opportunity you can. This is not a dress rehearsal.
Firstly - You sound like a right rum fecker, Good skills old lad 
Secondly - Married five times
35, eyes are buggered, weight is attracted to me, hair giving up on my head and escaping via nose and ears instead. It's bad. I thought I'd have these sort of things in my 40s but feel I deserve a few more years of youth! It's like filling up the tank on Sunday thinking that'll do me for the week only to be half empty on Tuesday morning.
Xaero said:
I'm 28 too (seems to be a lot of us on this thread?). Married with first child on the way, although very far away from being a home owner having stopped my business 6 weeks ago and being unemployed since.
My Grandad passed away early this morning, in his mid-70s. That's why I clicked into this thread as getting old has been on my mind today naturally.
One of the last things he said to me was getting old isn't fun and it gets more faster by the year
Sorry to hear about that fella. Keep your chin up. Death puts everything into perspective, I have had to deal with 4 deaths in the passed few years and it changes you as a person. My Grandad passed away early this morning, in his mid-70s. That's why I clicked into this thread as getting old has been on my mind today naturally.
One of the last things he said to me was getting old isn't fun and it gets more faster by the year
Interesting; I'm 39 and will be 40 in January which is a bit weird as until fairly recently just before the wife turned 40, being 40 seemed ages away and it meant you were getting on a bit.
I don't feel almost 40; whatever feeling 40 is and I've been told I certainly don't look it, most people who don't know my age assume I'm 30/early 30's which is nice and I've been told I have young outlook. I deal with the public in my job and get to see date of births and it shocks me how many people seem to get old quickly, I see people younger than me that have such an "old" outlook on life and also look it too, it's almost as if they have kids and then think "well I've had the children, I'm married so I'd better act like it".
I've had to grow up fast though as I had a daughter when I was 17, she is now 21 and has a son of her own so I'm a grandad at 39; I was actually 38 when he was born, I'm still with my childhood sweetheart; we've been together 23 years and married 5, the daughters boyfriend is only 9 years younger than me, we are very similar too which scares the eldest a bit!
So I guess; in summary, I'm definately getting old however I have young outlook on life and I think what has done that is getting everything "out of the way" at a younger age than most even though it wasn't planned that way and not ideal however it has worked out well, I see people my age just starting their families; f
k that, myself and the wife can just go to festivals, gigs, out to the pub etc on a whim without having to worry about babysitters etc and enjoy the rest of what's to come.
I don't feel almost 40; whatever feeling 40 is and I've been told I certainly don't look it, most people who don't know my age assume I'm 30/early 30's which is nice and I've been told I have young outlook. I deal with the public in my job and get to see date of births and it shocks me how many people seem to get old quickly, I see people younger than me that have such an "old" outlook on life and also look it too, it's almost as if they have kids and then think "well I've had the children, I'm married so I'd better act like it".
I've had to grow up fast though as I had a daughter when I was 17, she is now 21 and has a son of her own so I'm a grandad at 39; I was actually 38 when he was born, I'm still with my childhood sweetheart; we've been together 23 years and married 5, the daughters boyfriend is only 9 years younger than me, we are very similar too which scares the eldest a bit!
So I guess; in summary, I'm definately getting old however I have young outlook on life and I think what has done that is getting everything "out of the way" at a younger age than most even though it wasn't planned that way and not ideal however it has worked out well, I see people my age just starting their families; f
k that, myself and the wife can just go to festivals, gigs, out to the pub etc on a whim without having to worry about babysitters etc and enjoy the rest of what's to come. I also find that a moan about things I never used to moan about.
I see a chav'd up st box (like what I used to drive back in the day) I i just chuckle and moan lol Even tho I drive a 20th century chav wagon (MK2 RS).
Just little things. I am happy but its just scary how quick time has gone by. Feels like im the only one getting old.
I see a chav'd up s
t box (like what I used to drive back in the day) I i just chuckle and moan lol Even tho I drive a 20th century chav wagon (MK2 RS). Just little things. I am happy but its just scary how quick time has gone by. Feels like im the only one getting old.
HTP99 said:
I've had to grow up fast though as I had a daughter when I was 17, she is now 21 and has a son of her own so I'm a grandad at 39; I was actually 38 when he was born, I'm still with my childhood sweetheart; we've been together 23 years and married 5, the daughters boyfriend is only 9 years younger than me, we are very similar too which scares the eldest a bit!
I think in a weird way that growing up fast keeps you young. My daughter was born when I was 33 and exactly as you said I thought "Christ I better start acting grown up" having spent most of the 20 years before messing about. I know someone else who was a grandfather before 40 and he calls me old man. Doing it the way I have isn't really something I regret as such but I certainly wouldn't now view having kids early with the horror I did when I was younger.
You can't think about age until you're well into your 30's surely? I'm in that awkward position of hitting 40 in the summer but still thinking I'm 25. My son is 13 and which doesn't help. When I look in the mirror, I'm that cool hip kid who had a Morrisey quiff, a hot hatch and a collection of rare vynal records. Everyone else sees a guy with a soft belly, grey hairs and who can't wear skinny jeans. I fear the mid life crisis will hit me hard, very soon.
toon10 said:
You can't think about age until you're well into your 30's surely? I'm in that awkward position of hitting 40 in the summer but still thinking I'm 25. My son is 13 and which doesn't help. When I look in the mirror, I'm that cool hip kid who had a Morrisey quiff, a hot hatch and a collection of rare vynal records. Everyone else sees a guy with a soft belly, grey hairs and who can't wear skinny jeans. I fear the mid life crisis will hit me hard, very soon.
haha that's brilliant. It could be a stage I'm going through and hopefully it will pass.
We are lucky enough to go abroad a couple of times a year and when we do I'm usually the first one in the queue for the water slides and last off them :-) keeps me remembering I'm still a young gun haha.
To quote Pink Floyd:
And then one day you find ten years have got behind you.
No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun.
So you run and you run to catch up with the sun but it's sinking
Racing around to come up behind you again.
The sun is the same in a relative way but you're older,
Shorter of breath and one day closer to death.
I must admit that more recently I feel this is actually true - I turned 40 last year, my mum and dad retired earlier this year, and it was pointed out that in another 4 years, I won't have to pay child support for my oldest, and another 8 years and I won't have to pay for the youngest either - That's less time than I've paid it for up to now!!!! These things really do add up to feeling old!
And then one day you find ten years have got behind you.
No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun.
So you run and you run to catch up with the sun but it's sinking
Racing around to come up behind you again.
The sun is the same in a relative way but you're older,
Shorter of breath and one day closer to death.
I must admit that more recently I feel this is actually true - I turned 40 last year, my mum and dad retired earlier this year, and it was pointed out that in another 4 years, I won't have to pay child support for my oldest, and another 8 years and I won't have to pay for the youngest either - That's less time than I've paid it for up to now!!!! These things really do add up to feeling old!
Ah, that sense of impending middle age and critical self assessment sounds familiar: I’ll be 40 next year... gulp!
I find that if you focus on what you have done, what you have got (if that’s your thing), and what you have experienced, it nulls the ‘where has my life gone feelings?’ Age is irrelevant: it’s what you say and what you stand for that counts.
For example: I still rent a house and probably will for the rest of my life, have no intention of getting married or having kids (neither does my missus, thankfully!), I don’t earn very much and I never will but not having vast amounts of disposable income doesn’t bother me that much.
However, I have absolutely no debts and have a fair bit of free time to read/go to the pub/work on my car and I’m relatively content (my motto is ‘as long as I can pay the rent and go to the pub every weekend as well as keeping my car running, then I have enough money’. Wonder what that’d look like in Latin?
