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kuro said:
Hope you are managing to cope okay today. Early days are tough to deal with.
Just feel numb. Clearing her things away and washing anything we can donate to the local dog shelter. Just the smell of her bed etc. was hard to be around.I know this sounds stupid but two hours after she died I took her to the pet crematorium which is 40 miles away. I didn't want myself and the family seeing her going through the process of death. She was already becoming heavy in a matter of hours with time passing rigor mortis was setting in.
But she is still over there and by herself until the cremation takes place. We were told 24-48 hours which is pretty fast compared to other facilities.
I know she is long gone and will know nothing but in the past we would have said our goodbye's and buried her in the family garden that night. This is what we did with our previous dog and other smaller pets but I am in a rental situation. Just hate the fact she is somewhere in body without being close to us. She hated being left.
I know it's not rational thinking.
Had to have a drink tonight as I only got an hours sleep last night. Haven't slept since Saturday to be 100% honest.
I knew it was going to be hard. I have lost friends in the past which should be on another level but this dog knew me inside out and was there 24/7 for me.
Anyway the drink is speaking now. Hopefully we will get the ashes tomorrow but it means nothing now to be honest.
Sorry to just post this. Just need to write how I am feeling. Don't want to upset the family talking about these things.
Thank you for asking. Sorry for the rant.
ELUSIVEJIM said:
kuro said:
Hope you are managing to cope okay today. Early days are tough to deal with.
Just feel numb. Clearing her things away and washing anything we can donate to the local dog shelter. Just the smell of her bed etc. was hard to be around.I know this sounds stupid but two hours after she died I took her to the pet crematorium which is 40 miles away. I didn't want myself and the family seeing her going through the process of death. She was already becoming heavy in a matter of hours with time passing rigor mortis was setting in.
But she is still over there and by herself until the cremation takes place. We were told 24-48 hours which is pretty fast compared to other facilities.
I know she is long gone and will know nothing but in the past we would have said our goodbye's and buried her in the family garden that night. This is what we did with our previous dog and other smaller pets but I am in a rental situation. Just hate the fact she is somewhere in body without being close to us. She hated being left.
I know it's not rational thinking.
Had to have a drink tonight as I only got an hours sleep last night. Haven't slept since Saturday to be 100% honest.
I knew it was going to be hard. I have lost friends in the past which should be on another level but this dog knew me inside out and was there 24/7 for me.
Anyway the drink is speaking now. Hopefully we will get the ashes tomorrow but it means nothing now to be honest.
Sorry to just post this. Just need to write how I am feeling. Don't want to upset the family talking about these things.
Thank you for asking. Sorry for the rant.
jules_s said:
That isn't a rant mate - totally understandable
I'm dreading that trip to the vets, my cats have been our best mates for ten years now
As you know they are just part of the family. You know at some point you will lose them but you are never prepared for it.I'm dreading that trip to the vets, my cats have been our best mates for ten years now
Hopefully you have many more years with your best mate
Squadrone Rosso said:
It’s not a rant mate. It’s a completely understandable outpouring. I understand how you feel 
We had this done for our Poppy. Her ashes are in a sealed box behind the attached picture frame.
She looks down on me aside the bed where she would lay on me.
I think this is exactly what we are thinking of doing. Looked at the urn's at the place or rest and also online but they just look a bit obvious.We had this done for our Poppy. Her ashes are in a sealed box behind the attached picture frame.
She looks down on me aside the bed where she would lay on me.
Having anyone visiting seeing an urn in the corner would perhaps make people feel a bit uneasy.
That is such a beautiful way or remembering your amazing Poppy.
Very sorry for your loss. Looks such a beautiful Westie.
R.I.P Poppy.
kuro said:
Not irrational at all. I remember feeling the same when my GSD was at the pet cemetery. Just be prepared for another wave of emotion when her ashes come back.
So sorry for your loss. I don't think it matters when you lose them. Still will always be in your heart and mind.Just feel strange about the ashes but as you say it will hit home again.
It make things completely final which will be emotional.
ELUSIVEJIM said:
Just feel numb. Clearing her things away and washing anything we can donate to the local dog shelter. Just the smell of her bed etc. was hard to be around.
