It's Caturday- Post some cats (vol 3)
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OK - here's Woozle; first pic I've posted of her, but as she's 16 I thought is was about time. She was getting a bit lethargic a few years ago as her pal Murphy of 13 years was getting older too, but when he died we got another Burmese kitten and for the last couple of years she's been like a young cat again.
She is the most talkative cat we've ever had, and you can hold 'conversations'; whatever tone you speak to her in she meows/chirps back the same, and if you say longer sentences you get a longer response. Anyway, here the old girl:
Silent...
...and speaking.
And now here's Maku'e, he's 2 1/2 now, and loves sleeping under the duvet
And both crashed out together.
[pic]
She is the most talkative cat we've ever had, and you can hold 'conversations'; whatever tone you speak to her in she meows/chirps back the same, and if you say longer sentences you get a longer response. Anyway, here the old girl:
Silent...
...and speaking.
And now here's Maku'e, he's 2 1/2 now, and loves sleeping under the duvet
And both crashed out together.
[pic]
A year now since my cat died (old age really, though it was a rectal prolapse that actually finished him off).
Despite everyone saying I'd eventually want another one, I still don't. I love seeing friends' cats, but getting another of my own would be akin to replacing a child who'd died.
Part of it is that I'm away a lot for work, live alone and thus it would be tricky. But really, that's just an excuse. I do not think I can ever have another cat. I had a cat, and he died. The end. Any other cat, however lovely, would be a pale imposter, a replacement and not the genuine article. I don't even really want to change this, as a year on it still feels that this is the right way for me to think.
Despite everyone saying I'd eventually want another one, I still don't. I love seeing friends' cats, but getting another of my own would be akin to replacing a child who'd died.
Part of it is that I'm away a lot for work, live alone and thus it would be tricky. But really, that's just an excuse. I do not think I can ever have another cat. I had a cat, and he died. The end. Any other cat, however lovely, would be a pale imposter, a replacement and not the genuine article. I don't even really want to change this, as a year on it still feels that this is the right way for me to think.
zarjaz1991 said:
A year now since my cat died (old age really, though it was a rectal prolapse that actually finished him off).
Despite everyone saying I'd eventually want another one, I still don't. I love seeing friends' cats, but getting another of my own would be akin to replacing a child who'd died.
Part of it is that I'm away a lot for work, live alone and thus it would be tricky. But really, that's just an excuse. I do not think I can ever have another cat. I had a cat, and he died. The end. Any other cat, however lovely, would be a pale imposter, a replacement and not the genuine article. I don't even really want to change this, as a year on it still feels that this is the right way for me to think.
Don't feel bad for how you feel, we are all different in how we deal with the loss of a much loved four legged friend, you have to do what is right for you.Despite everyone saying I'd eventually want another one, I still don't. I love seeing friends' cats, but getting another of my own would be akin to replacing a child who'd died.
Part of it is that I'm away a lot for work, live alone and thus it would be tricky. But really, that's just an excuse. I do not think I can ever have another cat. I had a cat, and he died. The end. Any other cat, however lovely, would be a pale imposter, a replacement and not the genuine article. I don't even really want to change this, as a year on it still feels that this is the right way for me to think.
I will just say we never replace. No one would ever be able to replace (nor would I want them too) my dear Fitz who has been gone 3yrs now. He was an incredible little soul and was a truly special little cat but I will in time consider another (we still have our Maine Coon Lucy who would not want to share with another cat again) we lost our whippet Jimmy almost 3yrs to the day (June 3Rd) I still cry over his loss, still wish he was here, still talk about him loads but we do have 2 whippets in our lives bringing their own joy and pleasures.
My point is you have to listen to yourself not be pressured by anyone else but that many of us experience what you are going through and we do find a way to eventually find space in our hearts for another. Take care.
bexVN said:
Don't feel bad for how you feel, we are all different in how we deal with the loss of a much loved four legged friend, you have to do what is right for you.
I will just say we never replace. No one would ever be able to replace (nor would I want them too) my dear Fitz who has been gone 3yrs now. He was an incredible little soul and was a truly special little cat but I will in time consider another (we still have our Maine Coon Lucy who would not want to share with another cat again) we lost our whippet Jimmy almost 3yrs to the day (June 3Rd) I still cry over his loss, still wish he was here, still talk about him loads but we do have 2 whippets in our lives bringing their own joy and pleasures.
My point is you have to listen to yourself not be pressured by anyone else but that many of us experience what you are going through and we do find a way to eventually find space in our hearts for another. Take care.
Bex is right, you can never replace a much loved cat; just like you can't replace a person. They're all specialI will just say we never replace. No one would ever be able to replace (nor would I want them too) my dear Fitz who has been gone 3yrs now. He was an incredible little soul and was a truly special little cat but I will in time consider another (we still have our Maine Coon Lucy who would not want to share with another cat again) we lost our whippet Jimmy almost 3yrs to the day (June 3Rd) I still cry over his loss, still wish he was here, still talk about him loads but we do have 2 whippets in our lives bringing their own joy and pleasures.
My point is you have to listen to yourself not be pressured by anyone else but that many of us experience what you are going through and we do find a way to eventually find space in our hearts for another. Take care.
But, you can open your heart to another that can help heal the loss.
ali_kat said:
Bex is right, you can never replace a much loved cat; just like you can't replace a person. They're all special
But, you can open your heart to another that can help heal the loss.
I agree, and many people do. It's just that I can't.But, you can open your heart to another that can help heal the loss.
I have a picture of my cat in the wall. Every time I look at him, I realise that I can't.
It's not right or wrong. It just is.
I still love cats and I love other people's cats. And random cats that turn up in my garden. But I can't devote myself to owning one again, at least not for a very long time to come.
Maybe part of it is selfish....I perhaps don't want to put myself through that heartbreak again. Sadly that horrible day always comes, as witnessed by this thread, which is both joyous and terribly upsetting in equal measure, it is full of happy stories of cats but also sad stories of them dying.
Apologies. I'm buggering the thread up. As you were.
zarjaz1991 said:
ali_kat said:
Bex is right, you can never replace a much loved cat; just like you can't replace a person. They're all special
But, you can open your heart to another that can help heal the loss.
I agree, and many people do. It's just that I can't.But, you can open your heart to another that can help heal the loss.
I have a picture of my cat in the wall. Every time I look at him, I realise that I can't.
It's not right or wrong. It just is.
I still love cats and I love other people's cats. And random cats that turn up in my garden. But I can't devote myself to owning one again, at least not for a very long time to come.
Maybe part of it is selfish....I perhaps don't want to put myself through that heartbreak again. Sadly that horrible day always comes, as witnessed by this thread, which is both joyous and terribly upsetting in equal measure, it is full of happy stories of cats but also sad stories of them dying.
Apologies. I'm buggering the thread up. As you were.
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