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The very thought of the nice wifey, 2 nice kids, a career in middle management, nice holidays in the sun, a nice house and nice shiney German diesel barge to accessorize fills me with horror... but if that what makes people happy, then fair play to them. It would be a dull, dull world if we all did the same thing.
Oh, and I’ve still got a full head of hair as well! I do wonder if this is because I’ve never got stressed about meeting irrelevant targets and impressing the director in order to get that vital promotion?
I find that if you focus on what you have done, what you have got (if that’s your thing), and what you have experienced, it nulls the ‘where has my life gone feelings?’ Age is irrelevant: it’s what you say and what you stand for that counts.
For example: I still rent a house and probably will for the rest of my life, have no intention of getting married or having kids (neither does my missus, thankfully!), I don’t earn very much and I never will but not having vast amounts of disposable income doesn’t bother me that much.
However, I have absolutely no debts and have a fair bit of free time to read/go to the pub/work on my car and I’m relatively content (my motto is ‘as long as I can pay the rent and go to the pub every weekend as well as keeping my car running, then I have enough money’. Wonder what that’d look like in Latin?
)The very thought of the nice wifey, 2 nice kids, a career in middle management, nice holidays in the sun, a nice house and nice shiney German diesel barge to accessorize fills me with horror... but if that what makes people happy, then fair play to them. It would be a dull, dull world if we all did the same thing.
Oh, and I’ve still got a full head of hair as well! I do wonder if this is because I’ve never got stressed about meeting irrelevant targets and impressing the director in order to get that vital promotion?
I'm 36 and don't feel my age in the slightest (most people think I'm under 30).
Am in the fortunate position to be doing something creative in a job that I'm passionate about.
I got out of a 5 year relationship 2 years ago which if I stayed with would have resulted in marriage and kids which was something I did not want. Good move as I enjoy the freedom of dating and having fun, I have no interest of being tied down nor the desire to have children which would get in the way of my life.
With no commitments, I can pursue my passion and dreams, travel to places at a drop of a hat. I'm very active person and physically in the best shape of my life with a physique similar to Hugh Jackman in X-Men. Am financially in a good place with no wife or child draining my bank account.
Love nothing better than to travel to new places, meet new people, learn new languages and take in new experiences. Stuff being in a normal 9-5 Mon-Fri grind most of my peers seem to go through what seems like an eternity.
Am in the fortunate position to be doing something creative in a job that I'm passionate about.
I got out of a 5 year relationship 2 years ago which if I stayed with would have resulted in marriage and kids which was something I did not want. Good move as I enjoy the freedom of dating and having fun, I have no interest of being tied down nor the desire to have children which would get in the way of my life.
With no commitments, I can pursue my passion and dreams, travel to places at a drop of a hat. I'm very active person and physically in the best shape of my life with a physique similar to Hugh Jackman in X-Men. Am financially in a good place with no wife or child draining my bank account.
Love nothing better than to travel to new places, meet new people, learn new languages and take in new experiences. Stuff being in a normal 9-5 Mon-Fri grind most of my peers seem to go through what seems like an eternity.
TheHighlander said:
haha that's brilliant.
It could be a stage I'm going through and hopefully it will pass.
We are lucky enough to go abroad a couple of times a year and when we do I'm usually the first one in the queue for the water slides and last off them :-) keeps me remembering I'm still a young gun haha.
10 years ago I volunteered to do the Sky Coaster in Florida. Last year I ended up on a lads holiday to Benidorm (classy, I know) and decided to go to the waterpark. I wimped out of the biggest slide and nervously took the second biggest option. It was not a 'fun' experience. My fear grows each year. It could be a stage I'm going through and hopefully it will pass.
We are lucky enough to go abroad a couple of times a year and when we do I'm usually the first one in the queue for the water slides and last off them :-) keeps me remembering I'm still a young gun haha.
To quote the Editors, "What's that over your shoulder? Fear of getting older..."
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