Some help please....Maintance payments
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Just wondering if anyone can answer my question, before I head to the C.A. for advice.
I left my ex over 2 years ago (not married, but together for just under 15 years), and up till the last 3 months, he has taken our son most weekends, and some of the holidays(1/3). And paid £100 a month maintance...a privately arrange agreement between the two of us.
However lately, he has been spending less time with his son, as he is involved with a new partner and her 4 kids (Not living together though).
Then this morning he annouces that he is no longer willing to have his son weekly, or 3 in every 4 wks...but wants him just 2 weekends per month, with no other contact. Plus holidays will probably not happen at all.
I have therefore decided that I will probably be better going to the CSA to get what my son in entitled to. As going on his wages 2 years ago, he should have been paying at least £150 a month. The money he pays to me, goes into an account for my sons future, and is never touched.
What I am wondering, I get both Family and Working tax credit, but no other benefits except Child Benefit. Well my tax credits be reduced, if I claim through CSA. And will I even see the extra maintance money? Or am I best to stick with what I've got?
I never wanted to go down this route, but when a father chooses another mans kids over his own, then I see no other route.
It's bad enough that his son is already asking why his dad no longer wants to spend as much time as he used to
And feel free to call me a SWT...past caring. I am doing this for my son, and not for the money.
I left my ex over 2 years ago (not married, but together for just under 15 years), and up till the last 3 months, he has taken our son most weekends, and some of the holidays(1/3). And paid £100 a month maintance...a privately arrange agreement between the two of us.
However lately, he has been spending less time with his son, as he is involved with a new partner and her 4 kids (Not living together though).
Then this morning he annouces that he is no longer willing to have his son weekly, or 3 in every 4 wks...but wants him just 2 weekends per month, with no other contact. Plus holidays will probably not happen at all.
I have therefore decided that I will probably be better going to the CSA to get what my son in entitled to. As going on his wages 2 years ago, he should have been paying at least £150 a month. The money he pays to me, goes into an account for my sons future, and is never touched.
What I am wondering, I get both Family and Working tax credit, but no other benefits except Child Benefit. Well my tax credits be reduced, if I claim through CSA. And will I even see the extra maintance money? Or am I best to stick with what I've got?
I never wanted to go down this route, but when a father chooses another mans kids over his own, then I see no other route.
It's bad enough that his son is already asking why his dad no longer wants to spend as much time as he used to
And feel free to call me a SWT...past caring. I am doing this for my son, and not for the money.
I have tried to sit down with him, and reason...but his mind is set.
He honestly thinks only of himself, the main reason I left him in the first place.
As I have said, his son is already asking me why he can't go to his dad's as often as he used to.
I came from a divorced family, and I know what it's like to have parents who fight constantly. And therefore I have lied to my son so far to protect him (and his father I suppose)
No money won't make a difference, but it will help put a roof over his head, and buy him clothes, food and extras like out of school activities.
Right now, I would love to tell my ex to stick his dosh.
He honestly thinks only of himself, the main reason I left him in the first place.
As I have said, his son is already asking me why he can't go to his dad's as often as he used to.
I came from a divorced family, and I know what it's like to have parents who fight constantly. And therefore I have lied to my son so far to protect him (and his father I suppose)
No money won't make a difference, but it will help put a roof over his head, and buy him clothes, food and extras like out of school activities.
Right now, I would love to tell my ex to stick his dosh.
haworthlloyd1 said:
I don't know but seeing you as getting working tax credit, family tax credit and child benefit and possibly some money from the CSA - surely at some point the benefits will have to stop rolling in? would have thought that any CSA payment you get would hinder your benefits although i'm no expert on it. Having said that you should be declaring the money you get off him anyway.
I have declared everything he has given me, and everyone gets Child benefit. So it is my Working and Family tax I am worried about.Gassing Station | Finance | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff