Teacher fired for not using preferred pronouns!
Discussion
otolith said:
I find that a rather strange position. We expect police officers to be polite and respectful. We expect the same from doctors, tax inspectors, ticket inspectors, doormen, receptionists. Even setting aside any idea that it's appropriate to default to treating anyone disrespectfully if they don't have a choice about being there, this is a further education college, not a Borstal.
Based on statistic alone, technically I taught the lowest academic children in England one year. Many of the children were only allowed in for my lesson and then had to go home
Regardless, I was always polite and respectful, they were the most successful tools I had!
QJumper said:
272BHP said:
Politeness is a privilege, not a right.
Not really. One can deserve the rudeness of others but, until rudeness is warranted, then politeness should be the default.Respect is a reflection of the person that's respected, but politeness is a reflection of the person being polite.
Give the little ****** an inch and they will take a mile
gregs656 said:
272BHP said:
A classroom is different. A teacher is in a position of authority.
Give the little ****** an inch and they will take a mile
Authority is not a stick to beat people with. Good authority and leadership is the opposite to what you describe. Give the little ****** an inch and they will take a mile
Let teachers teach in a style that suits them.
bhstewie said:
This man wasn't "clear, direct, curt and authoritative" he was unnecessarily rude and offensive taken at face value.
Honestly the st some of you will defend.
I was not referring to that particular teacher.Honestly the st some of you will defend.
Just on this weird expectation of teachers to be polite to pupils at all times.
J4CKO said:
bhstewie said:
J4CKO said:
bhstewie said:
I always find it odd that when faced between simply being decent and polite to someone who's probably not having the easiest of times and who would appreciate a little support or being completely and deliberately obnoxious to them on purpose how many people will try to defend someone taking the being completely and deliberately obnoxious to them on purpose approach.
Yeah, this.I know some get all frothy about pronouns, and sometimes it seems a little too complicated and can be quite militant in its application but this just seems like a young girl who, going forward wants to be known as male.
Its not hard, and its not like he misgendered him by mistake after being used to referring to him as her, he deliberately made a fuss about saying he wouldn't, strange hill to die on.
Then, as straight, white, males in middle age, you then get painted as the enemy and that you dont understand, and hate trans people. Thing is, its not a new thing, its just that trans people now have a voice that they didnt have, but like this guy, sometimes some get it a bit wrong or go a bit over the top and those are the ones you hear about most. Can see why some trans folk get a bit defensive to be fair after all those years of taking st and having the piss taken.
Without wanting to sound too rude if you didn't know any better it was almost a case of someone who looked male and who you called John on Friday walked into the office on Monday morning looking the same but with slightly longer hair and wearing lipstick asking to be called Jane.
From that point onwards John was Jane and he was she.
I wouldn't even have dreamed of calling her John or he past that point because frankly whatever the law or HR might have had to say about it it would have been a dick move to do so having been explicitly asked not to.
You don't need to agree with something or understand it to not be a dick about it.
It is what it is, and as you say, why be a dick about it ? Nobody does that lightly, its a big, big step and I cant begin to imagine how hard it must be.
My wife works in a school, and there are kids who want to be known by a different pronoun, and apparently the other kids are by and large brilliant about it.
chrispmartha said:
Rufus Stone said:
biggles330d said:
Would never have happened in my day. Everyone was: Hey, You, Child. Completely gender neutral. lol
We were referred to just by our surname at my school.Catweazle said:
chrispmartha said:
Rufus Stone said:
biggles330d said:
Would never have happened in my day. Everyone was: Hey, You, Child. Completely gender neutral. lol
We were referred to just by our surname at my school.otolith said:
It's not a school, it's a further education college. They don't do that.
https://www.newcollege.ac.uk/
In any case, kids now apparently don't generally use the showers - and the policy for the last 25 years has been to build cubicles rather than the communal facilities my generation was forced to use.
Prompted me to ask my daughter about post- swimming showering at school.https://www.newcollege.ac.uk/
In any case, kids now apparently don't generally use the showers - and the policy for the last 25 years has been to build cubicles rather than the communal facilities my generation was forced to use.
Never thought about it.
Turns out the facilities are such you can use a cubicle or shower with friends. She likes to shower with her friends, she says.
They are 6-7 age group.
Same facilities used by all kids after relevant swimming classes up to age 18.
So I guess some still use communal part.
Different country and all that.
Edited by jdw100 on Friday 22 March 03:34
XCP said:
I would expect, and indeed know that we did, accept a trans man in our men only spaces. He was a respected colleague and treated as such.
Why expect any different?
I said trans woman and female only spaces.Why expect any different?
Females aren't a potential threat to males in the way males are to females.
Patrick Bateman said:
XCP said:
I would expect, and indeed know that we did, accept a trans man in our men only spaces. He was a respected colleague and treated as such.
Why expect any different?
I said trans woman and female only spaces.Why expect any different?
