Putting yourself down .. is a good thing to do?
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A mate of mine doesn't have much luck with the women. Absolutely nowt. I mean even less than me. At least girlies will come to chat to me because they think i'm interesting and a bit cool (if i may say so). But then i notice that he is always putting himself down. For examples on his Facebook he has posted :-
"X is going on a last-chance power drive .. though admitedly to collect some ironed shirts from his mum" [he drive a cool car and is a fan of The Boss]
So my question to the girlies (and guys) is .. Does it matter what people say about themselves? .. is it a better strategy in life to 'big oneself up' or just play it modest and hope someone will notice you for the shy modest intelligent type that you are.
Cock Womble 7 said:
fido said:
or just play it modest and hope someone will notice you for the shy modest intelligent type that you are.
This approach has been the secret of my success with the birds.V8mate said:
Cock Womble 7 said:
fido said:
or just play it modest and hope someone will notice you for the shy modest intelligent type that you are.
This approach has been the secret of my success with the birds.
All the first division swordsmen I have met have all had massive egos, usually tempered with just enough self deprecation to avoid looking like a total chopper.
Sadly I cannot count myself among their number, but if this approach can work for a short bald spastic like me (and it can) then it can work for anyone.
Sadly I cannot count myself among their number, but if this approach can work for a short bald spastic like me (and it can) then it can work for anyone.
I think there is a difference between putting yourself down and taking the piss out of yourself though, I do the latter all the time. As the saying goes - those that can laugh at themselves will never cease to be amused. I wouldn't be attracted to a bloke who him bigs himself up all the time as I would see him as potential arrogant arse or complete bull s
tter.
I am just myself, I don't boast about the things I am good at and I can laugh at take the piss out the things I am bad at.
Your mates status just seems like a bit of self piss take, if his status were all.. boohoo me why is my life so crap, why can’t I get a women..etc.. then that would be a definite put off
Quietly confident.
tter.I am just myself, I don't boast about the things I am good at and I can laugh at take the piss out the things I am bad at.
Your mates status just seems like a bit of self piss take, if his status were all.. boohoo me why is my life so crap, why can’t I get a women..etc.. then that would be a definite put off
Quietly confident.
Edited by Kit80 on Saturday 20th November 18:11
ZOLLAR said:
Poledriver said:
Just be normal with a reasonable degree of self-confidence. Let people around you put you down, the women will then feel sympathy for you! 
You're such a Loser Let me know if you pull
I wasn't quoting from experience, just trying to make the OP feel worse!
soad said:
Nobody likes miserable/grumpy gits, do they?
All i can offer.
Surely it depends how you go about being grumpy? The majority of comedians have a grumpy, pissed-off persona and it's been said be a previous poster than a 'GSOH' is essential.All i can offer.
Miserable, moaning old git, yes that's bad, but I'm sure the ability to verbally destroy things you don't like in an entertaining way can't count against you? Better than being one of these bland irony-free zones who claims to like everything thus displaying no discernable personality.
Twincam16 said:
soad said:
Nobody likes miserable/grumpy gits, do they?
All i can offer.
Surely it depends how you go about being grumpy? The majority of comedians have a grumpy, pissed-off persona and it's been said be a previous poster than a 'GSOH' is essential.All i can offer.
Miserable, moaning old git, yes that's bad, but I'm sure the ability to verbally destroy things you don't like in an entertaining way can't count against you? Better than being one of these bland irony-free zones who claims to like everything thus displaying no discernable personality.
okgo said:
There is no denying the opposite kind of person will wipe the floor with you though in women stakes.
Oh, absolutely. You only have to consult my good friend Dave2000 to realise that.V8mate said:
Just to confirm, you're single, right?
Yes. Yes I am.I'm not for a moment suggesting that being the shy, retiring type has had me beating off the flange with a s
tty stick, because it hasn't.However, I've done "all right" when it comes to women by simply being me. And I am someone who couldn't "big myself up" if I tried - that's just not me.
"All women love a b
d", "Nice guys finish last" blah blah blah. Although there is some truth in these old adages, it doesn't mean that nice, non-bd blokes get nowhere.Sometimes, softly softly catchy monkey.
Cock Womble 7 said:
okgo said:
There is no denying the opposite kind of person will wipe the floor with you though in women stakes.
Oh, absolutely. You only have to consult my good friend Dave2000 to realise that.V8mate said:
Just to confirm, you're single, right?
Yes. Yes I am.I'm not for a moment suggesting that being the shy, retiring type has had me beating off the flange with a s
tty stick, because it hasn't.However, I've done "all right" when it comes to women by simply being me. And I am someone who couldn't "big myself up" if I tried - that's just not me.
"All women love a b
d", "Nice guys finish last" blah blah blah. Although there is some truth in these old adages, it doesn't mean that nice, non-bd blokes get nowhere.Sometimes, softly softly catchy monkey.
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