Just been suspended, disciplinary tomorrow.
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windman2011 said:
Facebook has become the new 'bebo' and is just full of crap and daft photos.
Facebook's servers might well be full of crap and daft photos, but because I can use it effectively I don't see any of them. I only see stuff I want to see posted by people I want to keep in touch with (like others, many in far-flung destinations).Part of learning to use it is knowing not to post rubbish to your profile (OP take note). Anyone who complains about "loads of rubbish" on Facebook needs to learn how to use it. "A bad workman..."
NorthernBoy said:
These are mainly people that I've worked with in the last few years. I met my French wife working for a German bank in New York, and we both now live in London, where neither of us are from. I'd consider it more than a bit sad if we just walked away from friends just because they don't live here.
You will find that eventually, your old friends will drift off as the things you had in common fade into the past. The compensation is that you should make new friends, but REAL ones rather than virtual ones.Eric Mc said:
You will find that eventually, your old friends will drift off as the things you had in common fade into the past. The compensation is that you should make new friends, but REAL ones rather than virtual ones.
What percentage of Facebook users are virtual people? Whether you choose to "friend" someone you haven't met in person is up to you. I know all of my Facebook "friends". Facebook is just a way to keep in touch with people, just like an address book helps me write to friends and my phone contacts help me speak to friends in other locations. It's just a tool, but lots of people seem to struggle with it.
Eric Mc said:
You will find that eventually, your old friends will drift off as the things you had in common fade into the past. The compensation is that you should make new friends, but REAL ones rather than virtual ones.
Please, don't assume that other people's friendships are like yours, and don't be so arrogant as to tell me whether my friends are real or not, that's really offensive.Eric Mc said:
I personally have no interest or requirement to use it. I don't ever intend to sign up to the service. I have enough "real" friends I can meet and communicate with in the real world. If I do need to communicate with them electronically, e-mail works perfectly well.
Cheers for your insight, Grandad.
(Sorry to sound harsh, but imo you're being unecessarily harsh here yourself.)
NorthernBoy said:
Eric Mc said:
You will find that eventually, your old friends will drift off as the things you had in common fade into the past. The compensation is that you should make new friends, but REAL ones rather than virtual ones.
Please, don't assume that other people's friendships are like yours, and don't be so arrogant as to tell me whether my friends are real or not, that's really offensive.Maybe we shouild revisit this thread in 20 years to see where we both stand with our friends - of whatever shade they may be.
And did I ever intimate that your friends WEREN'T real? By "virtual" is was using the term in the sense that they were friends through whom you mainly communicated electronically - rtaher than face to face. I wasn't suggesting they were holograms.
HereBeMonsters said:
Eric Mc said:
I personally have no interest or requirement to use it. I don't ever intend to sign up to the service. I have enough "real" friends I can meet and communicate with in the real world. If I do need to communicate with them electronically, e-mail works perfectly well.
Cheers for your insight, Grandad.(Sorry to sound harsh, but imo you're being unecessarily harsh here yourself.)
Well I never - modern life, eh? You youngsters just don't klnow how lucky you are.
Still, I have never been sacked because of something I said on a computer.
Eric Mc said:
He also told me that we have a quite efficient mail service in this country which can get a letter or postcard to someone in a couple of days.
But surely you remember the penny post, multiple deliveries every day? Mail trains and the postman who would wait for your reply as well as dropping off the post card? 
Eric Mc said:
I personally have no interest or requirement to use it. I don't ever intend to sign up to the service. I have enough "real" friends I can meet and communicate with in the real world. If I do need to communicate with them electronically, e-mail works perfectly well.
That doesn't mean that people who choose to still speak to friends who live far away though are wrong, does it? Your post implies that you look down your nose at people who do this.Surely it's a good use of technology to be able to communicate with people that in the past would cease to exist to you?
And I think you're missing the point when you compare it to email, with email you are directing your communication at a particular person, Whereas on Facebook you are firing off something into the ether, and people can choose to read it or not, it's a totally different way of communicating.
For example, a new series of a TV show I like has been confirmed, I know that a lot of people I know like it so I posted the link on Facebook, which people appreciated... But would I write a new email to someone and mailbomb everyone I knew that might be interested? Would I heck!
I can see how Facebook is useful as a communications tool and letting lots of people know ONE ting (or even a few) but where it annoys me is that peopl are ALWAYS on it - my 20 yo is even on it on his mobile while at work ffs! Telling people what he is doing - "I am walking along" ffs.
And Eric, if your real friends said we won't bother to email as that is old hat but for details of the next meeting of the (fill in name) Appreciation Society, see it's page on Facebook, you'd have no option but to join
Mike (not on Facebook)
And Eric, if your real friends said we won't bother to email as that is old hat but for details of the next meeting of the (fill in name) Appreciation Society, see it's page on Facebook, you'd have no option but to join
Mike (not on Facebook)
Eric Mc said:
This is a new phenomnenon actually. Most people who move away, or even just move jobs, gradually allow old friends and aquaintances fade away as their lives are now following different paths. This has always been "the norm" and entirely natural.
its only a new phenomenon due to the requirement for worker mobility. back in the day, probably at a time you remember, most people grew up and lived and worked in the same town/area all their lives, and so never lost touch with their friends from school etc.Bookface just redresses this balance in a 21st Century kind of way.
Jerry Can said:
Eric Mc said:
This is a new phenomnenon actually. Most people who move away, or even just move jobs, gradually allow old friends and aquaintances fade away as their lives are now following different paths. This has always been "the norm" and entirely natural.
its only a new phenomenon due to the requirement for worker mobility. back in the day, probably at a time you remember, most people grew up and lived and worked in the same town/area all their lives, and so never lost touch with their friends from school etc.Bookface just redresses this balance in a 21st Century kind of way.
I still think that over time, those with whom you may have shared quite close friendships with will become less important to you as your lives and life situations change and evolve. Obnviously, with electronic media you might still be able to check up on these types of older friends if you want to. It's all about choice in the end.
I chose to limit my "electronic" contacts to forums such as PH - and the use of e-mails (which can, of course, be aimed at more than omne individual at a time, if necessary).
There are aspects of Facebook in particular that I am not altogether keen on, so I chose not to use it.
And, as the OP has found out, these social media sites can come back to bite you big-time if you do not proceed with some caution.
Eric Mc said:
I personally have no interest or requirement to use it. I don't ever intend to sign up to the service. I have enough "real" friends I can meet and communicate with in the real world. If I do need to communicate with them electronically, e-mail works perfectly well.
congratulations! Do you truly believe the rest of the world should be just like you, or are you prepared to entertain a little variety?
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