Females aren't a potential threat to males in the way males are to females.
jdw100 said:
otolith said:
It's not a school, it's a further education college. They don't do that.
https://www.newcollege.ac.uk/
In any case, kids now apparently don't generally use the showers - and the policy for the last 25 years has been to build cubicles rather than the communal facilities my generation was forced to use.
Prompted me to ask my daughter about post- swimming showering at school.https://www.newcollege.ac.uk/
In any case, kids now apparently don't generally use the showers - and the policy for the last 25 years has been to build cubicles rather than the communal facilities my generation was forced to use.
Never thought about it.
Turns out the facilities are such you can use a cubicle or shower with friends. She likes to shower with her friends, she says.
They are 6-7 age group.
Same facilities used by all kids after relevant swimming classes up to age 18.
So I guess some still use communal part.
Different country and all that.
I guess their generation just identify as 'not stinking'.
Patrick Bateman said:
J4CKO said:
bhstewie said:
J4CKO said:
bhstewie said:
I always find it odd that when faced between simply being decent and polite to someone who's probably not having the easiest of times and who would appreciate a little support or being completely and deliberately obnoxious to them on purpose how many people will try to defend someone taking the being completely and deliberately obnoxious to them on purpose approach.
Yeah, this.I know some get all frothy about pronouns, and sometimes it seems a little too complicated and can be quite militant in its application but this just seems like a young girl who, going forward wants to be known as male.
Its not hard, and its not like he misgendered him by mistake after being used to referring to him as her, he deliberately made a fuss about saying he wouldn't, strange hill to die on.
Then, as straight, white, males in middle age, you then get painted as the enemy and that you dont understand, and hate trans people. Thing is, its not a new thing, its just that trans people now have a voice that they didnt have, but like this guy, sometimes some get it a bit wrong or go a bit over the top and those are the ones you hear about most. Can see why some trans folk get a bit defensive to be fair after all those years of taking st and having the piss taken.
Without wanting to sound too rude if you didn't know any better it was almost a case of someone who looked male and who you called John on Friday walked into the office on Monday morning looking the same but with slightly longer hair and wearing lipstick asking to be called Jane.
From that point onwards John was Jane and he was she.
I wouldn't even have dreamed of calling her John or he past that point because frankly whatever the law or HR might have had to say about it it would have been a dick move to do so having been explicitly asked not to.
You don't need to agree with something or understand it to not be a dick about it.
It is what it is, and as you say, why be a dick about it ? Nobody does that lightly, its a big, big step and I cant begin to imagine how hard it must be.
My wife works in a school, and there are kids who want to be known by a different pronoun, and apparently the other kids are by and large brilliant about it.
There will be tricky issues like that, and competing in sports when going from male to female, but that isnt what is at issue in this specific case.
Patrick Bateman said:
otolith said:
Why bring it up on this thread then, when this case is a trans man?
I was responding to comments relating to trans men.J4CKO said:
Patrick Bateman said:
J4CKO said:
bhstewie said:
J4CKO said:
bhstewie said:
I always find it odd that when faced between simply being decent and polite to someone who's probably not having the easiest of times and who would appreciate a little support or being completely and deliberately obnoxious to them on purpose how many people will try to defend someone taking the being completely and deliberately obnoxious to them on purpose approach.
Yeah, this.I know some get all frothy about pronouns, and sometimes it seems a little too complicated and can be quite militant in its application but this just seems like a young girl who, going forward wants to be known as male.
Its not hard, and its not like he misgendered him by mistake after being used to referring to him as her, he deliberately made a fuss about saying he wouldn't, strange hill to die on.
Then, as straight, white, males in middle age, you then get painted as the enemy and that you dont understand, and hate trans people. Thing is, its not a new thing, its just that trans people now have a voice that they didnt have, but like this guy, sometimes some get it a bit wrong or go a bit over the top and those are the ones you hear about most. Can see why some trans folk get a bit defensive to be fair after all those years of taking st and having the piss taken.
Without wanting to sound too rude if you didn't know any better it was almost a case of someone who looked male and who you called John on Friday walked into the office on Monday morning looking the same but with slightly longer hair and wearing lipstick asking to be called Jane.
From that point onwards John was Jane and he was she.
I wouldn't even have dreamed of calling her John or he past that point because frankly whatever the law or HR might have had to say about it it would have been a dick move to do so having been explicitly asked not to.
You don't need to agree with something or understand it to not be a dick about it.
It is what it is, and as you say, why be a dick about it ? Nobody does that lightly, its a big, big step and I cant begin to imagine how hard it must be.
My wife works in a school, and there are kids who want to be known by a different pronoun, and apparently the other kids are by and large brilliant about it.
There will be tricky issues like that, and competing in sports when going from male to female, but that isnt what is at issue in this specific case.
chrispmartha said:
Patrick Bateman said:
otolith said:
Why bring it up on this thread then, when this case is a trans man?
I was responding to comments relating to trans men.Gassing Station | News, Politics & Economics | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff