Sexlife as parents..frequency. what's 'normal'?
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mybrainhurts said:
Whilst on the subject, how many times before she needs a rebore?
Wouldn't sleeving be more appropriate, post multiple childbirth?dirty boy said:
Had to tell the neighbours the tv keeps falling off the wall and i'm running out of new holes to put it.
Not a total lie, at least.
Kermit power said:
hora said:
On your first comment- seen that on here and another forum a few times. On your last comment- we had that. Subtle pressure from friends. Now all our friends have two they are telling us all about the benefits of having a second, a sibling, someone there for them when both parents (us) are gone, they play together/look after each other etc etc.
This time we said no, we are enjoying part of our lives back
Also- don't know if this helps (seen some instances on google of it dropping sexdrive- switching from some forms of the pill to coil may help.
I've got 3, aged 12, 9 & 6.This time we said no, we are enjoying part of our lives back
Also- don't know if this helps (seen some instances on google of it dropping sexdrive- switching from some forms of the pill to coil may help.
Whilst I was never really bothered about having kids or not, I've seen far too many single children looking bored out of their minds stuck with just their parents on holidays and desperate for other kids to play with even if they don't share a common language to feel that it would've been anything other than unkind to have a single child. I resisted for a while, hence the age gaps between them, but ultimately it had to be done.
Having said that, whilst I wouldn't give any of them up now we've got them, as the father of three, I can definitely confirm that the ideal number of children is two!!
Yertis said:
IvanSTi said:
I get this all the time from my friends who have all now got kids.
"when are you two going to think about kids then?"
Standard response is "I don't want to ruin my life just yet".
Fortunately for me, the OH is on the same wavelength as me and doesn't want kids yet as we have plenty time left.
Then now's actually the best time to do it, IMO (and with the benefit of being married to a former midwife). Too many couples I know have left it to the last minute then found it's not something that happens on demand, and ended up having to use various forms of IVF etc before conceding defeat."when are you two going to think about kids then?"
Standard response is "I don't want to ruin my life just yet".
Fortunately for me, the OH is on the same wavelength as me and doesn't want kids yet as we have plenty time left.
Some in real desparation, conscious of the clock ticking, one more egg gone every month.
khevolution said:
If im lucky i manage to get some about twice a month (Got two boys aged 6 and 10mths ) Would like to believe i would get more, but unfortunately my mrs suffers from chronic back pain, which means she finds it difficult to get in the "mood".
Ah the dreaded f
king 'mood'. Edited by eltax91 on Monday 12th January 19:59
Mr Roper said:
Alternatively, drop a whole one before you go to bed ready for the morning.
But don't do this if you're planning an early morning swim with your new squeeze in a rather swanky hotel pool that happens to a) look out onto a rather busy golf course on one side and b) hotel family dining area on the other side. As that would be bad believe me 
Both 32, we have 2 girls (5 and 2) and have been together for 15 years.
I'd say on average once a week, but occasionally we find the extra energy and might manage it 3 times a week.
It's enough for me - all this talk of 2 or 3 times a day would leave me tired and without time for golf!
I'd say on average once a week, but occasionally we find the extra energy and might manage it 3 times a week.
It's enough for me - all this talk of 2 or 3 times a day would leave me tired and without time for golf!
Revenge can be sweet, 'though. Like the day I threw a sickie from work. Mid morning I heard the front door open, followed by sweet-sixteen giggles from my daughter's bedroom, which led to eeek-eerk, eeek-eerk from her bed. I got up, stomped about the house, made the maximum noise possible in the kitchen, then returned to my room with a cuppa. Moments later the front door creaked again, and closed, ever-so-softly. Coitus interrupt-us, your bloody turn, brat!
ShyTallKnight said:
But don't do this if you're planning an early morning swim with your new squeeze in a rather swanky hotel pool that happens to a) look out onto a rather busy golf course on one side and b) hotel family dining area on the other side. As that would be bad believe me
Was it a drag On the way home from dropping off our youngest at University, we made love 4 times in 12 hours. (We stayed in a nice hotel halfway home).
The following weekend we stayed in bed at home, apart from to get food or use the "facilities".
We are making up for previous missed opportunities, (about 10,000 I reckon) but when they came home at Christmas, we were asked by our kids if we could keep the noise down, when they had friends in the house (Always nice to have a Saturday afternoon nap, followed by a bit of action, but even better to have a Christmas afternoon "nap" whilst the kids are entertaining the in laws)
The following weekend we stayed in bed at home, apart from to get food or use the "facilities".
