Girlfriend wants to move in; prenuptial agreements etc

[PurpleMoonlight]

JustinP1 said:

I must confess, I looked at this thread simply to see what your comment might be, Purple....


Seriously though, if you can convince your bird to sign a prenup to give *her* security, then you are doing well.

I thought by 'missus' he mean Mrs, but apparently not.

I don't understand the willingness to give away part of your wealth simply because someone moves in with you, but hey better to give than have taken I guess.

[Amateurish]

Adam B said:

not all bothered by paying £200 - although being in London I suspect that will be doubled

some online services were quoting £2k

We do cohabitation agreements, PM me if you want a quote.

[Adam B]

Amateurish said:

We do cohabitation agreements, PM me if you want a quote.

thanks - hoping your login name here is a pun and sending you a PM now

[ClockworkCupcake]

Armed with the useful keyphrase "cohabitation agreement" I had a quick google and turned up this interesting article from 2013

http://www.theguardian.com/money/2013/mar/09/cohab...

So it would appear that, actually, doing nothing would leave you in a good position given the mortgage and house deeds are in your name.

[Adam B]

ClockworkCupcake said:

So it would appear that, actually, doing nothing would leave you in a good position given the mortgage and house deeds are in your name.

yep, however:

a) we have been together 7 years, and she has contributed in non-financial ways to property value, and I am happy to give her some security, and it will improve our general sense of well-being together
b) one day we will get married

which is why I suspect I need a pre-nup/hybrid not just a co-habitation agreement

[ClockworkCupcake]

Adam B said:

yep, however:

a) we have been together 7 years, and she has contributed in non-financial ways to property value, and I am happy to give her some security, and it will improve our general sense of well-being together
b) one day we will get married

which is why I suspect I need a pre-nup/hybrid not just a co-habitation agreement

In that case I'd suggest a Cohabitation Agreement now and then a pre-nuptial when you are considering nuptials.

Also, I wasn't suggesting you didn't get a Cohabitation Agreement - obviously it is the decent thing to do, and good on you.

[Adam B]

I am going to chat to a solicitor and understand options and costs

having done a DIY divorce I wonder about spending £43 instead if quotes get silly

http://www.netlawman.co.uk/d/prenuptial-agreement

[Writhing]

Come the happy day when you get married, are we all invited?

[singlecoil]

Don't spend too much on the agreement unless you are going to have yourself neutered, as soon as she gets pregnant the agreement will be worth less than the paper it's written on.

[grumbledoak]

Toilet Duck said:

... and she never ever gave any indication that she was a nasty malicious cut throat robbing harpy until she metamorphosised into one once they split.

[Adam B]

singlecoil said:

Don't spend too much on the agreement unless you are going to have yourself neutered, as soon as she gets pregnant the agreement will be worth less than the paper it's written on.

from what I have read (but will clarify) that is not true, the pre-nup cannot prejudice financial care for the child, but most pre-nups can define provision for children

[JamieBurford]

Breadvan72 said:

I think that this sort of thing is best left to celebs. Trust and optimism are good things.

Unfortunately these days it isn't just celebs who are at risk. My father was royally taken to the cleaners by a woman he married after my mother died. She made virtually no contribution, was a complete bh to my father when he became disabled and walked away with a huge sum of money. I have become a lot more savvy with my assets since seeing all this happen. I know the op isnt married to this woman but still, after a certain time has elapsed isn't living together as if you were man & wife enough?
I will certainly never get married because of the hassle it causes!

[Adam B]

JamieBurford said:

I know the op isnt married to this woman but still, after a certain time has elapsed isn't living together as if you were man & wife enough?

No. Read the first page

[Bodged]

Nothing says 'I love you' more than a pre-nup

[Rocketsocks]

I'd advise you not to go down this route OP.

A far better option would be to rent your place out, and then the two of you rent a place together. You're probably going to be together forever! but just in case you're not, it'll be so much easier for you when the relationship ends. I'm speaking from experience here. ;-)

You'll probably find that if you move her in, she'll only resent the fact that "this is your place, and I feel like I'm infringing" anyway.

Good luck with whatever you choose.

[ClockworkCupcake]

Adam B said:

JamieBurford said:

I know the op isnt married to this woman but still, after a certain time has elapsed isn't living together as if you were man & wife enough?

No. Read the first page

And also the link I posted a few posts ago.