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elanfan said:
What does the guy do for a living? If a criminal record could affect his employment status I think he’ll be keen to leave without police involvement. So it becomes his choice leave of own free will tonight or you’re getting arrested. He won’t know how many videos you have of him.
Proving theft is going to be hard in this case (in my view). Even if he had taken aftershave, the police aren't going to prosecute - they scarcely prosecute shoplifting . He'll just say he had asked the OP casually and the OP had said ok - as it wouldn't be an unreasonable action for a lodger / landlord.
Having someone in my place doing that would not only appall me but might genuinely end up with me on another assault charge. I have a pathological hatred of theives on any level. I'd honestly have gone either back home or to wherever he works and dealt with it immediately. I couldn't have him back in the house.
I'm in admiration of what seems like a fairly understated and calm response from the op here. I just don't know how people stay reasonable when faced with this stuff.
I'm in admiration of what seems like a fairly understated and calm response from the op here. I just don't know how people stay reasonable when faced with this stuff.
Tell him if he surrenders the keys and leaves within 24 hours, he'll get the deposit back and no further action will be taken. Tell him the other option involves the police as items have gone missing (a white lie to s
t him up). He'll be gone pretty swiftish.
Whilst it would be entertaining to hide in the wardrobe etc, in reality it's your home and he needs to be gone asap.
t him up). He'll be gone pretty swiftish. Whilst it would be entertaining to hide in the wardrobe etc, in reality it's your home and he needs to be gone asap.
Jonmx said:
Tell him if he surrenders the keys and leaves within 24 hours, he'll get the deposit back and no further action will be taken. Tell him the other option involves the police as items have gone missing (a white lie to st him up). He'll be gone pretty swiftish.
Whilst it would be entertaining to hide in the wardrobe etc, in reality it's your home and he needs to be gone asap.
Better solution.t him up). He'll be gone pretty swiftish. Whilst it would be entertaining to hide in the wardrobe etc, in reality it's your home and he needs to be gone asap.
Jonmx said:
Tell him if he surrenders the keys and leaves within 24 hours, he'll get the deposit back and no further action will be taken. Tell him the other option involves the police as items have gone missing (a white lie to st him up). He'll be gone pretty swiftish.
Whilst it would be entertaining to hide in the wardrobe etc, in reality it's your home and he needs to be gone asap.
Purchase replacement locks, then the above. Swap locks as soon as he departs.t him up). He'll be gone pretty swiftish. Whilst it would be entertaining to hide in the wardrobe etc, in reality it's your home and he needs to be gone asap.
When you confront him he'll likely try to play it down, make excuses, say he thought you'd be cool with it. I'd personally report it to the police, not because they'll do anything about it, but to let him know how seriously you take it. I'd then give him an hour to get his belongings together and GTF. I'd also keep the camera running to capture any interaction you have with him.
ScotHill said:
OP, why have you got plug sockets halfway up your wall?
The Internet said:
UK Building Regulations state that wall mounted sockets should be positioned so they can easily be reachable in the given room. Whilst there are no specific regulations that need to be followed. As a general rule of thumb sockets should be installed at least 450mm to 1200mm up from the floor level of any room
Average room height in UK is 2.4 m so 1.2 m would be half way up 
Go big or go home
better than my answer JackJarvis said:
When you confront him he'll likely try to play it down, make excuses, say he thought you'd be cool with it. I'd personally report it to the police, not because they'll do anything about it, but to let him know how seriously you take it. I'd then give him an hour to get his belongings together and GTF. I'd also keep the camera running to capture any interaction you have with him.
Quite. Police would be unlikely to even attend other than to potentially prevent a breach of the peace when you kick him out. If you're concerned he'll be a nob when you ask him to leave, then you're perfectly within your rights to request an officer attend to prevent that breach of the peace. Recording the interaction is a good shout, be clear, calm and firm. Don't swear, get angry or fall for any attempts to wind you up. He'll be on the back foot, embarrassed and possibly angry at being caught out.
OzzyR1 said:
You've probably got other things on your mind OP, but can you share the model of camera you used?
Hope you get it sorted.
That app looks Tapo to me. https://www.amazon.co.uk/s?k=tapo+cameraHope you get it sorted.
AlwynMike said:
Had a guy at work who was stealing chocolate bars from me.
Even injecting them with a significant amount of shampoo didn't deter him, although he was petty enough to steal them and throw them away!
reminds me of the last place I worked. You could leave £20 on your desk but not a chocolate bar!Even injecting them with a significant amount of shampoo didn't deter him, although he was petty enough to steal them and throw them away!
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