We are making up for previous missed opportunities, (about 10,000 I reckon) but when they came home at Christmas, we were asked by our kids if we could keep the noise down, when they had friends in the house (Always nice to have a Saturday afternoon nap, followed by a bit of action, but even better to have a Christmas afternoon "nap" whilst the kids are entertaining the in laws)
I haven't read the whole thread, but there isn't a pattern. Worst case scenario for us has been once in 2 months. Then a few times it's been 2-3 times in a week.
In my opinion, it's quite complicated.
I am a full time student, but on the days I am not at Uni I look after our 1 year old daughter. My wife works full time and her work is quite intense (teacher). On the one hand, time means we're often too knackered but also since our daughter has come along we've been ill more times this last year than in the last 10 combined.
I think if, say a traditional couple where the bloke works full time and the woman stays at home, this can cause complications on the sex life. The mum resents the man for having the 'freedom' of work and she also doesn't feel good about herself having to change nappies all day and tidy up non-stop. The bloke resents the woman for not having to work and sometimes perceives them as drain on resources. This combined with the possibility of attractive, motivated, driven females in their office (or work space) means they are 'put off' by their house wife covered in baby sick.
Not the case for everyone, I know, but I've seen it in at least half the cases of people I know.
I genuinely think abnormal would be going longer than 3 months without sex.
In my opinion, it's quite complicated.
I am a full time student, but on the days I am not at Uni I look after our 1 year old daughter. My wife works full time and her work is quite intense (teacher). On the one hand, time means we're often too knackered but also since our daughter has come along we've been ill more times this last year than in the last 10 combined.
I think if, say a traditional couple where the bloke works full time and the woman stays at home, this can cause complications on the sex life. The mum resents the man for having the 'freedom' of work and she also doesn't feel good about herself having to change nappies all day and tidy up non-stop. The bloke resents the woman for not having to work and sometimes perceives them as drain on resources. This combined with the possibility of attractive, motivated, driven females in their office (or work space) means they are 'put off' by their house wife covered in baby sick.
Not the case for everyone, I know, but I've seen it in at least half the cases of people I know.
I genuinely think abnormal would be going longer than 3 months without sex.
Monkeylegend said:
Probably a dildo.
Whatever you hope for, just pray it's not grandchildren then. If you lot thought having kids was bad enough, wait until you try grandchildren.
We have our grandson stay over on aa Tuesday nightnow so thats an 'off games' night now. Whatever you hope for, just pray it's not grandchildren then. If you lot thought having kids was bad enough, wait until you try grandchildren.
He is only 17months but we dont wantto risk waking him. Ive 'had an empty' in preparation.... 
Wacky Racer said:
Kermit power said:
hora said:
On your first comment- seen that on here and another forum a few times. On your last comment- we had that. Subtle pressure from friends. Now all our friends have two they are telling us all about the benefits of having a second, a sibling, someone there for them when both parents (us) are gone, they play together/look after each other etc etc.
This time we said no, we are enjoying part of our lives back
Also- don't know if this helps (seen some instances on google of it dropping sexdrive- switching from some forms of the pill to coil may help.
I've got 3, aged 12, 9 & 6.This time we said no, we are enjoying part of our lives back
Also- don't know if this helps (seen some instances on google of it dropping sexdrive- switching from some forms of the pill to coil may help.
Whilst I was never really bothered about having kids or not, I've seen far too many single children looking bored out of their minds stuck with just their parents on holidays and desperate for other kids to play with even if they don't share a common language to feel that it would've been anything other than unkind to have a single child. I resisted for a while, hence the age gaps between them, but ultimately it had to be done.
Having said that, whilst I wouldn't give any of them up now we've got them, as the father of three, I can definitely confirm that the ideal number of children is two!!
It is improving with time, and I'm sure it will be infinitely easier once my daughter is more or less independent, but try finding something which will entertain a 9yr old girl as well as a 3yr old boy (with another boy in the middle, for example). They also outnumber us, so we can't even split up to do something which is just right for one of them...
Not sure if this thread has made me feel better or worse. We have two aged 2 and nearly 4 and probably average once every 3 months maybe.
Wife is desperate for another since the 2nd one came along but I'm happy with 2 so therefore anything to do with sex she relates to having another child and pretty much refuses to unless I agree to have another.
Wife is desperate for another since the 2nd one came along but I'm happy with 2 so therefore anything to do with sex she relates to having another child and pretty much refuses to unless I agree to have another.
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