I know this sounds stupid but two hours after she died I took her to the pet crematorium which is 40 miles away. I didn't want myself and the family seeing her going through the process of death. She was already becoming heavy in a matter of hours with time passing rigor mortis was setting in.
But she is still over there and by herself until the cremation takes place. We were told 24-48 hours which is pretty fast compared to other facilities.
I know she is long gone and will know nothing but in the past we would have said our goodbye's and buried her in the family garden that night. This is what we did with our previous dog and other smaller pets but I am in a rental situation. Just hate the fact she is somewhere in body without being close to us. She hated being left.
I know it's not rational thinking.
Had to have a drink tonight as I only got an hours sleep last night. Haven't slept since Saturday to be 100% honest.
I knew it was going to be hard. I have lost friends in the past which should be on another level but this dog knew me inside out and was there 24/7 for me.
Anyway the drink is speaking now. Hopefully we will get the ashes tomorrow but it means nothing now to be honest.
Sorry to just post this. Just need to write how I am feeling. Don't want to upset the family talking about these things.
Thank you for asking. Sorry for the rant.
Not a rant at all.I know this sounds stupid but two hours after she died I took her to the pet crematorium which is 40 miles away. I didn't want myself and the family seeing her going through the process of death. She was already becoming heavy in a matter of hours with time passing rigor mortis was setting in.
But she is still over there and by herself until the cremation takes place. We were told 24-48 hours which is pretty fast compared to other facilities.
I know she is long gone and will know nothing but in the past we would have said our goodbye's and buried her in the family garden that night. This is what we did with our previous dog and other smaller pets but I am in a rental situation. Just hate the fact she is somewhere in body without being close to us. She hated being left.
I know it's not rational thinking.
Had to have a drink tonight as I only got an hours sleep last night. Haven't slept since Saturday to be 100% honest.
I knew it was going to be hard. I have lost friends in the past which should be on another level but this dog knew me inside out and was there 24/7 for me.
Anyway the drink is speaking now. Hopefully we will get the ashes tomorrow but it means nothing now to be honest.
Sorry to just post this. Just need to write how I am feeling. Don't want to upset the family talking about these things.
Thank you for asking. Sorry for the rant.
We go through all sorts of emotions when grieving.
They tend to follow a pattern but can creep up on you when you are least expecting them.
Anyone who has been through 13 years with a dog knows exactly what you are going through.
My cocker is getting extra hugs this week.
garythesign said:
Not a rant at all.
We go through all sorts of emotions when grieving.
They tend to follow a pattern but can creep up on you when you are least expecting them.
Anyone who has been through 13 years with a dog knows exactly what you are going through.
My cocker is getting extra hugs this week.
Thank you mate.We go through all sorts of emotions when grieving.
They tend to follow a pattern but can creep up on you when you are least expecting them.
Anyone who has been through 13 years with a dog knows exactly what you are going through.
My cocker is getting extra hugs this week.
Yes these things sure do make you appreciate your dog even more. Never took her for granted so thankfully I don't feel guilty about not giving her 100%.
But then you do question if it was the right time etc. But I did ask for the vets honest view before we proceeded and she thought she was starting to be in pain.
Was offered stronger steroid pain relief and take her home but it was just going to give her a short time left which could have landed up in a situation no one would want to see.
Just been contacted to say we can collect the ashes. So will be travelling across this afternoon.
Please give your Cocker a hug from me.
Thank you again.
Gone from our sight,
But never our memories,
Gone from our touch
But never our hearts.
I so understand how you are feeling having lost my springer over 3 years ago at almost 14 years and her mother at similar age. It is taking them to the vet and knowing that they will not be coming home with you is so hard to accept.
My two went downhill very quickly as your Molly did.
I had a lovely card from my vet afterwards with a packet of forget - me - not seeds in.
ELUSIVEJIM said:
kuro said:
Not irrational at all. I remember feeling the same when my GSD was at the pet cemetery. Just be prepared for another wave of emotion when her ashes come back.
So sorry for your loss. I don't think it matters when you lose them. Still will always be in your heart and mind.Just feel strange about the ashes but as you say it will hit home again.
It make things completely final which will be emotional.
I vowed never to have another dog after that but a feisty Yorkie joined the family 5 years ago. I dread having to go through that again, they aren't with us long enough.
SPR2 said:
Gone from our sight,
But never our memories,
Gone from our touch
But never our hearts.
I so understand how you are feeling having lost my springer over 3 years ago at almost 14 years and her mother at similar age. It is taking them to the vet and knowing that they will not be coming home with you is so hard to accept.
My two went downhill very quickly as your Molly did.
I had a lovely card from my vet afterwards with a packet of forget - me - not seeds in.
Feel for you. It is so hard seeing them going downhill quickly. It was a shock even when I know she was ill.But never our memories,
Gone from our touch
But never our hearts.
I so understand how you are feeling having lost my springer over 3 years ago at almost 14 years and her mother at similar age. It is taking them to the vet and knowing that they will not be coming home with you is so hard to accept.
My two went downhill very quickly as your Molly did.
I had a lovely card from my vet afterwards with a packet of forget - me - not seeds in.
Very nice touch by the vet. More could do something like this considering the money we will spend during the life of our dear friends.
Thank you so much for your wishes.
Everyone's thoughts have mean't so much.
kuro said:
That was over 20 years ago, this thread is bringing it all back like it was yesterday.
I vowed never to have another dog after that but a feisty Yorkie joined the family 5 years ago. I dread having to go through that again, they aren't with us long enough.
Yes it would be amazing if dogs lived longer. I would give anything for that.I vowed never to have another dog after that but a feisty Yorkie joined the family 5 years ago. I dread having to go through that again, they aren't with us long enough.
I am so pleased you did decide to get another dog. I might consider it in time once everything settles down.
Thank you again for your kind words
Jasandjules said:
So sorry.
Her soul is with you now and through eternity.
This rings very true.Her soul is with you now and through eternity.
I am perhaps one of the last people who would believe in spirits but all of her bedding and items have been washed or cleaned and put into bags for the local shelter/SSPCA yet twice in the last two days there has been a very strong breeze and then a smell that could only have been her.
Very strange and I was sober
It is actually a bit easier feeling this sensation even if it is just in my imagination.
We have her ashes back in a photo frame. It was hard at first but it is great to have her back in some form.
I would not wish anyone to lose a love one and pets to me are exactly the same.
Amazing love they give you during their lives. This is why when they die it's so hard.
Blimey OP, this thread has resurrected some painful memories. Only 'dog' people can properly understand the heartache you are going through. You've made me fetch a whisky...
I had to have my soulmate put to sleep 5 years ago and even now, reading this reduces me to tears. Like you, I had the vet come to my house as I didn't want him to be scared. In fact, I still have the pair of jeans and jumper that I wore that morning as he led on my lap. They haven't been worn or washed since and still smell of him.
I've not been able to face getting another dog yet, my wife is desparate to get one. Particularly now that we have a family and are about to move into a very large old house (houses like that need dogs apparently!)
Getting a new dog would make me feel disloyal and in any event, I'm not sure I could go through such heartbreak again......
I got drunk every night for the first couple of weeks (being self employed is useful at times!) Whisky helped tremendously
On that note - I shall raise my glass to you and your wonderful dog!
I had to have my soulmate put to sleep 5 years ago and even now, reading this reduces me to tears. Like you, I had the vet come to my house as I didn't want him to be scared. In fact, I still have the pair of jeans and jumper that I wore that morning as he led on my lap. They haven't been worn or washed since and still smell of him.
I've not been able to face getting another dog yet, my wife is desparate to get one. Particularly now that we have a family and are about to move into a very large old house (houses like that need dogs apparently!)
Getting a new dog would make me feel disloyal and in any event, I'm not sure I could go through such heartbreak again......
I got drunk every night for the first couple of weeks (being self employed is useful at times!) Whisky helped tremendously
On that note - I shall raise my glass to you and your wonderful dog!
Stedman said:
RIP to your best friend EJ.
It's bloody tough mate but I promise you the great memories will start to make you smile and laugh again.
Thank you so much.It's bloody tough mate but I promise you the great memories will start to make you smile and laugh again.
The dog was nuts in her youth and to be fair never grew up.
Lots of fantastic memories which will be easier to think about in time.
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