Am I an international child abductor??
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I'm glad there was some kind of resolution OP, for now at least.
Also, just to extend my sympathy on the situation. My eldest daughter now 10 was moved 120 miles away when she was very tiny. For the first couple of years things were amicable but for reasons I'm not aware of, things became more and more fractious. By pure coincidence (obviously) when my 2nd child with my now partner was the same age as when my ex moved, my ex decided she was taking no more responsibility for driving (meeting halfway) and I was left with a 5 hour round trip to do twice every other weekend.
Having her that far away was heart breaking on top of the amount of effort involved and of course cost.
But OP, I know what it's like to do what you can to keep things amicable and pleasant for your child's sake even if the other parent and partner do not.
In short, after 6 years and ~70,000 miles my partner, myself and our two children relocated last year to be walking distance from my daughter. Much to her mum and step dads horror.
Good luck OP and I hope in the long term you get your lad over with you full time. Sounds like you'd offer him a more balanced upbringing.
Also, just to extend my sympathy on the situation. My eldest daughter now 10 was moved 120 miles away when she was very tiny. For the first couple of years things were amicable but for reasons I'm not aware of, things became more and more fractious. By pure coincidence (obviously) when my 2nd child with my now partner was the same age as when my ex moved, my ex decided she was taking no more responsibility for driving (meeting halfway) and I was left with a 5 hour round trip to do twice every other weekend.
Having her that far away was heart breaking on top of the amount of effort involved and of course cost.
But OP, I know what it's like to do what you can to keep things amicable and pleasant for your child's sake even if the other parent and partner do not.
In short, after 6 years and ~70,000 miles my partner, myself and our two children relocated last year to be walking distance from my daughter. Much to her mum and step dads horror.
Good luck OP and I hope in the long term you get your lad over with you full time. Sounds like you'd offer him a more balanced upbringing.
OP I don't know how old your kid is but lots of airlines offer an "unacompanied minor" service where you pay a bit more and they look after the kid on the flight (saving a lot of time and hassle of going to "pick him up" on a transatlantic flight). My wife used to be posted to france and back when she was 7, but I think the age has been bumped up these days
5lab said:
OP I don't know how old your kid is but lots of airlines offer an "unacompanied minor" service where you pay a bit more and they look after the kid on the flight (saving a lot of time and hassle of going to "pick him up" on a transatlantic flight). My wife used to be posted to france and back when she was 7, but I think the age has been bumped up these days
This advice is several years too late lol.Glad it's better now, OP. Enjoy your holiday.
Thanks all. Having spoken to my ex at length now I do feel the lawyers on both sides were slightly s
t stirring.
@Alex_225 moving to be nearer your daughter will definitely be worth it. Whilst I do get to spend time with my son I definitely miss out on the little things - sports day, parents evening, school plays, field trips etc. But moving isn't an option (I considered in very briefly once).
@5lab thanks - he's actually returning for the first time as an unaccompanied minor. It's a day flight so he should be fine and well looked after. Represents great value too - $150 with American Airlines. He'll be a week shy of 10 and feel this is the first time I'm comfortable with it.
t stirring. @Alex_225 moving to be nearer your daughter will definitely be worth it. Whilst I do get to spend time with my son I definitely miss out on the little things - sports day, parents evening, school plays, field trips etc. But moving isn't an option (I considered in very briefly once).
@5lab thanks - he's actually returning for the first time as an unaccompanied minor. It's a day flight so he should be fine and well looked after. Represents great value too - $150 with American Airlines. He'll be a week shy of 10 and feel this is the first time I'm comfortable with it.
Petrus1983 said:
Holy Moly thread resurrection.
The amazing rehoming a dog thread - https://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&... reminded me how awesome PistonHeads can be, and pivotally changing.
That being said it also reminded me how much this little community helped me at my lowest point - seemingly 4 years ago by the dates on here. And it makes such a difference.
Fast forward to this time now - my ex and I are like besties, we both have our sons best interest at heart and are going on holiday together next week.
A belated thanks for all the help on this thread and various others at that point
That is excellent news for you, and more importantly your son. The amazing rehoming a dog thread - https://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&... reminded me how awesome PistonHeads can be, and pivotally changing.
That being said it also reminded me how much this little community helped me at my lowest point - seemingly 4 years ago by the dates on here. And it makes such a difference.
Fast forward to this time now - my ex and I are like besties, we both have our sons best interest at heart and are going on holiday together next week.
A belated thanks for all the help on this thread and various others at that point
Fingers crossed the friendship continues for all your benefit.
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