It's Caturday- Post some cats (vol 3)
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[quote=BenS94]
We have one identical - expect the padded edge to last about 5 minutes before tucking under itself, much to the annoyance of the cat. [/quote
I’m going to make the top platform bigger as he’s already fallen out of it once ( fairly simple job ) , but he seems to spend 99% of his day up there at the moment so will have to bide my time
We have one identical - expect the padded edge to last about 5 minutes before tucking under itself, much to the annoyance of the cat. [/quote
I’m going to make the top platform bigger as he’s already fallen out of it once ( fairly simple job ) , but he seems to spend 99% of his day up there at the moment so will have to bide my time
Had to say goodbye to one of ours last Friday. Didn't even make 3 years old!
What makes it hard is not knowing exactly what happened and also blaming myself!
Very briefly got home from work late last Thursday night. Usually he is sleeping on the sofa, or in his bed. But this time he was tapping at the back door howling to go out. Now it was late (1130 ish). Usually I don't allow them out at this time and they don't generally stay out overnight although there has been the odd occasion. But he was so loud and tapping the door i let him out, expecting a brief lap of the garden, toilet and in. Gave him half an hour, shouted but nothing, another half hour and still nothing. They have a kennel in the garden and they know it's their safe space so I went to bed (1am).
Woke early (6am) Friday morning and still no sign. Took a wonder up our road and saw, under a van what I thought was a carrier bag. As I approached it was no carrier bag, it was our cat Bentley curled up. I really hoped he was sleeping, but he wasn't. Scooped him up and took him "home". Without going on to too much detail, he was pretty stiff so had been passed a while. No visible injuries although my partner says he had light blood staining around his mouth and nose.
She thinks a car hit is most likely, not the van he was found under as that hadnt moved, I'm not so sure as it was late and we live in a quiet cul de sac. He's always been a strange cat, very small head, short front legs, and very soft in the head and no common sense or road sense at all!. I'm wondering if there was something wrong internally and he wondered off to die.
I don't know why I'm even discussing it, it doesn't matter and he is not here. I still blame myself for letting him out and I'm in pieces still.
Rip Bentley, miss you buddy, you were the best.
This is the 2nd cat we have lost in 2 years. Our other one died of kidney failure at 13 last year. As much as I'd like another cat as company for our remining 4 year old, I'm not sure I could deal with the pain of losing another.
What makes it hard is not knowing exactly what happened and also blaming myself!
Very briefly got home from work late last Thursday night. Usually he is sleeping on the sofa, or in his bed. But this time he was tapping at the back door howling to go out. Now it was late (1130 ish). Usually I don't allow them out at this time and they don't generally stay out overnight although there has been the odd occasion. But he was so loud and tapping the door i let him out, expecting a brief lap of the garden, toilet and in. Gave him half an hour, shouted but nothing, another half hour and still nothing. They have a kennel in the garden and they know it's their safe space so I went to bed (1am).
Woke early (6am) Friday morning and still no sign. Took a wonder up our road and saw, under a van what I thought was a carrier bag. As I approached it was no carrier bag, it was our cat Bentley curled up. I really hoped he was sleeping, but he wasn't. Scooped him up and took him "home". Without going on to too much detail, he was pretty stiff so had been passed a while. No visible injuries although my partner says he had light blood staining around his mouth and nose.
She thinks a car hit is most likely, not the van he was found under as that hadnt moved, I'm not so sure as it was late and we live in a quiet cul de sac. He's always been a strange cat, very small head, short front legs, and very soft in the head and no common sense or road sense at all!. I'm wondering if there was something wrong internally and he wondered off to die.
I don't know why I'm even discussing it, it doesn't matter and he is not here. I still blame myself for letting him out and I'm in pieces still.
Rip Bentley, miss you buddy, you were the best.
This is the 2nd cat we have lost in 2 years. Our other one died of kidney failure at 13 last year. As much as I'd like another cat as company for our remining 4 year old, I'm not sure I could deal with the pain of losing another.
Edited by mattstr675 on Monday 27th May 20:33
garythesign said:
It seems we are built to always blame ourselves for things out of our control
Please take it easy on yourself. You must be in enough pain without beating yourself up.
RIP Bentley
That seems so very true, sorry for your loss.Please take it easy on yourself. You must be in enough pain without beating yourself up.
RIP Bentley
7 days on now and I'm still prone to sudden tears / breakdowns. Keep seeing the image of his body before I scooped him up, and keep asking myself why I let him out. The whole thing about not knowing what happened. I've questioned all the neighbours but no one heard nothing.
Feel so sorry for my 9 year old daughter. She's lost 2 grand parents and 2 cats over the last 18 months
If I had the guts, I would've ended it by now.
Sorry for venting but I really don't know how I will get through this.
mattstr675 said:
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If I had the guts, I would've ended it by now.
Sorry for venting but I really don't know how I will get through this.
59 years I’ve been on this earth and I’ve lost 5 catsIf I had the guts, I would've ended it by now.
Sorry for venting but I really don't know how I will get through this.
Flapjack
Donut
Truffle
Elsie
Stanley
They are small creatures but the leave a huge hole in your life when they leave and it hurts like f
kThere is nothing anyone can say to help just know many of us have been through the same and it does get easier (just not very quickly)
mattstr675 said:
That seems so very true, sorry for your loss.
7 days on now and I'm still prone to sudden tears / breakdowns. Keep seeing the image of his body before I scooped him up, and keep asking myself why I let him out. The whole thing about not knowing what happened. I've questioned all the neighbours but no one heard nothing.
Feel so sorry for my 9 year old daughter. She's lost 2 grand parents and 2 cats over the last 18 months
If I had the guts, I would've ended it by now.
Sorry for venting but I really don't know how I will get through this.
Feel free to PM me. We lost our young cat knocked over outside our house end January, and understand the devastating feelings.7 days on now and I'm still prone to sudden tears / breakdowns. Keep seeing the image of his body before I scooped him up, and keep asking myself why I let him out. The whole thing about not knowing what happened. I've questioned all the neighbours but no one heard nothing.
Feel so sorry for my 9 year old daughter. She's lost 2 grand parents and 2 cats over the last 18 months
If I had the guts, I would've ended it by now.
Sorry for venting but I really don't know how I will get through this.
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